Curious and Wanting to Talk About This With Others

[plumflower]

Recently, Daddy has gotten a 12hr shift job that allows him to make a lot of money but it's from 5pm to 5am and that leaves this baby girl very lonely. I've been looking for friends to talk to and I forgot about this site for a bit. I've just been busy with adult stuff in real life. However, I meet another DD, not from here but from another  online community that I frequent, and we talk a lot. I have never been dishonest with him nor have I kept my relationship with Daddy from him. Two days ago, he started a conversation with me, after a period of a month's silence, and I told him what was happening.  The truth is I don't like being away from Daddy for this long period of time at all but I understand why Daddy is taking on this job right now. It's a good way for him to earn quick cash so that he can buy his father the car of his dreams. My future Father in law in getting older in his years and the honest truth is we don't know how many more years he has left. Daddy just wants to make his father happy. I admire Daddy for that.  The other reason is Daddy is planning on flying me out so that we can meet for the first time and he likes a bit of extra cash. The job is a necessary thing to bear with despite me not liking it.

 

My depression is flaring up again since I lost a lot of real life friends due to other reasons and because many of them do not approve of Daddy and I, from our age differences to our political differences and geographical locations as well as ethnicity. Still, that hasn't stopped Daddy and I and it won't but it leaves me lonely when Daddy isn't around. I do my best to fill the hours. However I still like to socialize. This brings me to the issue at hand.  So the friend, the another Daddy, we'll call him T so it's easier to follow and I have been talking back and forth via chat for maybe 5 months maybe a bit longer. I met T when he was going through a difficult time. He was loosing touch with his baby girl, though now that I think about it I feel like it was my fault.  He's asked the forum for advice on how to talk to his baby girl regarding intimacy and the frequency of it and I just happened to respond. Any who, he and his little split about 2 months ago and I stopped talking to him for a month. About 2 days ago he writes me and we catch up on what's going on. I mentioned how lonely I am with Daddy gone and he offers to be there to talk, which I thank him for. Then things got strange. He proposed that he and I have a secret Daddy/little relationship where he would stand in for my Daddy and I could get comfort from him. He worded it like this: "When you and I are together, you'll be mine and I'll take what I want from you as your Daddy. I can't wait to fulfill your needs, little one."  I immediately told him it's not what i want and I refuse to cheat on my Daddy. He then tells me it's not cheating. But to me it is.

 

Daddy and I are LDR and maybe some people don't care to be cuddling and sexting but I don't like that. I can't even imagine Daddy with any one else, why would I do that to him. So I blocked T and today he made another account and contacted me. I've apologized to Daddy and told Daddy about what happened. Daddy has always known that T and I talk. Daddy isn't mad at me and tells me to continue to block all incoming contact from T.

 

My question is, why? What on Earth is T hoping to accomplish? Was it my fault? Do I owe T an apology fro being friendly, open, and honest about the things that Daddy and I do and enjoy? I don't go into details but I have talked to T about the importance of a little desiring to please her Daddy in all ways. I wholeheartedly believe that as a sexual little, if I don't desire my Daddy on that level I ought not to be with him. It's not like I've told T all my specific kinks, only Daddy knows that stuff. I don't understand why T would be so daring and out right disrespectful of Daddy and I, is there some sort of power dynamic that happens when a dom takes another dom's little?

Edited June 21, 2018 by plumflower

[Silkyblacklace]

Very simple.

 

You opened the door for “T” to come in and possibly “sweep you off your feet.” You given this DD a chance to take over while your other one is working and trying to provide for the sake of making his family happy and you happy. This is not meant for you to feel guilty, but looking at it from your DD’s eyes he was concerned, and knew best for his Little. So simply put, he was looking out for you.

 

T took you being at your low, to see if you would agree to such a thing, and sometimes there are people out there who have no care but to want to cause any thing more but damage, then do the right thing and simply respect people’s boundaries. You done the right thing by telling your Daddy what happened. Now is the time to leave T alone, and address your emotional concerns with your current D.

[Guest QueenJellybean]

oh honey. 

 

this has nothing to do with you & everything to do with some people just being scummy. this T character sounds like he was just trying to take advantage of a situation he believed he had the upper hand in. you did everything right as far as i can see -- from being open about this with your partner to ceasing all contact once you got uncomfortable. you didn't cross any lines by being friendly & i'm sorry that this happened to you.

 

but i think you absolutely did the best you could in the situation you were given. <3

[Lola Step]

While there are some situations where a little may also have a caregiver to fill in, babysit etc; as well as a Daddy in these situations communication and openess is KEY and the fact that he asked you to keep such a proposition from your Daddy is a huge red flag and you've done the right thing by cutting contact. Should you ever feel you want a babysitter/caregiver to help you through this time I'm sure there are plenty of other Daddys or even little who would love to help and would be open and respect your relationship with your Daddy.

[CaresAlot]

You can block him faster than he can open new accounts.  Here or anywhere else let admins know you are being harassed.  They can sometimes help ban somebody that is not nice.  Keep your Daddy informed as to what's going on.  Do not reply to anything T ask.  Just cut all ties and communications with T.  You don't owe T anything, no explanation - NOTHING.  If you just block and say nothing that is quickest way to get rid of T.

 

T is nothing but a leech.  He had nobody and saw you as easy pickings.  He thought that he had a foot in the door. You did the right thing in slamming that door.  Anybody that tries to convince you that is not cheating is really a low life.  Pure and simple he is looking for somebody to get his rocks off with.  That's pretty slimy when he knows how hard your Daddy is working for the two of you.  You are missing your Daddy but anybody that puts his family and you first is a keeper.  Find some Little friends on here in the friend Zone.

 

Letting your Daddy know what was going on shows y'all have good communication skills.

[plumflower]

Thank you all for the responses. Daddy and I talk every day about every thing. There are no secrets between us even when the topics are  things that do upset me or him. I appreciate everyone's POV. Yes, I agree I opened the door but after reading this I feel much better. From day one, T has known about Daddy and Daddy has known about T. Daddy is the kind of person who doesn't withhold me from speaking my mind if it means I can help others. I was worried that I may have inadvertently and unknowingly done something to make T think I was interested which I'm not.I'm very open about my relationship with Daddy. I'm proud of it. I love him very much bit as I said I just miss him a lot when he's not around. I know that what he is doing is for his family and us and for that I support him all the way.  Thank you all again.

[Poisoned Daydream]

Very simple.

 

You opened the door for “T” to come in and possibly “sweep you off your feet.” You given this DD a chance to take over while your other one is working and trying to provide for the sake of making his family happy and you happy. This is not meant for you to feel guilty, but looking at it from your DD’s eyes he was concerned, and knew best for his Little. So simply put, he was looking out for you.

 

T took you being at your low, to see if you would agree to such a thing, and sometimes there are people out there who have no care but to want to cause any thing more but damage, then do the right thing and simply respect people’s boundaries. You done the right thing by telling your Daddy what happened. Now is the time to leave T alone, and address your emotional concerns with your current D.

 

I must agree 100%

[MadelynVictoria]

It sounds to me like he assumed he could take advantage of you since you were lonely and vulnerable. You did good blocking him, and telling your daddy what happened. You don't owe T an apology for anything.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Does T stand for Thundercunt? If it doesn't.. it should. What a douche. 

[neworder]

T stands for THIRSTY, aptly named!