Little with depression

[cutiepie002]

Hey guys,

I feel so bad. I'm into ddlg for 2 years and I have never had a real daddy. It's because of my depression and because I'm really antisocial. I'm scared of people and it's hard for me to make friends even online. It makes me only more depressed. I feel like I will never find anybody. I hate myself. How can daddy love me when I don't love myself?

Maybe someone has the same problem? Or someone wants to talk to me?

PS- sorry for my english

Kisses,

Kam

[Little_j. Nelly]

Hi Kam, welcome , I never had a real daddy either .Sorry to hear  about how  your feeling .I can be your friend if you want .

[Guest Arc]

For someone who's scared of people I think you've done an awesome job making your post.

 

I felt the same way for a long time. That I'd never have a relationship and I'd never have someone who loved me because of how I was. But that's because things like depression give you thoughts that aren't logical and you need to realise that. It is possible and will happen when you find the right person. Just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it won't so never give up ^^

 

You could try posting in our friend zone or take a look in the chat room to find some friends. We have lots of friendly and welcoming members. Good luck!  

[Padded onii-chan]

some littles become littles for the regression side to help with dipprestion so i can get were your coming from so my advice if you want a daddy find one

[LittleLeigh]

Self-love is a very long and hard road for some. It took me so long to see what I was worth and to be who I am today. No one can fix you except yourself. This is important to realize. But people can help you fix yourself by supporting you. Don’t go searching for a partner to fix you, to be your only source of happiness, or to shift your burdens to. I have not only done this but experienced it. It puts such a strain on a relationship. Be honest about your problems and how they affect you, making it clear you aren’t simply seeking a cure, but someone to stand by your side. And do not fall prey to any awful people who would just use you for gain. There are people who pray on the giving and loving nature of littles to satisfy their egos as well as other things.

You are already brave for acknowledging your issues and reaching out.

[CaresAlot]

One of the things that people tend to do is focus on the negative things in life.  When you do that, it becomes a self fulfilling prophesy.  I recently listened to an Admiral and long story short is that making your bed each day first thing in the morning is a key to success.  The reason being is that right at the start of the day you accomplished something.  You accomplish one thing you can do more.

Same thing with seeing yourself in a positive light.  Write down those things that you accomplish each day.  Made my bed and made a friend.  Cleaned the bathroom.  Cooked myself a real dinner.  Each day look to see if you can break your record of things accomplished.  You are not as bad as you think you are.  I think making friends is a major step and the friends in here can be awesome because they know parts of you that not many will.  That human contact makes life fun.  Instead of that downward spiral you can start looking up. 

Chat can be a scary place when you first go in there.  Lots of people know each other, but most of them are incredibly helpful.  If you say that you are new and shy and that you hope you have come to the right place they will help.  Almost no questions that are not willing to give their thoughts on.

Go work on getting comfortable with you, figure out what your expectations are in a relationship    Then you are ready to go shopping for guys that could be your Daddy.  Not everything happens in a day, a week or a year, but keep after it and you will find what you are looking for?

[Quirkygrl16]

I also suffer from depression but I find going into little space really helps sometimes. I wish I could be super positive,but sometimes its ok to be sad

[roseyposey]

For me, I had to make myself happy first. I went to therapy, took the antidepressants, and then started to keep busy by taking up new hobbies. I also started taking care of myself physically by eating healthy. And I made sure my support system was strong- my parents, family and friends.

 

This all helped my work on my depression. My dominant and I stopped communicating while I worked on myself because at the end of the day, he's not a Savior. He's a good man, but it is my responsibility to take care of my mental health.

[ThePlushiePrincess]

I also have depression and I struggle with social situations. I promise you you aren't alone in that. You've done a good job so far reaching out and talking to people by posting this! 

[Kresaera]

Depression and anxiety are my 2 best friends. Or at least, they used to be. They each make an appearance every so often, but it's not as much as it used to be. I've been with my Daddy for 13 years. In the beginning, I was bitter, broken, and just a shell of a woman from past relationships and bad choices. I was well into my early 30s before I realized I'm worth it and I'm beautiful, even on days I don't feel like I am. My Daddy was always supportive, but I had to learn to love myself, flaws and all. Once I discovered little space and D/s, my life made sense.

 

Journaling is a big thing I do, as well as coloring and letting myself cry when I need to.

[Lilrij]

Hey guys,

I feel so bad. I'm into ddlg for 2 years and I have never had a real daddy. It's because of my depression and because I'm really antisocial. I'm scared of people and it's hard for me to make friends even online. It makes me only more depressed. I feel like I will never find anybody. I hate myself. How can daddy love me when I don't love myself?

Maybe someone has the same problem? Or someone wants to talk to me?

PS- sorry for my english

Kisses,

Kam

[Lilrij]

Hey cutie pie sori for your depression being alone can make especially littles scared shy ones extra sad but pls hold on heaven has a plan for you

[Guest Nocent]

Hey guys,

I feel so bad. I'm into ddlg for 2 years and I have never had a real daddy. It's because of my depression and because I'm really antisocial. I'm scared of people and it's hard for me to make friends even online. It makes me only more depressed. I feel like I will never find anybody. I hate myself. How can daddy love me when I don't love myself?

Maybe someone has the same problem? Or someone wants to talk to me?

PS- sorry for my english

Kisses,

Kam

The dynamic in a DDLG relationship believe it or not can help with depression, anxiety and several other mental disorders not only for the Little but also for the Daddy, remember Daddy needs you ass much as you need him.

 

Edited July 20, 2018 by Nocent

[Guest Nurse little]

Hi guys I’ve had depression for 3 years now most pollen don’t know it’s but ive been suffering because everyone kept telling me im not good enough And that I shoulda just stop but’s I pushed through I have t told anyone I’m depressed I live alone and pretty much just quarantine myself to my house Andy never go out I’m in college I go online and I have a daddy’s thunk he suspect it but if he doesn’t he doesn’t say anything about it soI’m hoping I can find someone can talk to

[The RealDaddyCat]

This is a very common problem in the lifestyle especially among Littles. Society doesn't often understand you or so they say a lot of times they're actually very envious of what you have. Remember you have the ability to escape to that special place where you can do whatever the little side of you wants. If you have a daddy open up to him if he's a true Daddy she will understand and help guide you through this time, this will also help you grow closer and it will help him learn what it is you need to make you happy.

 

Anybody ever has any questions feel free to ask me talk to someone else I am always willing to listen and remember you're not the only one who has whatever problem you think you have. I'm not taking away from what anybody feels like but just know you're not alone.

[Soulmatesearch]

I didn't read the replies.

 

Sorry you feel like that.

I think we all get it at one time or another.

 

Online can be horrible so soon as someone is negative. Just block them.

Try not to take it too seriously online as much as you want to find someone.

 

I'm the same and it can get demoralising.

I force myself to do postivie things for myself. Like plan my day in a way I will excerice. Go outside. Cycle etc... Just things that help our mental state.

 

I think things like that will help you.

 

Do you have Couchsurfing or meet up groups where you are.

Just meeting people to. Do. Thing with. Nothing to do with all this. That would be good too??