Advice?

[cassafrass]

My family is in the process of going through a move & it is really triggering my anxiety disorder. Sir says that i am supposed to let it all go & just trust Him to make everything be okay, but as someone who has spent years taking care of myself, i am struggling with this. Which, in turn, of course hurts Him & makes Him feel like i don't trust Him & don't have faith in Him. It is causing me quite a bit of guilt & just start to turn the whole cycle into a spiral of anxiety. How do you let go of your own fears & just allow someone to make everything okay when you have never been able to trust anyone to do that before? I need input, advice, etc please & thank you...

[Dollshaper]

it takes a skill to be able to let go of what's out of your control. it might help if you focus on the things you do have control over and empower yourself by owning those things fiercely. recognize that your anxiety is ultimately just chemicals doing a balancing act in your body and your mind supercedes it all

expressing your feelings artistically into something your proud of can also help overcome the feelings of powerlessness

[Guest ADudeHasNoName]

A different perspective; I'm not a therapist, but you don't always have to let things go. It's OK to have feelings. The best way to start is not to put judgement to feelings. "I feel bad for feeling bad" leads to the anxiety snowballing that you're probably feeling right now. Let emotions be emotions, and then accept the situation you're in. It won't happen overnight, but when things are totally out of your control, you have to step back a bit and accept the situation you're in. Doesn't mean you have to stay in that place, but you have to accept before you're able to move forward and grow. 

 

CBT helps quite a bit when it comes to breaking the circle of anxiety. Check out this handout; it seems a little silly, but it helps quite a great deal. 

 

http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/docs/AnxietySelfHelp.pdf

[cassafrass]

it takes a skill to be able to let go of what's out of your control. it might help if you focus on the things you do have control over and empower yourself by owning those things fiercely. recognize that your anxiety is ultimately just chemicals doing a balancing act in your body and your mind supercedes it all

expressing your feelings artistically into something your proud of can also help overcome the feelings of powerlessness

 

That is actually quite good advice, I will have to try utilizing those options, thank you!

[cassafrass]

A different perspective; I'm not a therapist, but you don't always have to let things go. It's OK to have feelings. The best way to start is not to put judgement to feelings. "I feel bad for feeling bad" leads to the anxiety snowballing that you're probably feeling right now. Let emotions be emotions, and then accept the situation you're in. It won't happen overnight, but when things are totally out of your control, you have to step back a bit and accept the situation you're in. Doesn't mean you have to stay in that place, but you have to accept before you're able to move forward and grow. 

 

CBT helps quite a bit when it comes to breaking the circle of anxiety. Check out this handout; it seems a little silly, but it helps quite a great deal. 

 

http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/docs/AnxietySelfHelp.pdf

 

 

I appreciate the link. It isn't silly, and sometimes, while I logically know those sorts of things, it helps to see it all laid out. I have always struggled with allowing myself to experience negative feelings (due to a variety of factors) but there are of course times where it is MUCH more difficult than others. Thank you for the reminder.

[Guest ADudeHasNoName]

Also, to point out, the physiological aspects of anxiety aren't dismissing your emotions. I know the concept of "it's just chemicals" gets thrown around alot, but it's incredibly invalidating and doesn't really get to the root of the problem. Anxiety is a totally natural response to stressful situations; everybody's body handles anxiety differently. When it severely impacts your quality of life, that's the point where you have stop, breath, and break the anxiety spiral so that anxiety attacks are less overwhelming. Therapy makes anxiety attacks more manageable, but doesn't remove them. It targets the reasons you get anxious, and helps you understand what is going on in your body at that time. That's a mindset I find helps me quite a bit.