Need Advise Please

[Guest Princess Lonewolf]

I've been thinking about looking for a new Daddy. My last two Daddy's didn't treat me well so I'm a little more...reserved, let's say. So, what I'm wondering is what type of questions have other Littles asked their Daddies before agreeing to be his Little. 

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

For me I naturally ask A LOT of questions but it's more about how well you connect with that person.

[Guest FluffyLittleLilac]

I ask questions like what they’re like as a daddy, why their previous relationship ended, what things they think they could work on to be a better Daddy to their next little, what their ideal littles little age is, whether they’re looking for a short or long term relationship, their interests to see if we have common interests, what music they enjoy listening to, sexuality, their personality, if they’re strictly monogamous etc.

 

I think one of the best ways to get to know someone you want to know better is to play two truths and a lie because it’s really fun and you get the opportunity to learn new things about each other!

[Bambi95]

Due to a range of things that happened me in the past, I had no trust in men. I was afraid of them. And I purposely made myself look unattractive so I wouldn't draw any attention from them.

 

However, 7 months ago I added this guy on the forum. You see this was a big step for me. I was the one to add him, not the other way around. There wasn't much on his profile, and he was friends with more littles than Daddies which usually throws me off. But something told me to add him after I read through what little was on his profile. And I found myself...anxious about whether or not he would add me. It was the strangest thing. I had expected nothing more than friendship from this guy and yet here I was nervous.

 

Hours later he came online and accepted. I was just in the middle of starting a conversation with him, when suddenly he had messaged me first. My heart was beating right against my chest and I couldn't understand why I felt this way.

 

I told him that I had issues trusting men but something about him just made me trust him instantly. He asked if I had any questions for him, and the first thing I asked was: what is your opinion on snails?

See, I have always been obsessed with snails - no idea why. But I always get laughed because of it. Naturally I expected him to laugh..but he didn't.

He gave me a full review of them. And in turn I gave him an 8.63/10 for his review.

 

After that.. we ended up speaking for the whole night into the morning despite us both having uni the next day. When we got home, we had our first Skype call.

It was after this night, we spoke for over 14 hours every day.

Not even a week later, I asked him to be my Daddy. Again, very unusual for me but something just felt right.

 

Fast forward 7 months, I have moved country and now live with that same man from that night. And I love him with all my heart.

 

My point is in all of this, anyone can ask generic questions and give the same answer they give every girl or guy. But if you're comfortable enough to ask a silly question or choose a topic that's close to your heart, you may just find the love of your life.

[krystalfox]

Due to a range of things that happened me in the past, I had no trust in men. I was afraid of them. And I purposely made myself look unattractive so I wouldn't draw any attention from them.

 

However, 7 months ago I added this guy on the forum. You see this was a big step for me. I was the one to add him, not the other way around. There wasn't much on his profile, and he was friends with more littles than Daddies which usually throws me off. But something told me to add him after I read through what little was on his profile. And I found myself...anxious about whether or not he would add me. It was the strangest thing. I had expected nothing more than friendship from this guy and yet here I was nervous.

 

Hours later he came online and accepted. I was just in the middle of starting a conversation with him, when suddenly he had messaged me first. My heart was beating right against my chest and I couldn't understand why I felt this way.

 

I told him that I had issues trusting men but something about him just made me trust him instantly. He asked if I had any questions for him, and the first thing I asked was: what is your opinion on snails?

See, I have always been obsessed with snails - no idea why. But I always get laughed because of it. Naturally I expected him to laugh..but he didn't.

He gave me a full review of them. And in turn I gave him an 8.63/10 for his review.

 

After that.. we ended up speaking for the whole night into the morning despite us both having uni the next day. When we got home, we had our first Skype call.

It was after this night, we spoke for over 14 hours every day.

Not even a week later, I asked him to be my Daddy. Again, very unusual for me but something just felt right.

 

Fast forward 7 months, I have moved country and now live with that same man from that night. And I love him with all my heart.

 

My point is in all of this, anyone can ask generic questions and give the same answer they give every girl or guy. But if you're comfortable enough to ask a silly question or choose a topic that's close to your heart, you may just find the love of your life.

Absolutely loved your story! I wish nothing but the best to both you and your Daddy~

Can I add you as a friend? I'm going through some similar stuff, I guess and I'd love to hear your advice if you're willing to.

[plumflower]

I love Daddy's Pud's story. Good luck. ♥♥♥

 

Um, I when I meat my Daddy I was still spiraling from my previous Daddy throwing me away. So the questions weren't really what made me trust him; they were just conversational topics if that makes sense. Honestly, do ask questions serious and silly ones that are important to you and see if his answers are satisfactory to you. The thing I feel that is more important is how he approaches you and the potential relationship. If he's for real he will respect you and you're wishes, persue the relationship but give you the time to adjust to it. He won't rush you at all. 

