How/When to tell your bf that you're a little/submissive?

[Cheynee]

Sooo I've only been in this relationship for about a week, but I've talked to him a lot before. We haven't talked about any secual preferences at all yet so I'm wondering, how long do you guys wait to tell your partner and how do you tell them?

 

He's amazing guy, he's been there for me for several months. He's really caring, makes sure I get enough sleep, asks if I've eaten etc so I'm not too worried about that part. I'm just kinda scared that he isn't into anything kinkyand I'm kinda scared to bring up the topic of me being a submissive/kitten cause there are so many idiots out there who make peopke think kitten play is somehow something really weird/sick.

I hope somebody has some tips for me ^-^

[WhysperKit]

I made an offhand comment, "I prefer dominant guys" and he picked up on me liking D/s. Next (months later), I said, "Oh, she really thinks she knows what that is?" and he asked, "What?" So I mentioned DDLG and he asked what it was. I explained and stressed that it wasn't any about incest or whatever, just a caring relationship where one person is like a Caregiver and the other likes child-like things.

 

TL;DR: Just tell him what it means to you Leave out titles and roles. 

[TheDaddyest]

conceal don't feel. be the good girl they want you to be.  

[Cheynee]

Thanks for the answer ^-^

I will probably eventually breach the subject but he's acting really caring towards me all the time already and called me his babygirl so maybe I don't have to put a label on our relationship for the moment

[Guest Arc]

Honestly... just tell him. There's no point dancing around the topic because that can give the idea that it's something to be ashamed of. I personally prefer to be open and straightforward because it's who I am and I know there's nothing to be ashamed of. Anyone who cares and wants me will accept that side of me. If they think you are weird or sick because they've learned a new side to you then you don't really want them in your life anyway. You want people that accept and love you as you are. 

[Angel24]

I usually like to start with "There's a something I need to tell you about me, but I swear it's not bad, just please hear me out" or something along those lines. Just start the conversation slowly and cautiously, give them time to take it in and wrap their head around it. If he understands and accepts it then you're golden, if he doesn't then maybe he's not for you. I hope it all works out:)

[Guest Little Otter]

Tell him sooner than later. You don't want to be too attached prior, because you may end up disappointed. Which will lead to confusion, because you may end up feeling too deeply to recognize the incompatibility and both end up hurt in the end.

[arineunha]

drop little hints and ask if knows what kitten play is and ask him to search it up if he doesn't. just to test the waters

 

I said that and he said 'let's do it'

Edited June 9, 2018 by arineunha