Does the “1950s” house wife.......

[Guest CTDaddy4LittleG]

Style of kink fit into DDLG play or lifestyle? Or is it completely separate?

 

I feel like the submission and other stuff is similar but maybe it’s a completely different thing- I haven’t seen it really given a name besides “1950s style house wife.”

 

Is there more the this kink and it’s relation if any- to DDLG?

[Guest kinosis1979]

1950s housewife is exactly what I am looking for!

[PizzaOnARoof]

I think in this day and age thats sort of an unrealistic expectation. Let alone common enough to be considered a "kink"

[Guest infinitecases]

I don't think its something directly related to DDLG - submission across most of BDSM might be pointing you towards the same thing if you're thinking along those lines? 

 

It's less of a kink for me, more just what I want out of life and to be like a '1950s housewife' and I find this has no relation to me being a little whatsoever however does relate a lot to me being a sub. Everything almost intertwines for me, however I don't associate being little and little space with that, more so with my D/S relationship with my Daddy instead, since it's a traditional family setup and I have as much responsibility as Daddy to look after the family and make sure he's happy/tending to his needs. You can definitely fit it into your lifestyle if that's what you want! It fits perfectly in mine, but of course, your little would also want to have the same thing as everyone has different preferences! 

[Guest SUeB]

Anything can fit into anything else. In my relationship, He is Daddy, Master, Owner etc, and when we live together, He will also most definitely be Head of Household. Nothing has to be kept separate if you're more than one thing. It all can run very smoothly together.

[xBabydollx]

Something that may be of interest to u is the Gorean community in the Master/slave dynamic. The ideals are super gender driven with men basically being 'head of house' and very traditional in its expectations of how men and woman behave. It can fit ur 1950's fantasy or ideal lifestyle very well. Besides that, perhaps u can look into service subs as they often enjoy providing service like that of a housewife. I find what u speak of mostly common in Master/slave, Owner/pet, or regular D/s. Not so much DD/lg, but it can exist. It's very common for ppl to be more than 1 type of Dominant, or more than 1 type of submissive. u can be a mix of things and so can ur little. Everything can fit together beautifully when u truly find someone compatible.

[Guest CTDaddy4LittleG]

It’s strange that to me that this is now a “kink” I suppose- I get that DDLG doesn’t have super huge appeal or has a stigma- but 1950s housewife used to be a real thing.......

 

I think I was meant for a different decade lol!

I wonder how long DDLG has been around or if there is any “history” to it.

Edited May 21, 2018 by CTDaddy4LittleG

[xBabydollx]

Its not necessarily a kink. There are plenty of vanilla ppl who live a very traditional lifestyle with men being head of the house, and woman being the homemakers. It becomes a kink when the submission of it all becomes heavily inclined, or when the wife becomes treated (consentually) as property. I believe like most things, DD/lg always been around, just wasnt a popular word for it.

[Guest Arc]

Like everything, it can fit if you want it. There's no right or wrong way to do things. It's what you want and what you make of it. 

[Little Illy]

Something that may be of interest to u is the Gorean community in the Master/slave dynamic. The ideals are super gender driven with men basically being 'head of house' and very traditional in its expectations of how men and woman behave. It can fit ur 1950's fantasy or ideal lifestyle very well. Besides that, perhaps u can look into service subs as they often enjoy providing service like that of a housewife. I find what u speak of mostly common in Master/slave, Owner/pet, or regular D/s. Not so much DD/lg, but it can exist. It's very common for ppl to be more than 1 type of Dominant, or more than 1 type of submissive. u can be a mix of things and so can ur little. Everything can fit together beautifully when u truly find someone compatible.

 

The Gorean dynamic is quite beautiful if a Master/Slave dynamic is what you desire (not directed to OP - just stating in general). Their life is filled with rituals, symbolism, devoting and a lot more that happens within typical D/s or M/s dynamics. They even have specific colored attire for the slave to wear depending on the occurrence; greeting the Master, day-to-day, having guests over, going out for familial commitments, going out for fun, etc. Its so gorgeous to watch these members work in their lifestyle because most people would consider it an extreme version of M/s. 

 

As for the 1950's lifestyle; I know a lot of kinksters who want this style because it truly enforces the D/s dynamic. The man provides and the woman takes care of him. The man protects the woman, and the woman appreciates him. The man provides structure and safety, the woman takes that and creates a home. Together they create both sides of the equation and quite a few Doms and subs love this set up.

 

I think it is a Schrödinger's Kink - It isn't a kink until a person realizes the power play that works for them. Even back in the 50's, the men had all the power. Women went from their first Dominant Male figure (Their father or grandfather or uncle, etc) straight to their husband's house. And that is where they stayed. The men had the power and the women provided them comfort. Together they built a relationship and home.

Edited May 21, 2018 by Little Illy

[Guest BabyPeach]

 

 

Even back in the 50's, the men had all the power. Women went from their first Dominant Male figure (Their father or grandfather or uncle, etc) straight to their husband's house. And that is where they stayed. The men had the power and the women provided them comfort. Together they built a relationship and home.

 

I think the key words here are "and that is where they stayed".  Divorce wasn't so easy, and rampant, back then.  These days, it's so easy for a man to leave and the woman who has been a devoted housewife with no career has to start from the bottom and somehow try to make up for lost time in the workforce.  Gone are the days of alimony. 

 

With that said, no it isn't a kink.  I'm actually more of a traditionalist when it comes to a relationship (besides the fact that I think EVERYONE, man or woman, should be able to support themselves well financially and have their own money).  I don't do yard work, etc.  That's a man's job.  I cook dinner and serve a good meal. That's a woman's job.  Can a man make dinner?  Of course, it's endearing.  Omg, I've gotten off track, lol.  My point is, is that even before I was into DDlg, BDSM, etc. that's how I was.

 

I guess it can also come down to how you were raised.  I was raised in a southern home to be pretty, engaging, pleasing, well put together and to assume a traditional female role in a household.

[Little Illy]

I guess it can also come down to how you were raised.  I was raised in a southern home to be pretty, engaging, pleasing, well put together and to assume a traditional female role in a household.

 

Only in my opinion - I am not belittling your position! - but for those of us who haven't lived in the "traditional" household or with those values passed down, this can easily be a kink.

 

For me, for instance. I have 3 degrees, plan on getting 2 advanced degrees, have a career, start an international business, etc. However, for me, the thought of 1950's household is nothing but oppression because of what you mentioned above (how the women were stuck). But, for a woman like me it IS a kink because it is so abnormal for my normal mentality. And it is a kink to me because it fits with the D/s dynamic I crave (TPE). So for me, it works as a kink. For someone who grew up with a "traditional" lifestyle, this wouldn't be a kink, it would be a normal way of life.

 

That is why I called it Schrödinger's Kink; it is independent to each person to how the react to this lifestyle. For me it is a kink, for you it would be seen as normal. So it either is a kink or is not depending on the person!

 

Also, the quotes around traditional is only because it varies from person to person what traditional is - I am in no way devaluing someone's traditions. 

Edited May 22, 2018 by Little Illy

[PinkiePie84]

I personally combine them but that's because they're both strong parts of my personality.

[xBabydollx]

I think the key thing is that back then, that sort of arrangement was expected/even enforced, not so much an 'option' or 'consented to' (not all of the time). Even if u didn't want to 'submit' to ur husband, u was very much expected to be that doting wif simply because of ur sex and popular social standards at that time. Nowadays ppl can choose that sort of traditional lifestyle or not. Even more so with like Gorean, it can be taken to another level. Gorean is quite intriguing in how they do things.