Trying to get myself back (sensitive topic beware)

[Dezzi]

Hello all! My name is Dezzi.... About a month ago I ended a ddlg relationship on bad terms, he forced me to have sex while in little space. How can I get myself back to being comfortable and happy being little again? I miss the freedom of little space but I don't want to get hurt again.

[Maids]

I've been through similar traumatic experiences... some Daddies do suck but you have to remember that what you went through was not your fault; people can be quite shit sometimes with their "get what I want at the cost of another persons happiness".  I'm so sorry you went through this experience but it will pass overtime and it will get easier to regress, just give yourself and your little self time to understand what had happened (as it must have happened very fast, too much for you to understand at the time during your regression) Allow time to heal your wounds before slowly introducing yourself back into littlespace, remind yourself it is completely natural to be afraid to let yourself get to that level of vulnerability again. Littlespace can be a dangerous game sometimes if you are with the wrong person.

 

Just remember that not all Daddies are out for that 'desire' while you are in littlespace, a lot of CG/l relationships turn into a nonsexual DDlg relationship as I see it frequently. About 3 months ago I was forced to have sex and do his fetishes that I was not wanting to do (but with my bend-over-backwards-for-my-Dom attitude, I let it go too far) I was distraught and it was traumatizing for months on end,  I never understood it until about 2 months ago, I am 3-6 years old in littlespace and when things that are traumatizing happen when you're in littlespace, it takes a toll on you and you cannot understand why it happened or even what happened. I understand that... but don't hold a grudge on all Daddies... that "Daddy" who did that to you is a sad, sad, person for forcing something upon you like that and I'm so sorry you had that experience. I held a grudge against Daddies for a good while after my ex Daddy forced himself onto me when I was in littlespace because he always sexualized it before he was with me, but he was still quite perverse while I was in littlespace. Then my current Daddy changed my whole world around and gave me a whole new definition to a Daddy Dom, much as I did for him but the little version; you will be a great experience for a Daddy worthy of your submission, not some shithead who sexualizes things that you do not want to be sexualized. 

 

Just give yourself some time to process things, build your comfort back up with new shows (I like the show Miraculous, Sofia the First, Powerpuff Girls, Puffin Rock, the Backyardagains, etc) and don't forget to load up on all the Disney movies! When you watch the Disney movies, attempt to put yourself in those princess shows and remind yourself that though princesses typically start out with a rather sad beginning, it has a happy ending with a prince charming. Remind yourself that you are worthy of your prince charming and that he will come to rescue you whenever the time is right 'Till then, deep breaths, happy, hopeful thoughts! 

 

Good luck to you and remember to slowly introduce yourself into childish activities that you partook in as a slow and comfortable introductory, then slowly at your own pace (maybe limit yourself to messaging a new Daddy every week just so you don't overwhelm yourself, but only after you've gotten comfortable in your own skin!) start injecting yourself into the community (I'd suggest making a few little friends for comfort and also to feel out the scene again I volunteer as tribute! hehe), then before you know it, that bastard will be out of your mind and won't have a scuff on your precious heart.    

Edited June 2, 2018 by ♥Squishy Princess♥

[Dezzi]

Idk how to reply to replies lol Edited June 2, 2018 by Dezzi

[Dezzi]

Thank you @<3Squishy Princess<3 it'd be wonderful to make some little friends honestly and I've gotten back into coloring, I colored two pages half way in my book! Lol

 

 

I've been through similar traumatic experiences... some Daddies do suck but you have to remember that what you went through was not your fault; people can be quite shit sometimes with their "get what I want at the cost of another persons happiness". I'm so sorry you went through this experience but it will pass overtime and it will get easier to regress, just give yourself and your little self to understand what had happened (as it must have happened very fast, too much for you to understand at the time during your regression) Allow time to heal your wounds before slowly introducing yourself back into littlespace, remind yourself it is completely natural to be afraid to let yourself get to that level of vulnerability again. Littlespace can be a dangerous game sometimes if you are with the wrong person.

 

Just remember that not all Daddies are out for that 'desire' while you are in littlespace, a lot of CG/l relationships turn into a nonsexual DDlg relationship as I see it frequently. About 3 months ago I was forced to have sex and do his fetishes that I was not wanting to do (but with my bend-over-backwards-for-my-Dom attitude, I let it go too far) I was distraught and it was traumatizing for months on end, I never understood it until about 2 months ago, I am 3-6 years old in littlespace and when things that are traumatizing happen when you're in littlespace, it takes a toll on you and you cannot understand why it happened or even what happened. I understand that... but don't hold a grudge on all Daddies... that "Daddy" who did that to you is a sad, sad, person for forcing something upon you like that and I'm so sorry you had that experience. I held a grudge against Daddies for a good while after my ex Daddy forced himself onto me when I was in littlespace because he always sexualized it before he was with me, but he was still quite perverse while I was in littlespace. Then my current Daddy changed my whole world around and gave me a whole new definition to a Daddy Dom, much as I did for him but the little version; you will be a great experience for a Daddy worthy of your submission, not some shithead who sexualizes things that you do not want to be sexualized.

 

Just give yourself some time to process things, build your comfort back up with new shows (I like the show Miraculous, Sofia the First, Powerpuff Girls, Puffin Rock, the Backyardagains, etc) and don't forget to load up on all the Disney movies! When you watch the Disney movies, attempt to put yourself in those princess shows and remind yourself that though princesses typically start out with a rather sad beginning, it has a happy ending with a prince charming. Remind yourself that you are worthy of your prince charming and that he will come to rescue you whenever the time is right 'Till then, deep breaths, happy, hopeful thoughts!

 

Good luck to you and remember to slowly introduce yourself into childish activities that you partook in as a slow and comfortable introductory, then slowly at your own pace (maybe limit yourself to messaging a new Daddy every week just so you don't overwhelm yourself, but only after you've gotten comfortable in your own skin!) start injecting yourself into the community (I'd suggest making a few little friends for comfort and also to feel out the scene again I volunteer as tribute! hehe), then before you know it, that bastard will be out of your mind and won't have a scuff on your precious heart.

[Maids]

Yes! There are TONS of littles on here that are open to conversation ! A lot of them are looking for little friends  

 

Congrats on being able to do that though! I kinda feel up for some squishy sand with Daddy-o tonight but we'll see how good I am hehe. ;P 

 

What do you like to colour in your book? Princesses? Freehand?

[Dezzi]

 

I like coloring the baby animals. I color in Lisa Frank books

 

Yes! There are TONS of littles on here that are open to conversation ! A lot of them are looking for little friends

 

Congrats on being able to do that though! I kinda feel up for some squishy sand with Daddy-o tonight but we'll see how good I am hehe. ;P

 

What do you like to colour in your book? Princesses? Freehand?

[Guest Arc]

Give it time. Things like that can be really painful and difficult to get over, but it is possible. Trying to rush it isn't likely to work, and you'll just end up frustrated which makes it even harder to get into little space. 

 

Just be yourself and do what feels right. Go at your pace and you'll be fine. And it sounds like you're already making awesome progress with the colouring and looking for friends. Maybe with some little friends you can trust you will find it easier to ease back into your little space. You could always post in the friend zone and see what replies you get