Do you need your little as much as they need you..?

[Hidden Daddy]

Hello..

 

As the question says do you feel like you need your little as much as they need you sometimes..

 

I will say in my own experience with my little princess as we grow In our relationship together. She has become something I rely on to help me though my life at times. Honestly I probably worry about her more than she worries about me. She keeps me together but I'm also always terrified it might end and I wouldn't know what to do....

 

 

Do you other more experienced Dom's/ caregivers ever feel like that about your little.. I'm interested to find out if I'm the only one or if it's common.

[theguyinthelake]

I'm not super experienced, but yes, I'd say so. My girl isn't just my little, she is my life partner. I come to her with my fears, concerns, etc. as much as she comes to me. I also worry she'll leave, but we communicte pretty well so it comes and goes. It's more related to my insecurities than the relationship itself or her. If there's no grounds for you to feel that way, try to remind yourself of that.

[Guest Mr.Stuffykins]

I do not currently have a little but I will speak from experience.

 

A little to me is my everything. When you devote your mind, heart, and soul to someone you grow attached to them. Your attachment to them becomes a necessity - you need her with you. You need to hear, see, touch, and feel her with you because deep down thats how you know its real. Thats how you know that that beautiful and amazing girl is yours. That is what reassures me everyday that I'm not dreaming. That I, me, this subpar daddy was able to charm such a perfect angel.

 

Do i need her as much as she needs me?

No

I need her more than that. I need her more than she'll ever know.

 

Its natural to feel insecure. That "it might end" because you may feel that you are unworthy of her. That you are undeserving of her love, dedication, and commitment, but that should motivate you to try your best! It should inspire you to do everything you can to show her, and youself, that you are good enough to be hers. You treat her like the princess she is so that she can make you feel like the wonderful daddy that you are.

Edited May 11, 2018 by Mr.Stuffykins

[Guest SUeB]

We "need" each other equally. That's a very subjective term though. It can mean very positive things, or very negative, things that smack of co-dependancy, certain types of immaturity and insecurity. For us it just means our lives are complete with one another. We are truly connected and in love, and would be truly devastated if the worst was to happen. In our situation, the worst would only be with one of us dying. We have made a lifelong commitment to one another, that will not be broken by any outside influences.

[Guest Prat]

I think this is something that depends more on the person than the role they take in a relationship.

 

I'm a very self sufficient person and don't really NEED anyone in my life at all. That being said I do have a little whom I love and she's very welcome in my life and hopefully it stays that way for a long while. If she would to leave me or if things ended for us in some other way, I wouldn't be happy about it ofc but at the same time I wouldn't feel lost and wouldn't feel a hole in me that I would need to fill up somehow. I would take a break to process the relationship from start to end and figure out what went wrong and if I should change something about myself in hope of improving myself before looking on. I would welcome this break wholeheartedly because being a Daddy can be very stressful sometimes.. but eventually I would look on, not because I need to but because I want to. I'm  apparently very good at it and I being in the role of a Daddy to someone fills me up and gives me a sense of purpose, which makes me feel good and happy and bla bla bla... My point is that I don't need to be a Daddy but want to be.

 

Now let me give you a very opposite example in my brother who is very immature by any standard. He just broke up with his gf and is talking about his life making no sense and has no motivation to continue his studies or even do anything else, can't eat, can't sleep, can't do anything besides think of schemes and tricks to make himself more appealing and attractive in hopes of getting her to come back to him because without her he feels pointless and worthless and etc. Also he's already thinking about finding a replacement so he wouldn't feel like this, in case they don't get back together.

I guess I could say here that he needs her and I don't think I would be wrong. And when I say need I do mean actually need, need like food, like water...

 

This need isn't something that I can understand.. Him being without his gf doesn't change much in his life. He's still the same human being he was a month ago, still has the same abilities, same pros and cons.. His life does not end because there's one less person in it...

 

Where does this need come from?

Is he weak for letting it control his life like this?

Is need vs want = weakness vs strength?

Am I wrong or proud for not feeling this need or is it a statement to my maturity and self-control..

Am I less human than he is because he responds like this and I do not?

 

I'd like to hear some comments on these thoughts if anyone would like to discuss the theme more.

 

P.S. There is no right or wrong way here, we are all human and react differently, I'm just in the mood for some psychological debate..

 

Have a nice day, Prat.

[~Lost_Little_Searching~]

I think this is something that depends more on the person than the role they take in a relationship.

