Do you talk to other Dom/mes if you're in a relationship?

[Guest danithebrat]

I'm not new to the lifestyle but I'm fairly new to the community, and I have a quick question.

If you're a little, do you talk to other Mommies or Daddies when you're in a relationship?

I've always been really friendly and love to talk to all kinds of people, but lately I've had a few less than savory encounters and I've had friends that recommend swearing off talking to anyone but littles, DD's especially. I hate to lose that many potential valuable friendships, so that's why I posted this question to the community.

Thoughts? Thank you for your input!

[Child Of Light]

I don't see why not? I am 100% upfront with anyone I speak to, that I'm very taken!

[Guest _BabyKitty_]

I can talk to other Daddies/Mommies but not without my Daddy's permission! As long as they are friendly and respectful my Daddy doesn't have a problem with it.

[Guest Prat]

I'm taken and I talk to people. I make sure to make it clear that I have someone and am only interested in talking.

[Guest lalalaluna]

Sure do. I would have to lose a lot of friends I made before discovering I'm a little/ middle. For me I don't really talk to them while I'm littling or in littlespace unless my DD or someone trusted is around to prevent things going weird. 

[Guest Dulci]

I don't see any problems with speaking to other daddies - but I've noticed a lot of daddies won't talk if you're in a relationship/with a daddy.

[Guest danithebrat]

I try to be very upfront as well. I guess I just have my fair share of people who aren't very respectful.

Thank you for the input!

[Guest ScorpioBeastWolf]

Mostly real true DD itself will not approach a little /Sub if she/he are in relationship. If a little /Sub adds them as friend, they agree to talk with a line of respect, as they may be of some help for the little /Sub if needed. A little/Sub if is in an agreement that she cannot talk to another DD I would say they must not, but if their DD has no issues for sure they can talk to explore more and learn more. But real DD will always be aware not to break the line of respect.

[Daddysprincesspoles]

I go to events and have for years. Good Doms will be friendly but respectful of the fact that I have a DD. Yes there are those out there that will not respect that boundary- but the same can be said for any collective, so I keep my wits about me and choose my friendships as other friendships, with care. 

If you go on a night out you are likely to encounter someone being vulgar or trying it on when your DD is at the bar etc, its no different I guess.

[Guest aphroditelaughs]

I do. Like others have said, I'm not looking for anything more than friendship and I won't bother talking if the conversation starts going the other way.

[Guest danithebrat]

I guess I'm just not sure how to really approach things. I'm never flirty or act in a way that I feel would be disrespectful to my relationship or the relationship of anyone else involved.

I mean I know the obvious manners of speaking to anyone, I guess I just don't know if there are any unspoken rules or things that would be less obvious if you were new to the community.

[Guest SUeB]

i will talk to them on public group discussions if i have an opinion or thought about something they have said, but never by private message, or if its obvious that they would never have any interest in me in a sexual/romantic way. It's only happened a couple of times, and only after talking to my Master about it. He trusts me 100%, and He would never have any reason not to, but it's just a mark of my respect and loyalty to Him. Plus the fact i could not be less interested in talking to other men, other than purely platonically. Master has female friends, and i have male friends in the real world, because we have mutual trust. The fact of them being doms or otherwise has nothing to do with it.

[princessfreckles]

When I had a Daddy, I spoke to friends who were Dom/mes and there was never an issue. It was actually helpful to get some advice and feedback on things in our relationship. He spoke to other littles for the same reason because we were in the same boat and learning along the way. Also, the Daddies and Mommies were my friends before I belonged to him, so I wasn't about to give up a good friendship. That proved to be a good decision when he disappeared on me because they were very supportive. 

 

Like any vanilla relationship as long as there is honest and clear communication between you and your Caregiver, I don't see why you shouldn't speak to other Caregivers as long as they know you're happy with your current Daddy or Mommy and aren't looking to change things. 

[Guest Babykitkat 23]

I would. But not in the sense of me trying to have more then one partner. If some one comes with a genuine friend request I accept it and so on. But if it's just a DD,MD,OR CG who wants a relationship I will tell them I am in one and I don't feel comfortable talking with a Dom that is not just wanting to be a friend. If my DD didn't like me talking to other DOMs on the site I would not talk with other DOMs anymore. But if I want friends I am allowed to have friends

[~Lost_Little_Searching~]

It seems my Daddy and I are pretty open compared to the traditional DD/lg relationship.  He's fine with me befriending and talking to other DDs, CGs, MDs, etc. as long as they are respectful of our relationship and aren't trying to actively come between us.