 

My Daddy and I met by chance. We were both on a role-playing site, one that is now lost to me, but at the time I had another Daddy. That Daddy wasn't responding to me on Skype. I'd thought that it was because he was busy at work and as a good little you shouldn't bombard Daddy's Skype with too many messages. My muse was all but gone and so I popped into the site's chat, where if I remembered correctly, my current Daddy had just entered. I was admin on the site and remembered approving him so I went and said hi. He'd mentioned that he was a mechanic and I made a passing comment that mechanics were sexy. I didn't stick around too long after that. I am and never will be one of the females that vie for any guy's attention and he had girls swooning over him like crazy. In addition I had a Daddy and I wanted to be a good girl and not a fair weather little like a lot of the subs on the site. A few days later he sent me a pm and it was nice and sweet. He'd signed it, your friendly neighborhood mechanic. We got to talking and planning a to set in the 1930s which was later moved to the 1950s. Not long after, my then current Daddy, the one ignoring me, broke this off because he found someone closer to him. The LDR came to an abrupt halt and even though it hasn't been a full fledged relationship, he'd been Daddy and I'd been kitten. It hurt bad...worst than any rejection or end had before. It was the first time I'd ever cried so hard and so much my tears burned my cheeks. I could barely functioned. In fact I cried so much and so consistent that my tears burned my cheeks. Not wanting, him to think I didn't want him to think that his writing was bad and I wasn't responding so I logged on and wrote my current Daddy an apology explaining that I was depressed and couldn't write for him because I was scared of the sadness overwhelming the love story our characters were embarking on. He asked why and I told him honestly that I'd lost my Daddy and I am a homeless kitty. To my surprised he confided that he had recently lost his slave and knew what I was going through. He wanted me to know he was there if I needed to talk.

 

That's all he did. Talk.

 

There were other Daddies vying for me but they immediately went for the jugular and promised grandiose proclamations of happiness and sex. He, on the  hand, just talked and wanted to be my friend. I asked him to be my protector so that I didn't throw myself into the den of hungry guys. Respectfully, he urged me to find a Daddy and a new home while becoming my friend.

 

I pursued him but he refused and s stayed a protector. We talked a lot! I was lost and couldn't see what was happening when he started staying up late with me, as late as 6am in the morning for him and then crashing and nto going into work. His manager would call and say "Hey, boss are you coming in?"  On days that he had to go in, he's tuck me in and tell me to get some sleep and then 'come to the shop" which meant Skype him when I got up. I didn't get that he was showing his interest already. That all started April 4th, 2017 and we're still together. I love Daddy and he loves me and all my neediness and faults. 

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

Hey, variations of this question are asked frequently.  Here are some topics that might be useful to you.  For the record, I agree with Bambi95, when there is chemistry there is chemistry.

 

Red Flags for Littles
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/2397-percentage-of-creepy-dd-on-the-internets/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/2520-questions-to-ask-potential-daddys/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5183-beware-of-bad-daddies/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/6648-what-you-dont-do-when-looking-for-a-little/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/15298-what-are-the-red-flags-for-you/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/15475-how-to-know-if-a-daddy-is-those-good-ones-or-those-bad-ones/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16540-red-flags-for-littles/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16866-people-automatically-referring-to-themselves-as-daddy-or-mommy/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/19983-fake-doms-warning-signssafety-etc/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/20270-you-just-met-me-um-dont-say-youre-daddy/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/20510-red-flags/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/21574-tired-of-fake-daddies/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22073-how-to-tell-someone-is-a-fake-caregiver/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22350-serious/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22367-important-quesion-bout-daddys/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/25526-red-flags-for-pushy-doms/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/25752-i-dont-know-what-to-do/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/26410-warning-signs/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/26593-tips-and-warning-signs/

Are All Daddys Creeps?
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/6685-are-all-daddys-like-that/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/6770-is-this-dd-a-fake/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/6772-daddymaster-no-longer-talking-to-me/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/6994-heart-broken/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/8972-moving-too-fast/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/10808-you-arent-a-daddy/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/14611-long-distance-relationship/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/15680-is-it-just-me/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/16553-sending-nudes-to-a-potential-fake-daddy/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/20019-serious-interest/

 

Littles Getting Attached Quickly
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/5139-immediately-attached/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/6393-daddy-cheated-on-his-little/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/8937-getting-attached-too-quickly/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/15700-rushing-ddlg-relationships/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22770-a-thousand-suns/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22927-signs-to-look-for-when-searching-for-a-new-relationship-partner/
https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/26019-attached-too-fast/

Edited July 19, 2018 by Sachita