Completely new to the scene

[Guest Ukasianguy]

• Hi everyone, hope you all enjoying your evening

Now where to start. I guess from the beginning would be a good place.

 

As you can tell from my name, i am an Asian man (Southeast Asian) born and raised in the Uk. I always knew there was something slightly different about me from my early 20's but could never put my finger on what it was. I lead a "normal" life but i did not feel fulfilled mentally or spiritually. I have had relationships but they never felt complete. After years i one day started to look into things why i felt like this and i came across the ddlg community. The more i read into it, the more things made sense. It really did feel like a light bulb moment.

 

Now where i am from, i know there is nothing at all in the way of a ddlg community. It is something that has never been expressed by anyone or any interest shown at all. I'm assuming at this point that the Uk community is much smaller than say the US community. I am completely new to this and would not know where to begin. I would like to explore this further and one day hopefully meet a little who will accept me fully as myself. Due to my upbringing, a certain level of discretion is needed and in effect we would be leading 2 lives. A public life and a private life.

 

My question is where would i even begin? How would someone who is completely new to this meet like minded people and hopefully a future little to enrich each others lives? Its only by pure chance i came across this forum and i feel lucky i can express myself here and hopefully get some valuable feedback from experienced members of this community. Thank you everyone for taking the time to read this

[xBabydollx]

I know tons of ppl in the UK who are into this lifestyle. It helps to make friends online as u never know who u may meet. This site even have a friends section if u are interested. Idk if u are open to ldr or strictly local, but there is a personals section here too where ppl post about what they are looking for. I would suggest a site called fetlife as u can specifically find ppl in ur area and find out about local events (where u can meet like minded ppl in person). Since u are so new, I would advise finding ur self vs finding a partner. Make friends and do research. Learn as much as u can about DD/lg and ur wants, needs, expectations, limits etc. When u do finally find someone u will be better equipped. Just my opinion tho.

[Guest Ukasianguy]

I know tons of ppl in the UK who are into this lifestyle. It helps to make friends online as u never know who u may meet. This site even have a friends section if u are interested. Idk if u are open to ldr or strictly local, but there is a personals section here too where ppl post about what they are looking for. I would suggest a site called fetlife as u can specifically find ppl in ur area and find out about local events (where u can meet like minded ppl in person). Since u are so new, I would advise finding ur self vs finding a partner. Make friends and do research. Learn as much as u can about DD/lg and ur wants, needs, expectations, limits etc. When u do finally find someone u will be better equipped. Just my opinion tho.

 

 

Thank you so much for your advice. Theres alot i still need to learn and you are so right about having to find myself first before anything else. I have wrestled with myself for some time about if this was what has been missing from my life. I have tried to push my "daddy" feelings and my urge to nurture away and bury them deep but each time the feelings come back 10 times stronger. This is absolutely not something i can discuss with family or friends in the slightest. I felt so alone even though i am surrounded by people. Thats why i was so happy to find this forum and now can reach out to this community 

[xBabydollx]

I completely understand. Most ppl keep this between themselves and their partner, or likeminded ppl. It helps to have ppl to ask questions, get advice, or just relate to so im glad u found this forum. Lots of ppl here are willing to help or lend an ear. Just take things ppl tell u with a grain of salt, and if nothing else, know that there is no "one true way" to live this lifestyle/kink (not everyone lives this as a lifestyle).

[Guest Looby-Lou]

Welcome to the forum, and I hope you enjoy exploring your inner Daddyness!

There is a ton of information on this website, with valuable insights that might help you to understand yourself better. Do take your time to browse around, see what resonates with you, what confuses you, and what downright turns you off or scares you.  

 

And it is VERY true that there's no one way or "right" way to be a Daddy or a little. 

However you feel about things, and whatever you enjoy, it's OK (so long as it's "safe, sane & consensual")

 

So far as leading what you call leading 2 lives, I really wouldn't worry about it.  There are lots of people who need to keep quiet about kink things in areas of their family/private life, at work etc. You just need to find what works for you. And for your partner, when you have one (and I also 2nd the advice that it's best not to rush into a DDlg relationship).

Edited July 14, 2018 by Looby-Lou

[Guest Ukasianguy]

Welcome to the forum, and I hope you enjoy exploring your inner Daddyness!

There is a ton of information on this website, with valuable insights that might help you to understand yourself better. Do take your time to browse around, see what resonates with you, what confuses you, and what downright turns you off or scares you.  

 

And it is VERY true that there's no one way or "right" way to be a Daddy or a little. 

However you feel about things, and whatever you enjoy, it's OK (so long as it's "safe, sane & consensual")

 

So far as leading what you call leading 2 lives, I really wouldn't worry about it.  There are lots of people who need to keep quiet about kink things in areas of their family/private life, at work etc. You just need to find what works for you. And for your partner, when you have one (and I 2nd the advice that it's best not to rush into a DDlg relationship).

 

 

Hi thank you for your advice too, its very informative. I am new to this scene but feel like this is what has been missing from my life. I have felt this way for alot of years but never knew there was a name for what i liked. Does that make sense in some way lol. I'm enjoying exploring and learning about this side of my personallity and cannot wait to be a daddy to a little, in due time of course lol