New Member looking for advice.

[ThatGuyDryBones]

Hey so I'm fairly new to all of this,but I am quite interested. If you are a little or a daddy/mommy I just want to know how things work as well as what's proper behaviour of a daddy. I also want to see if this is for me.

[Winnie]

Well, all DDLG relationships are different, but there are some basic guidelines about whether you're actually in a DDLG relationship or if you're confusing the lifestyle for a Dom/Sub relationship. While the two can intertwine, they are separate entities. Here's an example. D/S relationships are like rectangles and DDLG relationships are like squares. A Square (or DDLG relationship) can be a rectangle (or a D/S relationship) but a rectangle cannot be a square. I use this example because a rectangle is defined as a quadrilateral with two sets of parallel lines and four right angles. A square is defined as a quadrilateral with four right angles and four congruent sides, but the sides, even though they're made up by the same size line, are two sets of parallel lines. (Sorry, I'm kinda a HUGE nerd. >~<)

 

Anyways, the basic principals of DDLG are the way the caregiver and the little interact.

 

I like to use these pictures as reference to new caregivers/littles. http://cdnstatic.visualizeus.com/thumbs/00/bd/00bd61c4b0fc6632a62f51a3a4244d5c_i.jpgand http://40.media.tumblr.com/013c25e79280ce7d9f71a3ddfb2faa8d/tumblr_mu0y0iybFm1sjcfq2o1_500.png and https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/0a/f3/90/0af3903da9be9cf4b8535e167e9dedf1.jpg

 

So, basic things a caregiver should know:

 

1. Littles are adults, and not every little likes being treated like a baby.

2. Some littles aren't always in Littlespace.

3. DDLG IS NOT ABOUT SEX. It can have sexual parts, but it's mostly about the love and devotion to one another.

4. Caregivers must always be patient. Littles can be like children, we will test our boundaries and sometimes we are shy.

5. Get to know your little, each one is unique. Get to the point where you can know they're upset without them telling you.

6. TALK!! Sit your little down and discuss punishments, rules, and hard and soft limits.

7. You must be willing to behave like your little's parent in a way. You must nurture them, challenge their minds, kiss boo boos, play with stuffies, cuddle all the time, and above all else, protect them. You, as a Daddy Dom, will be the person that no one else can compare to, you will be their whole world, and they, if treated right, will give you their undying devotion. You can either charish this power or abuse it, but a real Daddy Dom can have his little at his every beck and call, but will instead treat him or her like the treasure they are.

8. Get used to being around stuffies, pacifiers, sippy cups and or bottles, crayons, coloring books, and lots and lots of frilly, adorable, fluffy things.

9. Be willing to change diapers. Some littles wear diapers and as their Daddy, they'll want you to change them, but not all littles wear diapers, just know that it is a possibility.

10. Your princess will always come first. If he or she doesn't, you're not a real Daddy Dom.

 

Also, go to the caregiver cafe. Read through the topics, they will help. And go to Littlespace, it'll help you understand the minds of us littles. A lot of Caregivers read the topics to learn more about the workings of our minds.

 

Um, I think that's a good start, let me know if you have any questions or concerns. I honestly hope this lifestyle is for you because it's the most beautiful thing in the world.