A Safe Call.

[Child Of Light]

This is a thread that is posted on another BDSM forum that I frequent.

 

I have noticed there isn't any guides for new members and those meeting up and venturing into meeting people online.

 

I had a safe call with my first Disciplinary/ Daddy Dom (Platonic) on a forum that I frequent -- and with my fiance (that I met on a vanilla dating site).

 

There is nothing embarrassing about confiding in someone that you are meeting someone for this. If need be contact one of the respected members (or a close friend) on the board and let them know where you will be and when and give them the number you can be reached.

 

Lots of things can happen and doing this can go very wrong. Not normally but on the rare occasion that something can happen then following advice having a safe call is important. So posting this shouldn't make anyone afraid but it should make you more aware and taking precautions is a wise thing to do.

 

I hope everyone continues to be safe. ♥

 

Edited May 7, 2018 by Child Of Light

[Guest Den]

It all falls down to common sense really. When meeting someone from online, you want to make sure you're actually comfortable doing so first. Then take precaution, such as meeting up in a public place, having a phone ready in case something goes down, etc.

[Child Of Light]

It all falls down to common sense really. When meeting someone from online, you want to make sure you're actually comfortable doing so first. Then take precaution, such as meeting up in a public place, having a phone ready in case something goes down, etc.

 

Not a lot of folks realize to do a safe call (even if your only meeting up pubically). And some people don’t feel comfortable. However, its honestly almost a must.

Edited May 7, 2018 by Child Of Light

[LB Chris]

I couldn't agree more, Child of Light as while most times everything is fine there is always the potential for things to go wrong whither you be a little or for that matter a Caregiver so having systems in place to help keep yourself safe makes perfect sense.

Thanks for the  thread.

[Guest Dulci]

Yeah always be SAFE! I've met so many people online and I'm perfectly safe - the one time something bad did happen to me (won't go into details) was with someone I knew in RL only !! So, really, you're not safe anyway! 

When I was 17, I used to go to anime expos and arrange to meet people there (we were all into anime and stuff and were going there anyway) - and it was so much fun! I loved meeting all my online friends -  so, make sure it's a public place, tell someone (I love the suggestion of someone on this board, but that's a lot of responsibility for that person, but if you have no one else in rl, it's a good shout). 

 

I'd also suggest to put on your big girl panties when you meet someone from here. I'm not saying don't be little, but, if you're anything like me, you're at your most vulnerable when in little space (I'm saying "generalised" you, as in, whoever is reading my reply!). I've known of some girls who had a DDLG playdate in London, they went with 2 daddies they had not met before - one of which kept taking lots of photos of them in littlespace, eating ice cream and all sorts of things that they were not comfortable with. The girls did not realise the amount until after when he was posting the pictures in a chat. Luckily, they were smart and went as a group, but if that was one on one, it could have been worse.

 

AND most of all - don't let anyone force you to meet up. If it's one of the first thing they ask (I've had it happen on here) that sends alarm bells. Talk first, establish a friendship, get to know them. 

All of this is my opinion, you might have a different experience! :3 

[Orguposnow]

Omg thanks you guys but i have difficultys not being in little space 24/7 im disabled also but hopeto meet someone one day any tips for me u guys?