Moving on from a strong dd/lg relationship

[Big Daddy Smillie]

So i'm out of a dd/;g relationship and I've been struggling to fully move of. whenever an opportunity shows itself I get too frustrated or too unenthused to follow through. What's the best way to get past the intense and very loving situation I have had to leave behind.

[Lilkitten12]

A lot of time. Give yourself time to heal- I also got out of a very long (18yrs), very intense DDlg relationship. It was a mutual parting of ways and we are on good terms but I honestly thought I would never be able to fully move on. Some days are sadder than others but finally after a year and a half I have more good days than bad. Also I don’t know how you left it with the other person in your previous relationship but what helped me a lot was limiting our contact because it was so easy to fall into old patterns. I too tried to find another relationship right out of the gate but it was too soon- I too easily fell into submission, which felt dangerous to me when meeting new potential partners- so I also needed to take the time to really work on myself and that too helped me to move on.

Good luck- I know things will get better <3

LK

[Big Daddy Smillie]

Thanks for the advice dude, I'll keep it In mind.

 

I appreciate you giving me advice in this tough time and opening up about a sucky time in your life so enjoy yourself, have a good day and have a beer on me.

 

Thank you

[Guest SUeB]

It's the exact same principle, no matter what the specifics of the relationship. You just get on with it. Take every day as it comes. There's no special trick, or magic fix. Time. That's literally it.

[Guest Arc]

Time. That's about all you can do. It's just like coming out of any relationship - it sucks, it hurts, it takes time to be ready for another. 

 

Just do things for yourself and take some time out. Trying and getting frustrated that it's not working will only keep you back for longer. 

[neworder]

I know exactly what you mean when you are unenthusiastic. You are sort of in limbo between being over the last one and almost ready for the next.

 

You are naturally passing by the not so perfect matches that you may have been interested in if you were thirsty.

 

If your perfect match comes around, you'll kind of wake up out of the haze.... just keep up communication with her til you get out of the funk.