I FINALLY FIGURED MY LIFE OUT

[shaipanda]

So.. I'm going to be completely honest, and I would ask you to refrain from criticism... but I am expecting it.

 

I am really bad at taking care of myself. I have indentified this as the root of.. most of my anxoety problems and depression. I put all my faith in others, and.. that makes it really easy for me to get knocked down.

I'm not entirely sure why I don't feel like taking care of myself is worth the effort, and I don't know why things suddenly clicked.

I use the internet to find stranger to deal with my problems for me.

 

If I am having a panic attack, I just let it get worse and worse until I find someone willing to talk to me. It is only when they start trying to help that I start helping myself calm down.

I recently realized how stupid that is.. all the pain I could avoid by just helping myself right away.

 

I also struggle with my weight. Much of family is obese, and I am actually the one who is the closest to being.. average sized? I always feel whenever I try to lose weight that my family doesn't support me. They have all a many years to come to terms with their weight, and they are completely fine with it.

I am not.

I posted about this a while ago, and was initially upset with the responses. No pity at all? When I went back later and read them again.. I realized that feeling sorry for myself has never gotten me anywhere. If I want to change who I am, Then I have to get up and work for it. With the advice given to me, I have the tools to be who I want.

 

Today was the beginning. When I got up, a wrote the word SUGAR on my hand and crossed it out. For breakfast I chose whole wheat bread and put butter instead of peanut butter on my toast, because butter has less sugar in it. When at the store, I bought fruit to snack on instead of my regular chips. When my brother came over for the evening, I gave him all my icecream. Finally.. I brushed my teeth. I can openly admit, I only brush my teeth about once a week. That ends today. I took my usual shower and for the first time in a long time I actually used the lotions and salt scrubs and things I have.

 

Today was easy.. but I know its going to be tough.. and I appreciate any and all advice you guys can give me.

 

Sincerely,

Panda

[Pinkegobox]

That looks like a great first step on the path Panda. I know very well that the path won't airways be easy and there's times were it's going to be easier to stay from it.

 

What personally helps me keep on it is not the overall goal or where I've come from. It's getting enjoyment out of it. It took me a couple of months to start having fun with regular exercise and healthy eating. I did not always see results as I would liked to have either. Sometimes it felt like the was no progress at all but as soon as I stopped thinking about the goal and just enjoyed making this a part of my everyday life, I didn't put stress out about it.

 

I hope that brings you some positive as nothing happens overnight but if you enjoy what you do and make it a lifestyle then I find it easier to keep going through the bad days and really love the good ones.

 

Wishing you the best on your journey!

[Kaiser]

Usually takes 21 days to form a habit. So, if you can power through those, you've got it. Plenty of us here workout/exercise, and have eating habits that go along with that. Ever need advice, just ask.

 

And did I read you right in that you were essentially shamed for not beg obese? And on here? If true, wow. Just wow.

[shaipanda]

Usually takes 21 days to form a habit. So, if you can power through those, you've got it. Plenty of us here workout/exercise, and have eating habits that go along with that. Ever need advice, just ask.

 

And did I read you right in that you were essentially shamed for not beg obese? And on here? If true, wow. Just wow.

I wasn't shamed on here at all. I was looking for pity.. and I got a whole lot of " Suck it up and do something about it"

[Guest Kerjin]

So.. I'm going to be completely honest, and I would ask you to refrain from criticism... but I am expecting it.

 

 ---SNIP---

 

Today was easy.. but I know its going to be tough.. and I appreciate any and all advice you guys can give me.

 

Sincerely,

Panda

 

Panda, I for one, am proud of you. Your path is a hard one, and I know with perseverance and a "suck it up, buttercup (grin) attitude", you can do this.

[Guest bunnybear11]

Good luck w all of it, something that I think can really help is to follow instagram accounts that post health tips, and alternatives to unhealthy foods, also looking at other people's progress (before n after pics) can be motivational.

 

My mom is a nutritionist and something she always says is, if you're on a diet, instead of being super strict with it and then ruining it all in one weekend, eat a few cheat meals, like once or twice a week (but small ones), so there's a lesser change you'll give up on the diet.

 

Also brushing your teeth more might be a good idea.

[humanmusic]

 

I am really bad at taking care of myself.

 

 

I think you should allow someone else to take care of you and teach you how to take care of yourself...your post made me sad BUT I have faith that your life will improve immensely for the better