Newbie, need help

[charwlie]

[Guest depth_of_field_ddlg]

You're whatever the fuck you want. Want to be a "middle", but spoon-fed in a high chair? Go for it. Adding labels can be helpful to start, can help add structure and help you find new things to do, but there isn't really a "right" or "wrong" way to be a little/middle. Where you fit may change, but the key is to try and experiment and come up with your OWN list of things you like/dislike. Which is already what you've done. "I'm a middle that wants to make it to the toilet on my own and want to get bathed". 

 

Find what *you* like, be honest with a CG, and remember that you're not obligated to do anything you don't wanna do. 

[charwlie]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. You’re golden

[krystalfox]

I know lots of newbies have that kind of trouble, about not fitting in and keep constantly questioning yourself about ''what kind of little I am?'' or ''am I little or a middle?'' 

I'm still new to this myself but guess what? You can be both. The best thing about this for me is the freedom of being whatever the fuck you want to be and that's magical imo LMAO. 

Every little is different, every caregiver is different and no one here and can tell you what you are or how you should behave because there's no such thing as a guideline or textbook telling how littles or middles are supposed to be. And don't be afraid of ''not fitting in'' or being different than your standard little because you are unique. We all are, in our own small ways. 

Hope this helps. Good luck!

[kisforkitten]

I agree 100% that you are whatever the fuck you want to be! And should be comfortable to do whatever that may be. Speaking as a relatively new little, I think it might help to add that sometime's you feel a little lost because you don't know your little well enough yet. It may take some times to figure out the things that make you little happy/ little sad. It may take some time to figure out the details. It's like growing up, in reverse! When you're a kid you don't know enough about yourself and you slowly form that adult identity along the way. Same thing for being a little. You're so used to being an adult, you don't know what being little looks like for you. So be patient with yourself, trust your instincts. Do what feels good. And learn a little every day. With every new experience you will understand more about your little side and in my mind your big side too. All the best on your journey into little/middle land! 

 

~*~kitten~*~