How Do You Like Daddies To Approach You?

[PrincessPear]

Hey! I was talking to another little and we were comparing notes about how Daddies approach us. Apparently, we've shared experiences with guys sexualizing us right from the get-go. 

 

It turns me off if a Daddy immediately jumps into sexual discussion right after meeting me. It also turns me off if I think the guy only has sexual intentions and does little to nothing else Daddy-esque. I used to tolerate it when I really wanted more Daddy action, and nothing more.

It also turns me off if a guy expects me to call him "Daddy" right when we first meet. That's a title you have to earn, not one you just declare yourself.

 

Don't get me wrong. I do enjoy being sexual in little space with the right people. But not everyone I meet is "the right people."

 

I seek more than sex out of a ddlg/cgl relationship. Sex is not what I'm looking for. I already have 2 partners... I'm good on sex. I need something more.

 

I like it when Daddies are polite to me when they first meet me. I especially like it if we have something else to talk about besides ddlg. I like it when a Daddy takes the effort to get to know me and engages in my interests to some extent. We need to have actual chemistry and I need to feel cared for.

 

But not everyone is the same. How do you prefer Daddies to approach you?

Edited June 15, 2018 by PrincessPear

[Guest SUeB]

It's nothing to do with the dynamic, but i only responded positively to men that actually spoke to me with some interest in me as a person, and wanted to get to know me. The dudes that jumped straight into anything sexual or kink related, got a fast and often very harsh rejection, lol. Yep, i wanted a sexual relationship, but more importantly, i wanted an actual FULL and real relationship.

[MatchboxMaus]

I'm not sure in all honesty. I do know its offputting when you have "Daddy Doms" who start off their messages with pet names or calling themselves Daddy and proceeding the conversation as if I am their little or starting a message with why they are an amazing Daddy and how they have so many years of experience with littles. Usually when you have guys calling themselves Daddy or sexualising punishments you can tell their fake and only want one thing.

I'm never going to personally see sex as part of my CG/l dynamic so I want someone who will be able to keep that side out of the conversations and talk to me in the same way you would if you were meeting me on the street for the first time. Get to know me as a person first with my likes/dislikes, hobbies etc before bringing out the more kink questions

[Guest TheLittlestMouse]

I 100% agree with you!

 

I dislike when men want to toss out rules and boss me around and such as soon as they can.

 

That or down right just ask for sexual things/ show things i do not want to see.

 

While ddlg is a kink not every little is sexual!

 

I just want someone to get to know me and it helps more so if we have something in commen!

 

I want to be treated as a little but also i want respected!

 

Just cause you are a daddy does not mean you have power over a little. You have 0 power until you agree to be in a relationship.

 

I could go on for hours but i will end it there.

[Guest Professor Optics]

The way I've approached potential littles is by starting with general conversation. Finding out who they are, what they do, what their passions are, etc. Then once I've established a level of familiarity with the person, I then get onto asking them about the type of little they are, what kind of daddy they want, etc. This usually includes finding out whether they're sexual or not, either as littles or as bigs, because I am a sexual being and that part is important to me, so I prefer to find out that aspect of the potential little sooner rather than later.

 

I mean, I ended up talking to someone for a few weeks, only to find out they were asexual. I don't have anything against someone being asexual. That didn't work for me, because I do have quite a high libido and if my partner isn't interested in that, I'd have a much harder time trying to make things work... So I always establish a baseline understanding of who the other person is, and what they are wanting out of our interaction. That was quite upsetting for me because we got on quite well, and something like that killed any possibility of a future with that person. I just couldn't see myself following through with it.

 

Honestly, I never understood those who get into those topics straight away, unless it is a general, sincere query about something. Why send nudes as the first message, or break into being sexual and/or dominant from the get-go? If you did that at a bar, or out in public, you'd get arrested for sexual harassment. A base philosophy I follow when approaching people on-line, is that I will never do so in a way I wouldn't do in a face-to-face interaction, and unless I lost a very important bet, I would never go around in public with my one-eye snake hanging out trying to pick girls up with it. There are much more elegant and more effective ways of going about it...

Edited June 15, 2018 by Professor Optics

[xBabydollx]

Respect is always required. For me I'm ok with it going either way. We can just goof off and be friendly right away/mainly talking about vanilla things, or jump right in to getting to know each other as a Dom/sub fairly soon. It's a balancing act. I lose interest quick if it's just vanilla "getting to know each other" and I lose interest quick if they only seem interested in the dynamic. I like for someone to get to know me as a person/overall. I am one of those ppl that likes to know key things very soon. Maybe after 2-3 conversations. Knowing general expectations/needs/desires is super helpful for me, so I can save us both some time. u require a painslut that likes to be strangled? Great, goodbye. I didn't waste ur time. u don't like petplay? Great, goodbye, this won't workout. Saved us both so much time by talking about key needs fairly soon. I wouldn't want it any other way. Would hate to talk to someone for weeks or months, just to find out we can't satisfy each other's primary satisfactions. Just like I would hate for us to match well in terms of the dynamic, but in a vanilla setting we have 0 chemistry. It all have to be well balanced and I refuse to settle. Idc if u sound like the perfect Daddy, if u can't be my friend and bf as well, then I don't want u. Ppl who approach me who act like they own me, want to own me right away, act like a sex crazed fool with nothing to talk about but sex, or speak to me as if I'm their little....will never get far.

[Guest Arc]

I have a thing where I like to be friends with someone before a relationship. It helps me build trust and feel confident and it gives me a proper idea if I even like the person or not. I see them as people first and if it works out there is the potential to talk to them as a potential daddy. And honestly if someone is genuinely interested in you they'll be okay going at your pace. 

[LittleCelticLass]

It's been said before, but seriously, make friends with me!

Talk to me first, spend time with me. flirt, play with me,  get to know me as a person before you try to take me to bed.