LDR help - good morning and goodnight

[Guest Notme]

I was wondering if there are ways to be less reliant on good morning and goodnight messages from my daddy.

We've only been together a couple of months but have spent two times IRL together.

I know he cares lots for me but the messages 'slip' sometimes. He does get busy and has a daughter who he has custody of who needs a lot if his time (and rightly so!).

I'm finding myself getting anxious at night waiting for him to msg, and can't get going in the mornings until he msgs.

Sometimes I will msg, which is fair enough, but I feel like I'm having to drive this, which also makes me stressed and is the opposite of what I need/want.

I'm sure my daddy doesn't want this and I don't want him stressed about his responsibilities. I'm just getting scared of my feelings about this.

[Guest SUeB]

Hate to add extra fuel to the fire, but i see absolutely no reason why someone cannot do such a simple thing. i am a single parent of three kids, and have never once missed a good morning or goodnight text to my Daddydom Master. Not once in almost a year of being together.

Now, i am not saying it's ok to sweat the small stuff. Many people don't bother with daily contact, or texts at certain times of the day. That's perfectly okay. But if he knows it matters to you, then that suggests a lack of consideration for your feelings. Nobody is too busy to say good morning and goodnight.

[Guest Notme]

SUeB I understand what you're saying. I think I need to make it clear how important it is to me. He knows that I get anxious about things and wants to help it. But maybe not this specifically. I'm sure there are ways to improve this but I need him to find them.

The other issue though is that this feeling scares me. The vulnerability.

[Guest SenpaiPleaseNoticeMe]

Long distance is hard and often needs creativity to make things work. He probably gets busy and even though he wants to send you messages, there are things prohibiting it. May I suggest having him write you a variety of good morning messages that you can read when he can't personally send them. He could even put them in an Easter egg and make it more fun to open or fold them into paper stars. You could even make a "I miss you, Daddy" kit by filling it with those heart shaped Valentines Day candies that say "Your mine." and other things. Write something amazing about yourself on a bandaid and put it on until you can have your Daddy read what you wrote on the band aid. (This would be a great way to make him say something really funny or something you've been needing/wanting to hear from him.)

 

Just some ideas, I hope this helps. <3

[Guest Notme]

Thank you Senpai. I did tell him how important it is and it has been a bit better and he said he will do his very best. I do truly believe him. I hadn't found my little until after we met, so my needs have sort have increased a bit and I don't think he realised.

I did get scared about how much it upset me but I think I just have to be brave! The only thing is that I worry if this is how it will always be, but I guess that's with anything in the beginning. It's not a deal breaker, at least not until I get my little side settled (I'm still adjusting).

Those ideas are really good. I also thought I could ask him to record a goodnight message and send it to me when he has a couple of minutes through the day, so I can use it as a 'back up' if he can't say goodnight before I have to go to bed.

In saying that, I don't feel right in doing all the work on this. I know it's a two way street, but it also takes me out of my submissive nature a little bit. I guess that's how it is being little in a big world : )