 

I'm a very self sufficient person and don't really NEED anyone in my life at all. That being said I do have a little whom I love and she's very welcome in my life and hopefully it stays that way for a long while. If she would to leave me or if things ended for us in some other way, I wouldn't be happy about it ofc but at the same time I wouldn't feel lost and wouldn't feel a hole in me that I would need to fill up somehow. I would take a break to process the relationship from start to end and figure out what went wrong and if I should change something about myself in hope of improving myself before looking on. I would welcome this break wholeheartedly because being a Daddy can be very stressful sometimes.. but eventually I would look on, not because I need to but because I want to. I'm  apparently very good at it and I being in the role of a Daddy to someone fills me up and gives me a sense of purpose, which makes me feel good and happy and bla bla bla... My point is that I don't need to be a Daddy but want to be.

 

Now let me give you a very opposite example in my brother who is very immature by any standard. He just broke up with his gf and is talking about his life making no sense and has no motivation to continue his studies or even do anything else, can't eat, can't sleep, can't do anything besides think of schemes and tricks to make himself more appealing and attractive in hopes of getting her to come back to him because without her he feels pointless and worthless and etc. Also he's already thinking about finding a replacement so he wouldn't feel like this, in case they don't get back together.

I guess I could say here that he needs her and I don't think I would be wrong. And when I say need I do mean actually need, need like food, like water...

 

This need isn't something that I can understand.. Him being without his gf doesn't change much in his life. He's still the same human being he was a month ago, still has the same abilities, same pros and cons.. His life does not end because there's one less person in it...

 

Where does this need come from?

Is he weak for letting it control his life like this?

Is need vs want = weakness vs strength?

Am I wrong or proud for not feeling this need or is it a statement to my maturity and self-control..

Am I less human than he is because he responds like this and I do not?

 

I'd like to hear some comments on these thoughts if anyone would like to discuss the theme more.

 

P.S. There is no right or wrong way here, we are all human and react differently, I'm just in the mood for some psychological debate..

 

Have a nice day, Prat.

I'd like to discuss your question

I think it has more to do with the person.  While I may be extremely upset in the early part of the breakup, I slowly start piecing myself together and find myself again.  My friend on the other hand, is the complete opposite.  They are completely shattered over their ended relationship and have a hard time finding their way again because they are deeply influenced by the people they choose to invite into their lives.

-I'm not sure where the need comes from.  It may come down to the fact that people handle break ups and relationships differently.

-I don't think your brother is weak for that.  His girlfriend was a major part of his life.  She obviously had a great influence on him.  

-In this case, his want became his need.  So..I don't think this is a weakness versus strength sort of thing.

-You aren't wrong nor proud.  I think your loved ones have less of an impact on you as a person.  You see them as an added bonus to your already complete life, rather than people who have the power to influence you for better or for worse.

-I don't think you're less human....that's just how you process relationships.

[Guest McLeodLot65]

I think any good relationship that lasts needs to be equal for both partners, and this certainly applies to how much my little and I need each other. But it can be hard to see that. I sometimes wish she could see how much I need her, so she'd feel more safe and secure with me, because I do need her as much as she needs me, even if we have very different roles in the relationship.

[Angel24]

I think any good relationship that lasts needs to be equal for both partners, and this certainly applies to how much my little and I need each other. But it can be hard to see that. I sometimes wish she could see how much I need her, so she'd feel more safe and secure with me, because I do need her as much as she needs me, even if we have very different roles in the relationship.

 

My heart! You're making me feel all the feels T.T

I think us needing each other is part of what keeps us as close as we are, and what keeps us both going. I'll always be here for you Daddy <3

[Big Daddy D]

I do. I've never been as happy as I've been before I fell in love with my little. She's irreplaceable and she's my whole world. I would be crushed if I ever lost her and completely lost without her. I have a lot of love and affection to give, and sometimes it's too much for some women. I like my women clingy, I like knowing that I'm loved so much that you can't stop telling me every 5 minutes. It's why I love the Daddy/Little dynamic. I want to do everything for her anyway, the "too little to do it yourself" aspect just makes it fun and cute. As a person with DL tendencies, the cute diapers and outfits I get to buy for her just make it that much more fun. My favorite moments (even more than our naughty fun) are just cuddling on the couch while feeding her a bottle and cradling her in my arms. It's a type of pure intimacy that people outside of the lifestyle will never understand. After being married for 16 years to a woman who was emotionally dead inside, it's everything I feel I've needed my whole life. The best part is, I fell in love with Big Hope before I met my Little Princess HopeyO's. Now I love them both equally and can't imagine life without them both.