A little in a vanilla relationship

[Brattyprincess]

I just recently started dating this new guy in the past 3 months... Im a little but when i told him about it, it was like in one ear and out the other. About all i get is called "princess" occasionally. Any advice on this? Do i keep it vanilla? Do i keep being myself even when im in little space? Im pretty lost. (Not to mention he is more of a pillow princess in bed than i am)

 

I have not been in a vanilla relationship in almost 5 years

[Guest SUeB]

Easy answer....if you need more than purely vanilla, then don't settle for less. If you're happy with the relationship, then stay. There's no "yes or no" answer. What's more important to you, ddlg or your current bf? In most cases, it really is a case of having to choose. Sure, some people can gradually develop into certain roles, but it's pretty rare for it to be genuine. And is this relationship worth the effort?

[Brattyprincess]

Thats definitely a tough one for me to fugure out. Im sure after more time has passed, ill know for sure.

[Soph<3]

I think that you should just try to sit down and talk to him, tell him what you need in a relationship. This guy could be into it, or he could just be vanilla. And there is nothing wrong with that. It is not meant to be if you want different things. If you want a DD and he doesn't want to be one, it might be best to cut ties before it goes any further. I hope it all works out!

[TenderLovingDaddyMichigan]

I agree with Soph. Maybe he doesn't understand what it would entail to share this dynamic with you. Before I learned a little bit--on this and other sites--about littles/baby girls, I had some experience with the middle/adult teen/Lolita dynamic, but assumed that there would be no sexual aspect in a relationship with a regressed little/baby girl. If you are sexual when regressed, then explaining and showing him how this works might very well get him interested. He probably has no idea that bath time, getting dressed, playtime, cuddling in his lap, brushing your hair, or spankings could actually be foreplay. Sorry, but a man is a man. If he understands that a little girl can be sexy when regressed, he just might get on board! 

 

(I'm curious about exactly how he is a "pillow princess.")

 

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[Guest softheartbruisedknees]

I think he might not understand entirely what you're looking for. My partner didn't know what to think when I first told him about DD/lg! 

 

My advice is to ease him into it if he's been vanilla until you. It can be overwhelming for someone who's never considered BDSM to jump into DD/lg.

 

What helped me was not waiting for him to take the lead. I know it can be frustrating, but don't expect him to "get it" after one conversation. Start with one rule that you come up with together to make it meaningful.

 

Be encouraging, and express how much you like it    After a week or two, talk about it and see how you guys feel about adding another rule or incorporating more of a D/s dynamic. Over time, he'll get the hang of it if he's into it, and it will develop more naturally. 

 

Showing someone DD/lg can be fun! 

Edited July 12, 2018 by softheartbruisedknees

[Brattyprincess]

Oh boy. Im so scared. But like i said, only time will tell. Theres always that fear of being judged... And that would be almost humiliating.

[xBabydollx]

I suggest talking to him about it more. Let him know what it is and what it means to u. Tell him what u like about it and what u expect. I wouldn't mention any titles to start, as some hear "Daddy" and get completely turned off by the idea. Describe the roles themselves, and not so much the names. Just gauge his interest. Go into the conversation with 0 expectations tho. If he isn't interested in trying it, or even learning more about it, then u must respect his wishes. Some ppl try to force it on their partners with hopes that they'll magically become their Daddy down the line, but if it isn't something they truly enjoy, then it won't work out. DD/lg requires the consent of both ppl and some ppl just have 0 interest in it. It's possible he may be willing to compromise with u on some things as well. If it turns out he is strictly vanilla, then u can do 'little' things on ur own without involving him (don't try to involve him if he tells u he doesn't like this, as it will likely make up him upset/resent u). If that isn't enough for u,to be little on ur own with a vanilla partner, then the only option would be to walk away (this being if he doesn't want DD/lg). Some ppl have to choose what is most important to them.