advice on my personal?

[daddyinaustralia]

So I have had my personal up for what I think is quiet a while now, and despite what I think is a pretty extensive and we'll written personal I just don't seem to get many results on it.

 

Would anyone be so kind as to provide advice on my personal for me? I get the feeling that it just comes down to me been in Australia and the fact that there is very few littles in Aussie land.

 

Any advice would be appreciated

[Maids]

Well, I just read your personal and I was baffled at :" Now I know I will catch some heat for this but I am not a fan of larger girls so please if you are chubby or curvy try and find another daddy because I will not be able to love you the way you deserve."

 

I get it ... people have their preferences, but OUCH. Sure, I am a curvy girl and my Daddy loves me with all of that because its ME who he loves, not just my body. If you're SO willing to let a little bit of weight put you off from being their Daddy, then you don't deserve to have someone love you for you either. The personality and the intelligence is what matters, not the body-type extent that you took it ; "Find another Daddy if you are larger"... 

 

Like curvy/chubby girls already have enough fat-shaming people around and I am still so insecure because of people like you who only see the surface.  "I will not love you the way you deserve" so... you won't love a chubby girl wholeheartedly as if she was skinny? Who the heck lets minuscule things like weight stand between you and your dream relationship? You want to receive all of this love and support in your relationship but you turn a cheek so quickly to a little bit of a weight that can be easily burned off with a little bit of self-esteem and confidence to do so - that perhaps, you could provide, for the health of your 'little' and for the selfish benefit of your eyecandy, to become better together 

 

in the end, we all get old and wrinkly and very unattractive when we're 98 and a soggy raisin. Having a thigh gap and a flat tummy is only temporary.. 

 

 

• "A loving daddy to help you through life "

​ *Except if you're curvy

 

• Support with whatever mental issues you may have.

* I will support you with mental issues but I won't support a little bit of meat on your bones, nor love you as if you were thin.

 

Perhaps you should not post things like that if you're knowingly going to receive heat for it and maybe socialize a bit more with a person of interest and see if you like them beyond your ideal figure rather than alienating a whole percentage of people. 

 

 

I'm going to take my leave now before I say more things and possibly get in trouble by admins, but this topic does not deserve to run the risk of that.

Edited June 7, 2018 by ♥Squishy Princess♥

[daddyinaustralia]

Well, I just read your personal and I was baffled at :" Now I know I will catch some heat for this but I am not a fan of larger girls so please if you are chubby or curvy try and find another daddy because I will not be able to love you the way you deserve."

 

I get it ... people have their preferences, but OUCH. Sure, I am a curvy girl and my Daddy loves me with all of that because its ME who he loves, not just my body. If you're SO willing to let a little bit of weight put you off from being their Daddy, then you don't deserve to have someone love you for you either. The personality and the intelligence is what matters, not the body-type extent that you took it ; "Find another Daddy if you are larger"... 

 

Like curvy/chubby girls already have enough fat-shaming people around and I am still so insecure because of people like you who only see the surface.  "I will not love you the way you deserve" so... you won't love a chubby girl wholeheartedly as if she was skinny? Who the heck lets minuscule things like weight stand between you and your dream relationship? You want to receive all of this love and support in your relationship but you turn a cheek so quickly to a little bit of a weight that can be easily burned off with a little bit of self-esteem and confidence to do so - that perhaps, you could provide, for the health of your 'little' and for the selfish benefit of your eyecandy, to become better together 

 

in the end, we all get old and wrinkly and very unattractive when we're 98 and a soggy raisin. Having a thigh gap and a flat tummy is only temporary.. 

 

 

 

• "A loving daddy to help you through life "

​ *Except if you're curvy

 

• Support with whatever mental issues you may have.

* I will support you with mental issues but I won't support a little bit of meat on your bones, nor love you as if you were thin.

 

Perhaps you should not post things like that if you're knowingly going to receive heat for it and maybe socialize a bit more with a person of interest and see if you like them beyond your ideal figure rather than alienating a whole percentage of people. 

 

 

I'm going to take my leave now before I say more things and possibly get in trouble by admins, but this topic does not deserve to run the risk of that.

I knew there would be someone like you and instead of tearing you apart I am going to say this very clearly.

 

1. I don't care what you think of my opinions as they are mine just as yours are yours.

 

2. I physically cannot love someone I am not attracted to as I am human and have my preferences.

 

If you want to make a whole spiel calling me out for my preferences I will say very bluntly to get fucked.

[Tinka]

As a chubby girl this doesnt bother me. 

We cant all like everything and everyone. 

The fact that soemthing doesn`t turn us on, that somethings we like and somethings we dont, is not called shaming, its called personal opinion.

And thats why its on personals, its about what HE likes. 

I am sure there will be things you dont like either. You dont shame them, you just dont get aroused by them, you dislike the appearance. 

For example chick peas. I dislike them, sorry -not sorry. Do i shame them? No. i just dont like them. Simple.

Lets not wake up triggered.

[Siniwit]

So, here goes...

