Advice needed for complicated relationship

[Little Tate]

I need major advice. I’m in a loving relationship with my boyfriend for a while now. We are very close and tell each other everything. Recently I gathered the courage to tell him about my littlespace. He was very accepting and wanted to try it out. So for a while he became my daddy. We’re both new to this but it was loving, fun and safe. But the last couple of weeks I’ve been staying out of littlespace. We’ve talked a lot and it turns out he can’t handle it. He used to like it but lately something switched and now he can’t deal with it. As soon as I slip into littlespace he freaks out. We both have anxiety and depression; along with other issues. I love him so much but this is a healthy coping mechanism for me and he can’t provide. I don’t want to leave him. What do I do? We don’t know if he’ll ever be able to be my daddy again...

[Guest Mossy]

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Edited September 13, 2018 by Mossy

[Guest Appacheian]

Falling in love in a vanilla relationship is different to DDLG . You are not alone in this. You have two sides to you and that’s fine. The vanilla world and your Little world. It doesn’t mean they are compatible. You want your vanilla love to be your daddy and wouldn’t it be perfect if that happened. He has tried and it’s not who he really is. That leaves you making hard choices.

[Guest Loki]

Ask him if it’s okay for you to have a babysitter. There a Caregiver without the relationship part. Or ask if he’s willing to let you find a daddy, since this is a health issue.

 

-Loki

[Koala]

I think you still have answers to find before you can make a decision! Why is he like this? Does he know? Can you guess? I know that my anxiety affects my ability to fall into LS, and I know some daddies have a hard time caring for someone else when they can't care for themselves. If it can be helped, then maybe that's something you can work on. If not, explore alternative ways to get your little fix or, if you really need your partner to be a full-time Daddy, then maybe part ways. These things are never easy, so I wish you luck! But remember: communicate, always. 

[Untwisted]

Are you not able to get into little space without a daddy? (that's just a question, not saying you should or shouldn't be able to).

If sounds like you had discovered your little space before letting him in on it. Could you rewind to that point where it's something you do on your own that he feels no pressure to be taking part in?  Over time he could maybe get more involved again at his own pace.