Online daddy

[Guest Baby_Kitty9818]

So,I just met a daddy online, and this is strange to me. I've never had someone to answer too and be responsible for me. I like it, but at the same time, part of me is saying "You can control your own life. You don't need a daddy."  I'm also afraid he"ll leave.... I've had experiences with it before. Has anyone else been through this?

[Guest Arc]

I think I went through something similar with my last Daddy. He wanted to give me rules and stuff and I really really hated the idea. I thought I was big enough and capable enough to do things like go to bed on time and always do my study. When he suggested rules I felt like he was telling me I was incompetent and not capable of taking care of myself and I was offended. But with time I realised he wasn't doing those things because he had to. He knew I was capable of anything but he cared enough to want to take care of me. 

 

You don't get a daddy because you can't do things, but you get one because you want one and they care and want to do those things too. You'll learn with time to accept these changes and they will become more natural. A daddy is responsible because they want to be and not because they need to be, and you allow them to be because you want to be a part of that dynamic. It's about wants rather than necessities.

 

If I were you I'd have a talk to the Daddy and just explain it's new to you to give up that control and you need some time to slowly adapt to the idea that someone wants to do all of these things for you. Hopefully he'll be understanding because it is a big change to suddenly be under someone else's care and guidance

[CaresAlot]

My number one saying is expectations and communications make or break a relationship.

That is why before you give somebody the title of Daddy, you need to communicate what your expectations are and he needs to do the same.  Every Little is different in what they need from a Daddy.  You get to decide what you are looking for as a Little.  There is no list of things that you have to do to be a Little.  Some Littles want and need rules; other Littles will say no way.  Just like some Littles need a pacie, stuffie and sippy cups; others will think that's not for me.

 

Finding out what those expectations are before you get too involved is a critical element.  If not one or both of you are going to be confused or disappointed with the relationship.  A vanilla relationship has a set of norms and both parties tend to know what to expect.  In the DD/LG dynamic there is no set of norms and it requires time and communication to determine what each parties expects from the relationship.  Sometimes it may require some compromise but at the end of the day, you have to determine what's right for you.  If you want to succeed, then take the time to learn about each other.  Be careful of somebody that comes in and tells you he is your Daddy when he knows nothing of you.

[Guest SUeB]

Nobody should be with someone to fill a personal need in that sense. i am completely capable of taking care of myself, and my kids, and my career, and my home, lol. Master is not there as my carer, or to take away my responsibility as a fully functioning adult. Yes, He claims certain responsibility of me, but not in place of my own for myself. We take care of each other in different ways, and in mutual ways too. As in emotionally, physically, and in the context of two people that are in love. The same way any couple ought to take care of each other. Ddlg should not be used to fix someone that can't deal with life. But sadly it seems that there are those that belive it is.

And plenty of us get afraid of being abandoned. It's pretty common. Just try not let those thoughts affect your relationship. Because they can.

[Kresaera]

I am capable of taking care of myself, my kids, etc. I know, in my mind, that I'm a fully functional adult and don't "need" Daddy to care for me, or make me abide by certain rules that he came up with, but I love it that he does. I choose to relinquish control over my life and I choose to hand him my responsibility and he shoulders it for both of us because he wants to. It helps my anxiety first and foremost, and 2nd it just feels good. It feels good to know that he loves me enough to fight my battles and be my protector.