I would start by suggesting you don't alienate yourself from people by isolating, offending and upsetting those who are not a slim or skinny build? Why does this matter to you? How would their appearance affect how much you could love them? Do you have any idea how horrible that is for someone to read? Imagine you're a young girl who's always struggled with body image and has been bullied in school or whatever and is constantly shamed by the media or portrayed as a "dumb, unattractive sidekick" in movies and tv shows - how would it make you feel if you were looking for a relationship and you came across a personal ad that legitimately just flat out excluded your body type for no apparent reason?

​You need to consider these things and the way you approach other people before you hit that post button. I might catch flak for my reply to this, but I'm sorry, that's not what constitutes a good Daddy; a good Daddy will ultimately love the person he's with, no matter what. It's an unconditional love, regardless of body size or physical appearance; it's a bond with the human being and the personality behind the exterior; it's a fondness for their mind and their soul just as much as their body. You say you're willing to nurture and understand in all matters, yet you don't seem to understand how hard it is to receive those words?

​What baffles me is that you say things like that, and yet race, creed, belief etc. don't seem to matter? This comes across as very confusing. I get that you have a personal preference, but you don't have to go about wording it in such an abrasive way. You might think it's saving them from the heartache of you rejecting them once they send you a picture (by the way, also a crappy move). You have to handle these things maturely and in a responsible adult way. If you can't do that, then a Daddy you are not ready to be - plain and simple. Yes, we are all attracted to different things, but I guess I'm wondering why exactly you're so dismissive? If you asked any guy in a committed relationship whether he'd still love his partner if her build or physical appearance changed, most all of them would say yes, unconditionally - and do you know why? Because they fell in love with the person - not just the body.

​In addition, the way you've worded your "support" for those with mental health issues leaves a lot to be desired. It comes off as stigmatising and again, could be taken with offence, as if to suggest that all littles have some kind of mental health condition? Is this truly what you think? Is that how you meant to come across? Because this is just not true.

​Not sure how you can be after a little or a slave? The two are vastly different. You may find a little with slave-like tendencies but generally speaking, not all littles want to be treated as slaves; likewise, slaves usually do not want to be treated like a little. Yes, there is cross-over (as with most "labels" in BDSM) but generally speaking, these things are vastly different and I'm not certain what you're expecting?

​I would strongly suggest you take a good long look at that post and put yourself in the shoes of the young ladies who will be reading it, with intent to find their own Daddy. You're not selling yourself well at all and quite honestly, the entire thing needs re-wording.

​Lastly: Please don't speak to my little girl with that kind of attitude again. She was dumbfounded by your post and was merely trying to raise the same points as myself in order to help you to understand how you're coming across. You're also not considering how your prospective little will view you upon reading your reply to my girl and how disrespectful you appear to be. We did not reply to your topic with intent to start a petty online argument, nor did we want to "personally attack" you, so please don't take it that way and take frustrations out on my baby girl. She does not deserve that.

Edited June 7, 2018 by Siniwit

[Maids]

"What I can offer:  Unconditional love and affection"

 

EXCEPT IF YOU'RE CURVY.

 

You're entitled to your own preferences, I did not say that, but you are not understanding that there are thinner girls out there that still view themselves at fat and they can be 90-100 pounds so you'll completely miss out on them. There is a difference between unhealthy 'fat' and a healthy bit of meat on the bones.

 

Yes, that is true,  being physically attracted to someone does help with developing 'love' for someone. But it should not matter THAT much that if they had some meat on their bones that they would be alienated by you. It's the heart that makes you fall in love, everything else is just temporary.

 

Also, mature reply, a little reading this is going to adore you for your kindness towards another little and view you as a perfect Daddy for them judging by how quick you were to get heated and act rude.

 

Also, Tina, there is a difference between "I am not too fond of your appearance, but I still love you for who you are" vs "I don't like how you look, so... alienated, be gone". THAT is wrong.

 

Anyways, I'm fucked off of this conversation..

Edited June 7, 2018 by ♥Squishy Princess♥

[Tinka]

I knew there would be someone like you and instead of tearing you apart I am going to say this very clearly.

 

1. I don't care what you think of my opinions as they are mine just as yours are yours.

 

2. I physically cannot love someone I am not attracted to as I am human and have my preferences.

 

If you want to make a whole spiel calling me out for my preferences I will say very bluntly to get fucked.

 

I am all for this raw approach, but watch your mouth, there is no need for this. You show a bad side at the end of the day and here i am , asking if this is a reason why people are quiet towards you. 

[daddyinaustralia]

I am all for this raw approach, but watch your mouth, there is no need for this. You show a bad side at the end of the day and here i am , asking if this is a reason why people are quiet towards you.

 

Not usually but when someone goes out of their way to have a go at me for my preferences they can get stuffed.

I have to deal with the sjw accept all people mentality enough in my country as is

[daddyinaustralia]

And I really couldn't care if you are offended, I have absolutely no interest in larger women

[daddyinaustralia]

So, here goes...

