The New “Trend”

[Guest Hooliigann]

At the end of the day, younger men on here are not causing a problem

He's right! It's the uneducated causing the problem; not younger men.

[ThePoet]

Toward the idea that there are younger caregivers with equal or greater experience than some underdeveloped older people, that is likely true - and of course, we're all individuals growing at our own pace - but I'm not sure that's the crux of the issue. It would be reasonable to make the argument that these same younger caregivers would only become more experienced and capable over the next ten or twenty years, right?

[I_AM_THE_SENATE]

Toward the idea that there are younger caregivers with equal or greater experience than some underdeveloped older people, that is likely true - and of course, we're all individuals growing at our own pace - but I'm not sure that's the crux of the issue. It would be reasonable to make the argument that these same younger caregivers would only become more experienced and capable over the next ten or twenty years, right?

This is likely true yes. It stands to reason that younger caregivers that are good at being caregivers will become better over time. They'll reach God tier over the next twenty years. 

My point is more that, lets say you were to rate it from 1-10, 1 being the best, people aged 20 could be a 3 and someone aged 30 could be a 6. There former could reach 1 over the next 20 years yes. All I'm saying is people develop differently yaknow? Some people will never reach beyond a 3 or something. It may have to do with their internal personality, their experiences or lack thereof. Who's to say? 

Exceptions exist with regard to this and we should never assume things about people based on our knowledge that they do.

Regardless of my ramblings, I do agree with you there.

Edited June 21, 2018 by I_AM_THE_SENATE

[PrincessKittenCupcake]

I would like to point out that online communities probably do attract a younger crowd and may not be indicative of trends in the community as a whole.

 

I think we also need to consider the fact that "Daddy" is a very vague term. I've screened a lot of potential Daddies, and no two agree on exactly what that title means.

 

The problem isn't that 18 year olds don't know what they want. Quite the contrary. I think most youngsters have total tunnel vision regarding their life/future. When I was 18, I had my whole life planned out. I knew EXACTLY what I wanted. Ten years later, my goals and desires are completely different. New experiences, getting to know new people, and being exposed to other ways of life led me to reevaluate what I wanted for my own life. A person can't possibly understand how young 18 is until it's behind them.

 

I'm not necessarily troubled by 18 year old Daddies, but I am curious as to what those relationships look like. I do wonder if they understand the weight or significance of this type of relationship.

[Untwisted]

Everyone has different needs and expectations.  If an 18 year old fulfils what someone needs as a daddy then I don't see a problem with that, if they don't, it's more about compatibility than age.

I'm 50 years old and I'll admit to raising an eyebrow sometimes when I see "experienced 18 year old daddy", but it doesn't bother me.  I was 18 once, I knew everything then, the main thing being that 50 year olds were born middle-aged and couldn't possibly understand

All I'll say is that life experience isn't just what you do yourself, it's what the rest of the world does around you.

[Silkyblacklace]

Thank you all for your replies and looks from the other side! Again, there are no hard feelings. All Love❤

[neworder]

if you mapped out problems with daddys with age difference, you would see more 'too immature' towards the low end, and 'can't relate to me' at the high end.

 

but of course, in a large age gap relationship, he can be too immature... and in a small age gap relationship, he can't relate to you. 

 

so no matter where you go, you trade one potential problem for another