Is this really okay?(LDR)

[Lil._.Princess]

I'm in a LDR right now (I'm a little) but whenever I don't listen to my Daddy even if its something small instead of doing any punishments he always just says "either listen or we're done" and stuff like that and with every other relationship I've been in it's not been like this and it really upset me because it be something as small as going to bed 10 minutes late on accident and he'll still do that..I'm just really confused on if this is okay or not because I've tried telling him that I don't like it sometimes but he says it is okay and that I need to deal with it and get used to it.. 

 

EDIT: Thank you all for the help. i broke it off with him for now we've decided to work on things out of a relationship for now

Edited May 5, 2018 by Lil._.Princess

[<toasterwafflelover>]

I would say no, he should understand that that makes you feel uncomfortable, respect that, and care for you in an according manner. Try explaining to him (adult to adult) specifically why you don't like it and what he could do instead. if he still doesn't respect you, it would probably be best to leave him. being a dom is good, but only when the sub consents to it. Just my opinion, though.

[Guest Arc]

Some people have these perfect idealistic views on what they want, and sometimes it can be a bit unrealistic. It sounds like he's just getting frustrated since he's threatening that. It's okay to want something different, but it's not okay to threaten like that. I think you should have a conversation with him about needs and expectations and how this is making you feel. If he can't respect your needs then you should consider how compatible you really are. 

[Guest cutelittlealice]

That does not sound healthy at all. He shouldn't be threatening to end things whenever you do not feel like complying with something. It’s also super concerning that he’s telling you that you just need to deal with it.

[Littlest_Bee]

It really doesn't sound like a good relationship then.

 

I don't know what exactly happened, just what you wrote here. Maybe you are (like me) a bit of a brat and have occasionally disobeyed smaller things on purpose because you wanted some kind of reaction and he might be one of those Doms who see that not as good fun but as a very annoying manipulation tactic - in that case you might just not be compatible and breaking up would be the best for both of you.

If all of those incidents were involuntary on your part then I can't think of anything that would excuse his behaviour.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Ultimatums are never healthy.. even if they're just joking. It's manipulation - plain and simple - and it's not the marker of a healthy relationship or maturity. If he actually acts like that.. hes a jerkwad. 

Edited May 5, 2018 by Lil' Miss Dolly