I Hurt Daddy's Feelings..

[Baby Bear]

Let's face it... The life as a little is wonderful! But sometimes we mess up.. That's what I did.. And my daddy is really hurt. We are in a complete monogamous relationship and we are everything to each other.

 

I'm going to be blunt and state that I pretty much looked up dirty things without Daddy's permission... About two days of pure guilt passed.. I cried and tried to tell myself it was no big deal but I just had to confess to my daddy... When I did, he said he wasn't sad or angry, and thanked me for admitting to him. He said he kind of expected it and that's why he wasn't upset.

 

He told me it stung a little bit and now he's being distant. (We don't live together) We fall asleep on the phone each night... After I told him he got quiet and said he just needed time to think... I don't want my daddy to think I'll do it again. When I said I promised t never do it again he told me not to make promises like that..

 

Is there anything I can say to him to maybe make it better..? Or anything that I can do to make myself feel better..? I feel terrible for what I've done and don't want our relationship to be ruined.. Thank you for any answers!

[LB Chris]

Do you know why you did this? It might help to think a bit about that and let him know without making any sudden promises, explaining how you feel about having done that and you'd like to put the matter a right.

[LilSubbi]

You said he told you he expected it. Why is that?

Is it something you were perhaps discussing the day prior, or an act that caught your interest and you're curious to try? (Assuming it's something sexually related).

 

If you had a reason for this (other than having tingly princess parts), I don't think it was unreasonable of you to look it up. Hope I'm not being a bad little for saying that.

[Baby Bear]

He said it was just patterns he picked up from people. I don't really understand that part. But now I feel like I'm just someone he expects to do that now. I didn't do it for any reason in particular.. I'm not too sure why I did it and now that I think about it, I feel so dumb. All I did it for was to get a little bit of enjoyment and it was selfish of me.. Thank you for the advice :^(

[Guest Sae]

Don't feel bad. He needs to communicate with you as well. Giving each other distance isn't good. Also porn shouldn't make him feel bad. Its not cheating if you watch porn.  Just like its not cheating to have sexual dreams. i can understand maybe he would have rather you shared what you wanted to watch porn when you watched it. But still. Your a human you have needs just like his does.

 

Talk to him and get him to explain why he thinks his reaction is or was okay. And I'm sorry about the way its made you feel.

[The Perennial Princess]

I am very sensitive and strive to be the best I can be so I often perceive a thousand little wrongs I've committed that my papa bear almost never agrees with. It can be hard to reconcile with yourself when you've made a mistake and know that your loved one deserves better. I often say to myself, "Don't say you will be better,just  be." That mantra always helps me because an apology is worthless compared to proactively moving ahead. Communicate with him, convey your sincerity, and share your respective faults in the matter. In the meantime, I would do something to make him feel special, and loved. Buy him those boxers he needs, make him a card, write him a poem, sing him a silly song. Put a smile on his face since it is momentarily lost. That will make both of you feel infinitely better.