New To This Life, Advice?

[sleepypersonality]

As the title says I'm new to this life and recently discovered that I'm very interested in being a little. I would like some advice from experienced Daddies and Littles so I know what to expect, look for, and what to be wary of. How should I go about exploring this side of me and any other advice would help a lot? What platforms should I use and what would I need to get started? \

 

Please and thank you! 

[Guest Appacheian]

Oh advice. Ask for that and you will get a plethora of answers. I would say do as much personal research as you can on the internet. Search for DDLG and also bdsm. Read a lot. You will find where you want to be amongst a vast variation. Also you will find there is no text book to follow, no index to thumb through. And be wary of anyone who tells you what you should or should not be doing. Every little is unique and this is the start of your very individual journey. Good luck.

[xBabydollx]

Do tons of research online. Something u might find useful is joining fetlife, simply so u can become aware of munches and events in ur area if there are any (and if u have any interest in meeting like-minded ppl irl). As for exploring it, I suggest just getting ur feet wet to start. Go slow. Don't try to do or incorporate everything u think a little should do/be all at once. If u like pacis try it out maybe on the weekends, or buy a sippy cup and use it for 1 meal a day etc. It depends on whatever u are interested in, just take it slow otherwise it might get overwhelming. Also, know that there isn't 1 way to be little. u can love pink, hate pink. Be gothic and love blood/gore. u can love Disney, or hate Disney. u can be skinny, fat, or anything in between. u can be any race. u can have any mental or physical condition and still be little. u can have any sexuality. Young or old. Age regress or not. Some have a 'little age' and for others being a little is a state of mind. The list goes on. My point is, don't look at 1 or a few littles and think that is the only way to be. Lastly, don't rush into a dynamic. u do not need a daddy or mommy in order to be little. Take the time to get to know u as a little. Learn ur wants, needs, desires, expectations, and limits before trying to rush to a caregiver. In my personal exp, a dynamic forms and goes much more smoothly when both ppl already know (or at least have a big idea) of who they are and what they want.

[CaresAlot]

There is years and years of information on this forum.  If I had to give my top three thing I think you should know they are:

1. You don't get a Daddy, you get a guy that would like to be your Daddy.  If he meets your expectations then Daddy is a title that you give him.  Anybody that comes in and demands that you call him Daddy right away is one I'd run from.
2. You decide what you want to be and what you want out of a relationship.  There are no rules on what you have to do to be Little.  If sippy cup and coloring books help then that is great but you don't have to.  If you want to be a baby one day and a middle the next that is up to you.  It does not have to be a dominant Daddy.  Find what makes you happy.
3. Expectation and communication will make or break a relationship.  Before you go looking for a Daddy or Caregiver, know what you are want and what you want from a Daddy or Caregiver.  Never fail to communicate what is happening in your relationship.  This is best done when you are not Little as its easier to communicate freely.

Read as much as you can and use the search for specific thing you are looking for.  Take your time - there is no need to ever rush into a relationship until you are ready.

[Guest Arc]

There is so much out there that giving you general advice wouldn't be all that helpful because situations vary a lot and general advice won't prepare you for that.

 

My advice would be to research as much as you can, ask as many questions as you need, and don't rush into anything before you are sure you are ready and safe. And my biggest piece of advice would be to understand that everyone is different, does things different, and want different things. You don't have to fit a stereotype and you should never feel bad for being different from another person. Just be yourself. 

 

There are a lot of resources on the forum, and on other sites and blogs. Just read as much as you can and get a feeling of what is right for you. If you have any questions have a look through the forum because they may have already been answered. And if you can't find anything you are more than welcome to start a new thread or directly message people for their opinion.

[sleepypersonality]

Thank yo all so much! I’ve been reading up on everything and I’m learning a lot already.

[MadelynVictoria]

There's a tumblr called library for kinksters that may be useful to you I looked through it a lot, and it has some pretty helpful articles.

 

I agree wholeheartedly with CaresALot's first rule. If a guy demands you call him daddy off the bat, run for the hills.

 

Another piece of advice is take your time. This dynamic needs a good, solid, open, and trusting relationship to grow and flourish, so don't dive in immediately with the first person you meet that wants to be your daddy. Take the time to get to know them, and build your dynamic up.