TW ddlg, abuse, sex, mental health

[Guest lilprincess1703]

Hey!!!

 

So, I have recently been introduced to ddlg by my boyfriend/daddy who knew about and was involved in the dynamic in previous relationships. I had always shown little traits, an ex defined me as a brat, but after having it properly defined it feels so 'right'. Am so happy having little time and understanding what my little space actually is. Also LOVE having such a kind and caring partner AND daddy. 

 

Before I met my Daddy, I had just left a physically and emotionally abusive relationship, was battling my depression and anxiety and was generally a bit of a mess... I was well on the way to healing, but have found so much that ddlg has really helped me personally in terms of my mental health and also loving myself and trusting my partner. 

 

Feel like i have reclaimed by body and sexuality too, after such a tough time - even when practicing dom/sub stuff and some S&M which had previously been pretty triggering for me after the violence of my last relationship. 

 

Any other littles have a similar experience??? <3 

Edited June 23, 2018 by lilprincess1703

[Lola Step]

My experience is somewhat similar although the 'relationship' that damaged me was the one with my actual father, he is quite highly strung and boarderline abusive (verbally) sometimes so when I first got with my Daddy (boyfriend) anytime I would do anything bad even if it was spill a cup of water by accident I would immediately panic and burst into tears fearing he was going to yell at me like my father (this was even before I even considered making my boyfriend my Daddy so it's not like there was some correlation) he and I basically had to work on retraining my brain to not freak out and got into meltdown mode everytime I do something 'bad'and over time I've calmed down alot but each time there is still a spilt second of huge panic that he might yell even though he never has.

[earlybird]

I have a similiar experience too. Me and my ex was in a really bad place at many points and he didn't understand my needs or my depression at all, which made it really rough to live with, but after we broke up and I found my current boyfriend/daddy, it has been a ride of getting better mentally and the ddlg part of relationship has helped me to explore more about myself, becoming a little and try to heal. 

I'm happy to see that the ddlg community has helped others with depression/anxiety too. <3

[Guest QueenJellybean]

massive trigger warning ahead.

 

i am currently working through some trauma & abuse work with my therapist right now. 

i'm very lucky to have the support & love from my partners

& one of my biggest, biggest supports is my Caregiver partners; The Giant & Dollmaker. 

 

i have a very hard time with body image, self-esteem & guilt from my abusive relationships. 

there was a lot of sexual & physical abuse involved & i'm just now starting to wade through it.

even intimacy can be difficult for me. 

 

The Giant & Dollmaker both do their very best to make me feel loved & important. 

they remind me constantly that my worth is much more than what i believe. 

healing is a slow process, but being able to feel safe has always been paramount for me, & this dynamic does that for me. 

[Guest lilprincess1703]

Yeah it is 100% the feeling of safety 

 

So happy for you lovelies being on the road to healing x x x x 

[MadelynVictoria]

I was in a very turbulent, emotionally abusive relationship for about a year. To say it messed me up would be an understatement. It's affected every aspect of my life, and left me damaged. Being with my daddy is helping me get over it, and heal. He's so different from my ex, and so caring. I love him