Any other littles worry if their too needy for their mommy/daddy?

[Kir Bear]

Sometimes I get spooked Im too much for my daddy..or too annoying...Any other littles ever feel dis way?

[LittleKitten13]

I feel that way a lot.  Papa always assures me that he loves me though and that I am fine.

[MiniBunBun]

Me literally every day. . .(｡•́︿•̀｡)

 

I lost my first daddy because I apparently was too clingy with him. So now whenever I'm with my Papa, even though he said it's okay, I get paranoid and just want to cancel whatever plans I have with him (even if it's just talking) just so he can have as much time for himself as he needs. It's really bad Q ~ Q. . .

[Littlest_Bee]

Me literally every day. . .(｡•́︿•̀｡)

 

I lost my first daddy because I apparently was too clingy with him. So now whenever I'm with my Papa, even though he said it's okay, I get paranoid and just want to cancel whatever plans I have with him (even if it's just talking) just so he can have as much time for himself as he needs. It's really bad Q ~ Q. . .

I hope he knows about those insecurities. Canceling a lot of stuff would probably make him very sad. But I'm sure you can work on it together. *offering you hugs*

[MiniBunBun]

I hope he knows about those insecurities. Canceling a lot of stuff would probably make him very sad. But I'm sure you can work on it together. *offering you hugs*

He does and we've been working on it! It's been really good so far! (✿◠‿◠)

[Littlest_Bee]

Sometimes I get spooked Im too much for my daddy..or too annoying...Any other littles ever feel dis way?

I felt like that a lot in my first (and so far only) relationship within the dynamic. Especially when my guardian was already stressed.

Often taking care of me actually reduced stress, apparently. If it was too much we talked - a lot. There were compromises and that's fine. Just make sure that you both are comfortable with communicating what you need and most difficulties can be worked through.

 

Best wishes

[Guest Little Otter]

All the time, but thankfully my Mommy is as needy as I am so it works out. Just make sure you communicate your insecurities and just ask. If he cares about you, it shouldn't be a tough topic.

[MadelynVictoria]

I constantly feel this way. I have mental health issues, so I need daddy often for support, but I feel like I'm being annoying, a bother, and attention seeking a lot of the time because I need him often

[AllTSomeShade]

I worry about this a lot. My situation is kind of odd because, in past relationships, I was the one that was that someone was clinging and getting attached to. Where they needed me all day every day and it got very tiring and overwhelming for me. My big is 100% okay with it, and likes that I need him and enjoy him around, but I get in my head about how he must not like it because I didn't like it. 
I found it's best to always communicate how you're feeling and discuss it with them. It makes everything feel better and run smoother.

[Misswolf]

Don't know if this help but I like it if the little is clingy. I find it really sweet to see a message each second don't know about the other cg but don't be scared maybe just talk to them and hopefully they understand why you feel like you feel

[Angel24]

I spend everyday worrying that I'm too needy and annpying for my Daddy, but that's just my crappy/low self esteem. I am terrified of the idea of me being a bother or getting in his way, despite the millions of times he has assured me that it is not the case. Unfortunately I have yet to discover the trick to thinking better of myself, if it exists at all, but I do suggest just trusting in your daddy if he tells you you're fine and not too needy:)

[Little B]

[Guest Looby-Lou]

I know that I'm too needy (in general) and I try to work on that with self-development.

I'm definitely too needy for my Daddy sometimes, and it does cause tension sometimes. But at the same time he tries to understand that I get insecure very easily. 

 

My problem is that once I've got it in my head that he doesn't love me enough, or that I'm being too clingy, it's almost like I can't see all the ways he's showing me that he DOES love me and want me near him.  

I suppose neediness or insecurity is emotional, not logical, so it takes time for my emotions to catch up with what my brain is hearing or seeing - does anyone else have that experience?

 

For example, recently I walked into the room where he was (he was actually busy working) but he looked so happy to see me and reached out for me. And yet only 5% of my brain registered this, because at that moment I was already feeling very insecure. So instead of thinking "oh I don't need to worry, he clearly loves me and wants me", I start crying and saying I don't know if he wants me there, when he has already SHOWN me by his happy face and pulling me on his lap that he DOES want me there. (He was very sweet and didn't get cross, I'm just saying it as an example of me being stupidly needy/insecure.)

Edited June 19, 2018 by Looby-Lou