This might just be me.

[TheDaddyest]

I'm pretty sure it's not. But Other daddies don't have a daddy space like an equivalent thing to little space right?

 

I'm just me. My natural state is just a bit dominant and a caregiver. I can't go into a separate head space to deal with a problem like anxiety or sadness. 

 

I wish I could but I don't have the ability. 

 

I have a Dom space similar to a sub space. But those spaces are very different than Little space. 

 

 

What do other people think?

[Rebel]

Yeah I'm the same way, so you're not alone. "Daddy space" is just my natural headspace (though there are different levels, like gears in a transmission). How I deal with shit is doing stuff I enjoy, if it's as simple as going for a drive or listening to music. When I'm pissed/stressed/etc, I'll typically go to a shooting range, go play airsoft, something that lets off a lot of steam quickly without doing anything that could hurt people (with the exception of airsoft, but everyone is getting hurt, so..... XD). 

[Guest SUeB]

Master says He has no separate "space". He is naturally a daddydom. That's all the time. Sure, there are times when He feels more dominant or affectionate, etc, but that's like saying that i have a "silly space", cos sometimes i am more silly than others. Every mood gets stronger or weaker from one situation to another.

[TheDaddyest]

Yeah I'm the same way, so you're not alone. "Daddy space" is just my natural headspace (though there are different levels, like gears in a transmission). How I deal with shit is doing stuff I enjoy, if it's as simple as going for a drive or listening to music. When I'm pissed/stressed/etc, I'll typically go to a shooting range, go play airsoft, something that lets off a lot of steam quickly without doing anything that could hurt people (with the exception of airsoft, but everyone is getting hurt, so..... XD). 

 

Yeah. I have different levels too. I like the car metaphor. 

 

Yeah, exercise and physical activity has been really helpful to me too lately. I used to just get lost in video games before. 

 

I had very heavy conversation with a little last night and she got uncomfortable and said we both should retreat to our head spaces and relax and be happy and carefree. It was super jarring. I  felt oddly inadequate, 

 

Thanks for the responses!

[Guest ArcticFoxy]

My ex daddy hardly felt like a daddy or a dom from time to time and a couple times I was able to trigger the Daddy side of him. His daddy space was more of a going from feeling like a vanilla relationship/normal to feeling like a daddy and/or dom. It's different for everyone. Some people are constantly in the headspace that they take on, and others have to switch into that headspace for the role in the relationship. If I make sense. ^^;

[Little Illy]

Daddyspace is just like littlespace - it is real and valid for some, yet totally not necessary or a thing for others.

 

As above, most CGs will express they don't have a headspace that reinforces their Daddy side, yet it doesn't have to be such a large thing. A Daddyspace can be as simple as a Daddy prepping himself mentally to punish (not FUNISH) his little. A lot of CGs do not, in fact, like punishing their little, and so they fortify their mind because they know punishments are what was agreed upon and will help deter that kind of the behavior in the future.

 

He could get Top Drop (or Dom Drop, Daddy Drop, etc) because the feelings are so overwhelming that it causes the Daddy to crash. My Daddy has been getting some Daddy drop lately because of how badly I have been hurt over this last week. All day he has been the ultimate caregiver to make sure I recover okay, and at the end of the day he feels this drop. Its like taking off a tightly tailored jacket. You have to wear it to be supportive, but once it comes off everything decompresses and is sensitive. Which is just ONE possibility, or it may never happen like that. 

 

You also have session-based Daddyspace, where the two may get into a more in-depth session (sexual, non sexual, DDlg, BDSM, etc) and the Daddy allows himself to unleash things that he may not be able to express in a daily basis. Think about when you haven't seen your partner for weeks or months, those feelings that flood to the surface... it can easily be said that during a session the same emotional response may happen, which means a headspace is entered.

 

A headspace/mindset doesn't necessarily diminish what a CG/Daddy feels on a daily life, just like "littlespace" is the same for littles. It doesn't have to actually be an entirely different "persona" or way of acting, but rather a way of processing emotions and what is going on around you/him.

 

Of course this is true for all CGs, not just Daddies. And of course not every CG experiences this, just like not all littles have a littlespace. But more of a friendly reminder that a headspace doesn't necessarily mean a black and white element of the dynamic. 

Edited May 27, 2018 by Little Illy