Interracial DDlg

[DaddyKane]

Interracial DDLg:

 

Do they exist? Are they successful? Any success stories? What challenges or fears are there? What helps or causes reservations in pursuing such?

[TheDaddyest]

I don't think race is a big part of this and people date who they like regardless of skin color. So yes they exist. And yes, some are sucessful like all relationships. I don't think there are any challenges or fears it's not 1950s America under the Mason Dixon line. Most people just want an attractive partner. Someone obsessed with race isn't usually attractive. At least in my opinion. 

[Guest Arc]

Of course they exist. They can be successful if it works out that way, just like in any relationship. Any challenges or fears belong to the individuals - some people may have no challenges or fears and some might create them for themselves. 

 

I personally don't care about race and I imagine a lot of others would be the same. It's the person themselves that matters. How they act and look, and the attraction to them. Not their race. 

[bigchocolatedaddy]

Disagree with certain parts of the above comment. 

 

Race does play a part for certain people. Some people do not feel comfortable or attracted to people of another race and that's their preference. I personally am a dark skinned, brown guy and the majority of my relationships have been with white girls, ddlg and vanilla.

 

I will tell you that there are people out there who discriminate against me personally or my partner because of my dark skin. That has been occuring for most of my adult life, through no fault of my own. The majority of people I know treat me fairly and honestly, but that's also because they know me. The amount of times that I've seen people just stare at me or a multitude of other actions that they would not otherwise do if I was white is quite high, especially since Trump became president. 

 

I have had many good relationships and many bad ones, however, race is usually not the issue that causes us to seperate or cause havoc in the relationship. If someone didn't like that I was dark skinned, then they wouldn't get into a relationship with me in the first place. So to answer all of your questions: they do exist, they can be successful depending upon those involved, plenty of success stories here, challenges and fears all stem from the ignorance of others who are racist and would discriminate against us but are relatively similar to living every day life as a person of color, and lastly, I would never restrict myself from attempting to be in a relationship because of race. If it were a problem with them, they would bring that up upon seeing what you look like most likely

[xBabydollx]

All of mine was interracial, and I've come across others in interracial dynamics as well. They definitely exist and can be as prosperous as anything else. The only challenges I'm aware of is that most are looking for a pale princess, or a white Daddy...so if u are looking for the latter then it can be harder to find. It's not so likely to come across an Asian/black/Hispanic etc little or Daddy but they are out there. The other challenge is that race can be fetishzied and I have learned of those who do race play (where one race is superior and the other is inferior) which ppl happily consent to, but some ppl fear being fetishized by the opposite race. That's all I can think of. There is generally nothing to worry about tho. Lots of interacial DD/lg couples out there and they are doing just fine. If its something u desire then go for it, and approach the prospect like u would anything else. There aren't any real differences.

[DustBunny93]

I personally don't care about race/color. I will love my man for who he is no matter what. I'm attracted to men of all color. You can be a purple alien and if you treat me right I won't even care what color you are. Hehe sorry I'm just being silly.

But no honestly, a lot of people don't care about race and stuff like that. Anyone I know just wants to be treated right.

[neko]

I... For the life of me... cannot understand where this idea came from AND how race could possibly dictate whether the relationship works or not???

[TheDaddyest]

I... For the life of me... cannot understand where this idea came from AND how race could possibly dictate whether the relationship works or not???

 

Some people can be overly obsessed with it. 

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

It can certainly make relationships more complicated, but not necessarily in terms of kink. Race can put societal and/or cultural pressures and expectations on couples, regardless of their own feelings about it.

 

Edit for clarity: Added "necessarily" cuz I definitely didn't mean to say kink and race never intersect.

Edited July 13, 2018 by aphroditelaughs

[xBabydollx]

If for example u are a black Daddy who have a preference for white littles...but yet u never see these sort of couples around, then yes I think its very valid to ask if they even exist and are they successful within this dynamic. On another note, so many ask can they even be a little or a Daddy if they aren't a certian race. When ppl rarely or never see representation of themselves or their preferences then one can wonder....am I the only one? Is it even a thing that exist? If anything its sad that ppl have to ask these questions at all because everything exists to be frank, but I can understand why ppl ask about something they may never come across/hear about. Edited July 13, 2018 by xBabydollx

[princessfreckles]

To a certain extent the same challenges do arise in an interracial DDlg dynamic just like in a vanilla one. Sadly a lot of the influences are outside of the couple, as in what will families and friends think, current events, etc. I'm a black little, and the two Daddies I've had were white (due to personal reasons, I have a preference of a white Daddy, but I'm open to Asian and other races outside of my own). So yes, there are interracial couples in the kink community, specifically DDlg. While things didn't work out with either Daddy, I can confidently say that race wasn't why. 

