Sister found my little gear

[Tilly]

I have been a little for a few years and have been keeping it from my family the whole time. I thought that it would be easier when my older sister moved out a year or so ago, but she is always over the house. Today in an argument, she revealed to me that she knows that I have a paci in my drawer next to my bed. I acted like I didn't know what she was talking about but she also mentioned some other items that were in my drawer that she couldn't have known about. 
She left the house a few hours ago but I am s embarrassed and I don't know what to do...

Any advice?

[Azirial]

I had a similar issue last year with some toys my family found in my room whilst i was at work, they tried to embarrass me with it but i turned it around on them shining light on how they were invading my privacy and creeps for snooping around my room and in my belongings.

 

They soon dropped it after that and apologised.

[DanishDomDaddy]

my advice is simple:

just embrace it.. be like yeah so what.. whats her deal.

you can be you and nobody should tell you otherwise

be proud be strong

[Guest SUeB]

Don't do anything. Sisters can be complete b*****s even without an excuse, lol. Sadly, this is the kind of thing we do have to keep to ourselves. There will never be social acceptance. While i hate how this sounds, you're probably just going to need to find a better place for your stuff. Not fair, i know. But life isn't always fair.

[Soulmatesearch]

That's so mean She brought it up like that.

 

I would just forgets about it. Definitely don't let her know that it bothers you in any way

[PizzaOnARoof]

What more can you do except say its a free country and that your entitled to do whatever makes ya happy

[WanderingWonderland]

Things like this truly baffle me. I was taught boundaries as a very young child - to not impinge somebody's privacy. The idea of going into someone's room and raking through their personal belongings is totally alien to me. My 11 year old daughter leaves her diary out on her bed all the time, feeling 100% safe in the knowledge I would never pick it up and read through it.

 

It's not for you to feel embarrassed, Tilly. You are not the one in the wrong here. Don't fan the flames by giving your sister any more of a reaction. If she brings it up again, simply roll your eyes at her and ignore the pettiness. My eldest sister was a bit of a bully to me growing up. I hit a point where I realised reacting to her nastiness was exactly what she wanted, so I stopped. I refused to give her the satisfaction. Suddenly I was the younger sister acting like the bigger person. And it drove her absolutely crackers, because there was nothing she could say or do about it. I'd silently snatched control of the situation.

 

Is there a safer place you could store you items? I would be immensely annoyed at needing to move anything, but if she can't respect your personal space, then it might be something to think about. Or maybe buy a lockable box to keep them in?

[SleepyKitten]

My mum found clothes with words like "Daddy" and "Yes Daddy?" on. I found out by my dad asking me to answer his phones texts whilst he was driving and she had sent him pics of the items along with "our daughter is dating pedophiles" etc etc.

 

I just pretended as though nothing had happened, and am hoping she has forgotten about it (I doubt it though).

 

However if she confronted you directly that might not work at all infact. If she was using it against you maybe confront her and ask her why she feels it is OK to snoop through your drawers.

Alternatively you could just let things die down and not bring it up again to save confrontation and mentioning it further.

 

But don't be embarrassed, its what you like, it makes you happy and there should be no problem with that as you are not hurting anyone in the process. Plus I think it happens to quite a few people where a family member finds something.

Edited June 6, 2018 by SleepyKitten

[Baby_Vampire_Princess]

My twin sister knows but I think she doesn't like it but she doesn't judge me. I can't talk to her about it