[Guest Arc]

To me they're just people. Their role they prefer doesn't change that primarily they are a person. I'm not going to refuse to talk to someone based on the role they would take with someone if they were in a relationship. I'd only refuse if they were not respectful of my relationships, but I would refuse that with anyone regardless of if they're a dominant. 

[Guest BabyPeach]

Not really. It's just a personal preference.

[LittleKitten13]

I don't like to talk to them often in a one on one setting.  To me it feels very disrespectful to my boyfriend/Papa.  I'm not going to be rude or just cut someone out of my life, but I won't go super out of my way to talk to them.

There are a few exceptions, usually people I've known for forever, or mutual friends that we both know well.

[xBabydollx]

I'm not taken, but when I was in dynamics, I talked to whoever I wanted regardless of their title. There is tons of perks of having friends with different exp than u. Leads to some awesome advice usually imo because it can allow u to see things from another side without the bias view of ur partner. If someone steps out of line even after being warned of ur unavailability, then they clearly don't respect u or ur relationship...so why try to maintain a friendship with them? I see those types of ppl as toxic, and personally dismiss them from my life. Some ppl like the aspect of not talking to anybody on the opposite side of the kneel than them, or like requiring to ask permission to talk to ppl on the opposite side of the kneel than them, and all of that is perfectly ok, but personally not my cup of tea. I like to make my own decisions on who will and will not be my friend. I always suggest anyone to be wary of Dom/me's who demand control of who u can and can not be friends with, or talk to (those who demand it/don't make it an option, not referring to the ppl when it is mutually agreed upon to be a feature of their relationship without any pressure from the Dom/me).

[Angel24]

I don't often talk to other Daddies, but when I do I make sure they know I've already got a Daddy aaaaand that's where they usually stop talking to me lol. Although to be honest, most conversations I have with other Daddies are about how great I think my own Daddy is XD It's definitely something you should discuss with your own caregiver, so you can be on the same page about how they feel about it.

[ForeverDD]

It's all about the rules, regulations and agreements made between the D and the little /Sub. We all are human and we want to meet new people and get to make friends. But the thing is how much we trust in ourselves and the other. If a rule is made that my Sub cannot talk to other D, I think she never will or ask my permission to talk to the other, this way I know who she is talking to me. But I will never make such a rule, because when I have been honored by her, I trust she means it and will never do something wrong. But as I said we are all different and all D have their rules and regulations, so a little /Sub must follow what the D says and wants.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

As a group interaction I will talk to others Dom's but on a 1 to 1 basis I won't. It's just a rule in my dynamic

[LittleprincessKenzie187]

The way i look at is is as long as you arent doing anything your partner isnt okay with then its fine! i mean if your paretner is okay with you talking to another dom/me then i wouldnt see what the big deal is as long as you are upfrint and honest to people that you are taken! and as long as you stay loyal to your partner and ya know tell them if somoenone tries to do anything uckies

[Big Daddy D]

Although a certain somebody who responded to this thread is super adorable based on their profile pick, (no real purpose in mentioning that), my little and I haven't invited anyone else into our circle. She's free to talk to and befriend anyone she likes without my permission. I trust her to behave and she's never disappointed Daddy. We've talked about play dates, and other possibilities but she knows I'm not ready for that. I've been a DL as far as I can remember, these days I perfer a Daddy role and seldom wear myself (My Little and I just call it Daddy Being Silly when I do). She's had a wild life for such a little girl, I've had my fantasies and desires, but overall I've led a pretty Vanilla life. Daddy likes that his Princess is so adventurous and likes to show Daddy fun new things. I would like to meet other cg/little couples, but not ready to invite them into our special play time. I have no interest in pleasing anyone but my little girl, and I'm definitely not ready to see someone else get her off or vise versa. I love her so much, I'm not sure I ever would be. Edited May 15, 2018 by Big Daddy D

[Guest Little Otter]

Sort of. I probably wouldn't reach out to any Mommies here because this is inherently operating as a dating site too, but I have a IRL friend that's a Domme I've known since high school. So that's an obvious exception.