 

Personally the thing I've had to deal with and make clear from the beginning with white daddies a particular hard limit of race play. I've met some who see me as just a black submissive and assume that I'm into being called racial slurs and what not in the context of role playing, that is not the case. I'm 100% a middle, and my race plays no role in how I behave while in middle space. More over, there is more to me than just being a little, and there is more to me than being black. The latter definitely shapes who I am because of some good and bad experiences, however it's not the end all be all to my personality. 

 

 

Definitely keep an open mind and heart when it comes to looking for a little, no matter what her race is. 

[Guest Kerjin]

I am part of a loving DD/lg relationship. At the current time, it is an LDR, though plans are being out in motion to relocate and be together. We actually met here and hit it off. The signature I use was what first drew her to me and she sent me a message. We started talking, then texting, the Skyping and so on. One thing led to another and she became my little girl. It's a beautiful feeling, for me, to know that she trusts me enough to be herself with me, to allow me to see the side of her that she keeps away from everyone else. I love her more than I ever thought I could love one person and I am grateful that she picked me to be her Daddy. Hell, downright honored.

 

By the way, I'm light skinned, she's dark skinned and it matters not to either of us. Skin color means nothing. I fell in love with her and she with me. 

 

tl;dr - Yes there are interracial couples in the DD/lg world. I'm a part of one, though to be honest, I don't see it that way. I see it as a couple that is in love. And I'm not naive, I know that others will see the difference in our skin and judge us. But, I really don't care.

Edited July 13, 2018 by Kerjin

[Frog]

If the people in the relationship don't care about race, then there are no problems. Just different levels of melanin.

 

If one person has had issues with race in the past, then it can be a hurdle. Example: someone was raised in a racist household but doesn't agree with family.

 

If one person prefers a race or races, then there aren't really problems. I've had a white friend who preferred black girls only, a black friend who preferred only white or Hispanic girls, and a Nigerian friend of mine loved my pale skin (even though I'm mixed race, I have pale skin).

 

So interracial couples exist in cg/l just as they do in the rest of the world. I think when we can overlook outside influences and concentrate on the love, then we'll be fine. Or if it's just for jollies, that's fine, too. Yes, culture and history can be issues, but let's be honest: A relationship is still dependent on communication, so if they discuss it then they can be fine.

 

In the end, we're humans and most are looking for love.

[krystalfox]

I've never had a long-term solid DDlg relationship, but I've had some LDR short lived stuff and because I live in a place where BDSM is not really a thing and DDlg is pretty much nonexistent here, my only option was to go for LDR obviously with guys from North Europe and North America. I've had a french daddy, a british daddy, a spanish and one from the US. So, speaking from my experience I don't think race matters, at least not to me and it didn't matter at all to my former partners, but could be difficult sometimes to cope with or a barrier of some sort are the cultural differences, but that's something you'll face in any type of interracial relationship, vanilla or not. 

[Guest Mossy]

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Edited September 13, 2018 by Mossy

[Guest Kerjin]

If the people in the relationship don't care about race, then there are no problems. Just different levels of melanin.

 

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In the end, we're humans and most are looking for love.

 

I love that line, I say it all the time. "In the end, we are humans. All most of us are wanting is to be loved."

[Guest Mossy]

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Edited September 13, 2018 by Mossy

[xBabydollx]

It's great that u found the one! And yeah some ppl have strict preferences, even ones centered on race (which is fine). Not everyone is willing to date any and every race. The personals section is a true tell-tale of that. So while many ppl don't care about the race of their partner, there are definitely ppl who do/have preferences and there is nothing wrong with that, but it can make finding someone more difficult.

[Guest Ukasianguy]

Speaking as someone who is new to the scene, personally speaking, it should not matter. The way i see it, that aspect is not even registered if 2 people are in love with each other or they are suited for one another. Of course personal preferences will come into regarding what you may be looking for from your daddy/little but i dont think race would be one of them. I'm not white myself and its not been a concern in my vanilla relationships and i dont expect it to be in a ddlg relationship