Any Advice for Rule Making?

Hallo

Well that's a bit of a loaded question, isn't it?

I'm not certain on how experienced either of you are in BDSM or DDlg, but I can offer a few starting rules suggestions. It's always better to start small and add stuff in later, as you grow, together.

The core of any agreement when it comes to rules, should really be about self-fulfilment and guided growth.

The first thing I'll suggest is more a generic Dominant rule and I feel it should be an expected part of any agreement:

Obey commands and instructions to the best of your ability.

A few other basics could be:

Always try to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, including any inhibitions.
Always be clear, open and honest about thoughts, feelings and desires without feeling embarrassed or ashamed; to try not to hesitate to communicate anything pressing or important.
Speak only in a way He deems appropriate for each circumstance or situation; always be respectful of Daddy.
Always accept any punishment, whether it feels earned or not.
Adhere to food and drink instructions as best as possible, in the interest of keeping your body healthy and happy. - Possibly discuss set eating times? Could even write a regular meal plan each week?
Adhere to bedtime, always.
Never masturbate or indeed climax without permission.
Good morning/Goodnight texts when not waking up or going to sleep together.
Never back-talk or be argumentative towards Daddy.
Never "ignore" and give the "silent treatment".
Always wear your collar.
Ask for permission to leave the conversation (applicable irl and online), for things such as bathroom breaks, phone calls, stepping outside to cool off after an argument etc.
Ask permission to eat sweets/candies
Always keep yourself groomed and well-taken care of, physically

As for punishment and rewards:

Might I suggest using something like Choremonster.com; it's a site/app developed for parents where kids can interact with the tasks that have been set and mark them as complete in order to earn points which can then be redeemed for rewards.

Your Daddy can set both the "chores" ("to do list" items) and the rewards and monitor progress and/or marking the rewards as complete. Failure to complete, then gives reason for punishments, which can be things such as the following:

Writing lines - Could be anything from 10 lines, straight forward, to maybe 50+ lines whilst alternating colours and writing styles (ie block capitals or italic/cursive writing)
Cold showers
Obviously spankings
Use of a crop or flogger or similar
Edging/denial of orgasm
Early bedtime
Confiscation of things such as time spent on YouTube/Netflix and the like, games, social media access etc.
Holding certain positions for a specific amount of time.
Degrading terms to be written on the body.
Panties removal, depending on how appropriate that is due to circumstances.

And things of that nature... Should never be a consideration to revoke access to stuffies, or to ignore/give "time outs" et al. as these can have horrible emotional impact on a little.

Regarding rewards:

These can be wide-ranging, from simple things such as:

More sweets
Late bedtime
Extra game/hobby time
Playtime (both the non-sexual and sexual kind, depending on your dynamic)
Movie night of your choice
Stickers, and arts/crafts accessories
Colouring books

To, more significant or expensive things such as:

Buying gifts from your Amazon wishlist
Jewellery
Custom collar
Stuffies
Toys (sexual and non-sexual)
Clothing, including but not limited to lingerie
Membership to something (eg: Xbox live/Playstation Plus, or something similar etc.)
Bath toys

Hope that's useful for at least some inspiration? Let us know how you get on and what you guys decide on, together!

Edited May 20, 2018 by Siniwit

May 20, 2018

Thank you all these are all really helpful!!

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