TW I don't want to show daddy

[Princesspoopybutt]

So a question for littlest and caregivers if the big asked to see something you really don't want them to see but they probably should what do you do?

 

Basically my daddy asked to see my ouchies today and while I know it would probably be best if he saw them I still don't like the idea of it to an extent where I don't know if I can bring myself to show him.

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

If this is about self-harm then I believe in disclosure.

 

If this is about injuries in general then I still believe in disclosure.

 

Most partners (regardless of role) probably want to know about injuries because they care about the other person's emotional and physical wellbeing. And sometimes it's just good to have a second set of eyes. In my own relationship we don't hide things from each other, even when it makes things uncomfortable, because it breaks down communication.

[Guest GiveMeMyTeddy]

I agree with aphroditelaughs. I think it's very important to be completely honest and open with your significant other. It depends on how much trust you have in that person though, and how long you've been together. If it's a real, committed relationship, then you shouldn't hide anything. But if you've just started dating and you don't feel totally comfortable with that person (although, I'm not sure you'd be calling him your daddy if you didn't feel comfortable with him), then maybe you should just be honest about THAT, and tell them you're not comfortable with that yet. I hope this helps at all!

[Guest Arc]

Communication and trust are so important in relationships. I you have a legitimate reason not to them communicate that and work out where to go from there. Otherwise think about if you trust him or not to show him, and if you don't, think of what it would take for you to get to a point to trust him and communicate that with him. 

[WanderingWonderland]

So a question for littlest and caregivers if the big asked to see something you really don't want them to see but they probably should what do you do?

 

Basically my daddy asked to see my ouchies today and while I know it would probably be best if he saw them I still don't like the idea of it to an extent where I don't know if I can bring myself to show him.

 

Given the TW in the title am I right in thinking these are self harm ouchies?

 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling sensitive about such things. It's perfectly understandable. Discomfort is something you simply need to be honest about and clearly communicate with your partner. Just as Arc said above, communication and trust are very important. You cannot help feeling the way you do, but communicating those feelings is within your power. Being open and honest about those feelings will help you both get to a better 'place' of comfort and understanding.

[Siniwit]

Well, for once, I have a relatively short reply to give: If you don't want to show anything or if you're uncomfortable with anything, you do not have to; plain and simple.

It is ultimately your choice what you do and how much you submit. Submission does not necessarily equal TPE and does not necessarily mean he can simply get you to do whatever he wants. You need to establish that you will stand your ground if you're not comfortable and don't want to do something, so that in future situations where he may ask something of you which again you're not keen on, he will already understand that you'll say no if need be. You are allowed to say no. You have a right to say no. You are in control of your body and what you choose to share of it.

You, as the submissive are asking him to take care of you and your body. Yes, if it would help him to take care of you, he could do to see ouchies, but he cannot expect you to show him and should respect if you're not happy doing so. There are other ways he can take care of you and your ouchies without seeing them. If he's a good Daddy, he won't push for that and will accept you holding firm on that. These things hold great significance and if and when you're ready, you'll share them with him. He should fully comprehend and understand why you would be anxious to and accept if you don't want to.

​What I would, however, suggest, is that if you're struggling with things like that, you might be better off at least discussing with him that it's happening so that he can support you in overcoming it, as, long-term, it won't be helpful if he's kept in the dark about something so important. You do need to feel ready to do so, but it's something you should probably try to bring yourself to discuss.

​Hope that helps.

Edited May 28, 2018 by Siniwit

[MadelynVictoria]

If you're uncomfortable with showing him, I personally feel you shouldn't have to. What you should do, though, is be open with him if you do hurt yourself, and talk with him if you feel like hurting yourself

[CaresAlot]

When it comes to safety uncomfortable needs to be pushed to the side and you need to have full disclosure.  Ouchies can be a splinter or it can be something more serious.  All ouchies have a potential to become worse or to become something that is repeated time after time.  If you don't let your Daddy see them and something happens to you, you might as well stab him in the heart.  Your safety is the number responsibility of a Daddy.  There is nothing more important and him failing at keeping you safe would be devastating.

 

If a Little fell in to a swimming pool and could not get out.  She did not want to yell for help because she's uncomfortable because she wasn't suppose to be in the pool.  So if we let her make that decision then she is going to drown.  A good Daddy is going to hear that splash and come running to pull her out.

 

Part of being a Daddy is knowing when you have to step in and make sure your Little is safe.