I can't control my anxiety

[Little-one-xo]

I know there are other littles who, too, have anxiety, but mine has been way higher lately. I've been having panic attacks more often, and going out into public scares me, having to interact with people, I can't do the pushing or the shoving, or accidentally bumping into someone. By the time I get home at the end of the day I'm exhausted and shaken up. I feel out of place when I'm in the public and like every angry person is angry at me, or just hate me, or judge me... 

I know this is quite ridiculous and I hate myself for feeling this way. I feel stupid and childish. Are there any littles who know how to cope with their anxiety?

[Guest Dulci]

Firstly, try not to hate yourself. It happens to each one of us in our lives. 

 

I suffered previously with panic attacks and depression. I'd get to my desk at work, burst into tears. Some days leaving the house just was not possible - I had so many sick days and kept having meetings with HR and well, it was all a mess and it just kept getting worse. Panic attacks are the scariest things ever, I still have the odd day where it creeps up on me, but I think it's learning your triggers and admitting to yourself "you know what, I feel crap today", I let myself feel crap for a day then pick myself up. I find that helps me! 

 

All I can really say is there is hope if you want there to be hope. You've got to want to get better! Once you've admitted that you've done the first step. There are techniques you can use to help such as grounding, they get your breathing better and really help! But, it's a slow process, it won't happen over night. 

 

Secondly, seek professional help. I see you're also from the UK, so I'd suggest avoid the NHS as they were useless in my experience. But, I did seek a therapist and would always highly suggest someone to do the same. She also looked at my diet, which changing that helped an awful lot as well (eating crap will make you feel like crap). But, NHS can always put you on a waiting list, I'm just sure it takes so much longer ! 

 

Thirdly, you've got this!! You will defeat this horrible demon it will just take time. 

[Little-one-xo]

Thank you so much! I will really try and take steps to make it better. Therapy doesn't work for me, though. I've been to therapy twice during high school and I feel that it doesn't help. I feel uncomfortable, and that they kinda tell me things I've heard before, seen before, etc. Situations never really improved and I felt just as exhausted dealing with a therapist as I do going outside. But the worst for me is the blackness. Do you know what I'm talking about? I want to think so hard of something to do or say but there aren't any words or thoughts in my head, it all goes black, and it's so smothering and scary, because my thoughts are just gone. How do I stop that blackness?

Edited July 10, 2018 by Little-one-xo

[Quirkygrl16]

I honestly think it takes talking to different therapist to find a good fit. It may take 2 or 10,but sometimes you just dont gel with someone. I have been feeling so depressed lately I get to work and just want to cry..

[Guest Dulci]

Yeah, I've been through SO many different ones. It honestly takes time. 

[Quirkygrl16]

Yeah, I've been through SO many different ones. It honestly takes time.

same. It's taken me so long to find one who gets me

[Little-one-xo]

Well thank you! I'm gonna try and make it work! Thanks for all the help! I really appreciate it!

[Gloomy_cub]

My therapist told me that stress toys help, maybe you should get a cute squishy and squeeze real tight when anxiety spikes.

 

Hope that helps<3

[Little-one-xo]

That does help a lot actually, thank you!

[Guest ♡jinxy♡]

I'll try not to make this long, but I can't promise! 

 

I understand the whole anxiety flaring up and it seems like the world is ending. I felt that way all last year/summer. I couldn't leave the house or walk into stores without having an attack. Even today, I'm still limited on the stores I can go into without having one. I wasn't even able to drive myself from college back home, so my parents had to come get me every weekend and take me back. I couldn't drive without feeling scared because someone is flying past me doing way over the speed limit. I've been driving for over 4 years now and I'm used to all of it, but at the time my body couldn't understand the fact that nobody wanted to do the speed limit. 

 

I do understand it takes a toll on you, I feel the exact same way. Even today I still get these attacks if I'm in a new place or out of my daily routine I have for myself. I still have those days, even in chat, where I feel like I annoy everyone and I have to leave the chat. It's not easy, but I slowly have to work my way back up. What I personally do is take a step away from the outside world (social media, forum, etc.) and I do what I know will help me calm down, gaming. It's one of my many things that help my mind wander and get lost, so I don't have to think of if someone doesn't like me or hate me, I even feel that way with IRL friends and family when it gets too over bearing. I know it's just my anxiety trying to get the better of me and trying to rule my life. 

 

I understand this is all over the place, but I was trying to give some insight with what I do when mine is flaring up. I don't see a therapist nor take meds, just because I'm weird and certain things freak me out about how they interact with people. I also have depression, so between that and the anxiety it's another ride. What I told a friend of mine from the forum was to have a support system that talks to you or that you can go to while having these, or something that makes your mind wander and to get it to stop freaking out. 

 

Again, sorry it was so long, but I hope this can help a little bit  

[Little-one-xo]

Thank you so much. I feel quite the same with shops and busy centres, so I am gonna work on finding something to distract myself! I really appreciate it and stay strong to all of you! you guys are awesome