I would start by suggesting you don't alienate yourself from people by isolating, offending and upsetting those who are not a slim or skinny build? Why does this matter to you? How would their appearance affect how much you could love them? Do you have any idea how horrible that is for someone to read? Imagine you're a young girl who's always struggled with body image and has been bullied in school or whatever and is constantly shamed by the media or portrayed as a "dumb, unattractive sidekick" in movies and tv shows - how would it make you feel if you were looking for a relationship and you came across a personal ad that legitimately just flat out excluded your body type for no apparent reason?

​You need to consider these things and the way you approach other people before you hit that post button. I might catch flak for my reply to this, but I'm sorry, that's not what constitutes a good Daddy; a good Daddy will ultimately love the person he's with, no matter what. It's an unconditional love, regardless of body size or physical appearance; it's a bond with the human being and the personality behind the exterior; it's a fondness for their mind and their soul just as much as their body. You say you're willing to nurture and understand in all matters, yet you don't seem to understand how hard it is to receive those words?

​What baffles me is that you say things like that, and yet race, creed, belief etc. don't seem to matter? This comes across as very confusing. I get that you have a personal preference, but you don't have to go about wording it in such an abrasive way. You might think it's saving them from the heartache of you rejecting them once they send you a picture (by the way, also a crappy move). You have to handle these things maturely and in a responsible adult way. If you can't do that, then a Daddy you are not ready to be - plain and simple. Yes, we are all attracted to different things, but I guess I'm wondering why exactly you're so dismissive? If you asked any guy in a committed relationship whether he'd still love his partner if her build or physical appearance changed, most all of them would say yes, unconditionally - and do you know why? Because they fell in love with the person - not just the body.

​In addition, the way you've worded your "support" for those with mental health issues leaves a lot to be desired. It comes off as stigmatising and again, could be taken with offence, as if to suggest that all littles have some kind of mental health condition? Is this truly what you think? Is that how you meant to come across? Because this is just not true.

​Not sure how you can be after a little or a slave? The two are vastly different. You may find a little with slave-like tendencies but generally speaking, not all littles want to be treated as slaves; likewise, slaves usually do not want to be treated like a little. Yes, there is cross-over (as with most "labels" in BDSM) but generally speaking, these things are vastly different and I'm not certain what you're expecting?

​I would strongly suggest you take a good long look at that post and put yourself in the shoes of the young ladies who will be reading it, with intent to find their own Daddy. You're not selling yourself well at all and quite honestly, the entire thing needs re-wording.

​Lastly: Please don't speak to my little girl with that kind of attitude again. She was dumbfounded by your post and was merely trying to raise the same points as myself in order to help you to understand how you're coming across. You're also not considering how your prospective little will view you upon reading your reply to my girl and how disrespectful you appear to be. We did not reply to your topic with intent to start a petty online argument, nor did we want to "personally attack" you, so please don't take it that way and take frustrations out on my baby girl. She does not deserve that.

If you are offended by such trivial things then I have absolutely no interest

[Guest Dulci]

Think this post might explain why you're not getting messages.. You're rather rude.

[Guest SUeB]

When i had a personal ad on either vanilla, sites or fetlife, i made it clear that i wanted someone in decent shape. Sorry, but that's a perfectly reasonable stance. Ok, it depends on how it's worded, obviously, but there is NOTHING wrong with saying you want someone of a healthy weight, etc. Personally, i am not at all attracted to either over or under weight. And i make absolutely no apology for that. None of that excuses the shocking attitude of the op in this thread though. Maybe it's not the ad, maybe it's the attitude, if that comes across away from this discussion.

[Tinka]

And I really couldn't care if you are offended, I have absolutely no interest in larger women

 

yep definitely dont mind your preference in thinner women and definitely dislike people with stinky attitude like yours (am i shaming stinky attitudes? i hope not. i simply dislike yours). 

 

Anyway. as i said i love it when people say it as it is, but it gets tiring fast.

You are 22 years old , sometimes seem frustrated with the world (comment of yours about you having to deal with the mentality of your country) 

easily offensive, fast defensive and when you go into defense mode, you cant even see straight who is on your side or not. 

Chubby or thin, i would like my daddy to have a clear mind to see these things, and act in a more daddy-like way and not like a child who wants to rebel.

Thats what i receive from your reactions, sorry not sorry. 

Because me and you have established that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. 

So my opinion is that you don`t have a lot of pm s because you are not the kind of daddy, some littles would want. 

[daddyinaustralia]

People may see my responses as rude etc but let me say it for the record, if you insult my beliefs or preferences and try to justify it and go as far as to belittle me about it I will have no issue wearing my heart on my sleeve and telling you to get fucked and fuck off.

 

If you have a problem with that I honestly do not care

[Guest Arc]

People are allowed personal preferences. You do not have to agree with them but if it is not affecting you please respect the preferences of other members. 

 

This thread was started to gain some creative feedback but instead has turned into an unnecessary argument. As it has gone off topic and is no longer helpful, it is being locked.