Flustered little

[Schmitshow]

Hi! Im fairly new to being a little and my daddy and I are finding it fairly difficult to figure out a punishment that sticks and works. We are long distance and I love my daddy with all my heart and I want to be the best little I can for him. But it's very very frustrating when i dont seem to react to punishments

[Lola Step]

Obviously there is always self improvement punishments where you right lines/essays to reflect etc; but if you are LDR and findjng it hard to stick to them they may not work. I presume you love your phone, Facebook and stuff so one unique app I've just recently heard about called Dinnertime Plus which gives a Parent (Or you Daddy) the ability to restrict phone and app time as punishments and stuff it actually sounds quite cool so yeah

[PrincessKittenCupcake]

Maybe punishments just aren't the way to go? I know that we read a lot about rules and punishments on this board, but that's not how my relationship is structured. We have goals, not rules, and a reward system for meeting those goals.

 

If you are set on punishments, you'll have to get creative. With the children I've worked with, taking away money is pretty universally effective. Maybe you could put a dollar in a jar every time you break a rule and then donate that money to a charity or something?

 

Do you guys plan Skype dates or anything similar? I would think taking away something special that you've planned would be pretty effective, too.

 

I've mentioned this before, but not being allowed to call him "Daddy" is my big guns punishment - this only if I've REALLY disappointed him.

Edited June 23, 2018 by PrincessKittenCupcake

[Guest SUeB]

Have you tried following his instructions, and actually avoiding punishment? Not to sound negative or anything, just a genuine question.

[LilBabyCakes]

We use punishments in an ldr, I'll show you my list!

 

~Rules~

1) always be honest - including feelings. If I feel sad I need to tell

2) don't talk back

3) don't touch without daddy's permission

4) don't argue

5) Respect daddy's decisions

6) be obedient/listen

7) bedtime is 10:30pm school nights and 12 on weekends - no internet, just sleep.

8) when daddy asks to show, I will listen.

 

~Punishments~

1) No Facebook/App of daddy's choice

2) No sweets

3) Writing lines

4) No cuddle pillow (Oscar)

5) the more I break rules, the more harsh the punishment will be

6) Early bedtimes

7) (irl) Teasing

8) repent

9) sleeping naked

10) no playtime and/or "videocall" time

 

~rewards~

1) more sweets

2) stay up late

3) movie night

4) playtime

5) Oscar the pillow comes back

6) ~pictures~/sexy time on Video

7) Tummy rubs

8) special dinner

[Schmitshow]

Thanks you guys, I kinda forgot about this post but i really appreciate the support!!