In need of help!

[aer'sdaddy]

I recently just got a job offer and it's been stressful for both me and my little. The job is a very stressful. I've been slacking bad in the daddy department and I need help. How do I fix it and make her feel special again

[Little Illy]

By focusing on you, that is how you can help. You need to make sure to care for your own well being also. If this job is stressful, then find better coping mechanisms.

 

This dynamic can easily be derailed by stress and trying to add more of the dynamic (more Daddy stuff) is going to be even more stressful. A lot of people forget that Life happens and a CG does, in fact, need to make sure they are caring for themselves as well. How can you care about someone else if you can’t maintain your own care?

 

I recommend trying to find ways to minimalize the stress, even if it is taking some dynamic-based things off the table until things level out. Reduce your stress and the rest will fall in place.

[aer'sdaddy]

Thank you for the advice and it's just hard right now. I have to move for the job and we are already long distance now. I have a week to find a place or the job and I cant fo that and it makes it hard. I feel bad for doing this to her shes been nothing but supportive.

[Little Illy]

Then the best thing to do is communicate. No little is going to get mad at thsir daddy as long as they know what is going on. It sounds like these things are out of your control, communicate that and communicate to her you want to make sure she knows how special she is. Daddy has had quite a few moments when he has had medical issues and I had to step into the Alpha role because he wasn’t well. And as long distance as well. The times he didn’t explain were the times I was legitimately hurt. But when he explained his current mindset, I helped him. That is a relationship and she will see that.

 

Also, sorry for any typos, I’m on a iPad XD

[aer'sdaddy]

Thank you very much I appreciate it a lot. I will sit down with her and talk to her. I dont like seeing her hurt like this. The typos are fine! Lol

[Little Illy]

A lot of people think that the DD in the FDlg is responsible for everything. But littles have just as much responsibility in helping out their DDs.

 

When it comes down to it, y’all are in a relationship - what kind of dynamic is live is a moot point. The part that counts is that you are a couple. And as a partner she would want to know how you feel, it is the right thing.

 

I hope everything works out for you two. I wish you the best of luck!