how to get to know a new caregiver?

[<toasterwafflelover>]

So I recently posted an ad on tumblr looking for daddies and got a message from one ^^ he seems nice though he's a bit old for me and I'm paranoid he's a catfisher because he's so attractive xD but I'll trust him since he sent me a picture from his camera on kik

 

was wondering what I should ask him to get to know him and see if I want him as my daddy

also, how fast should I move? when should I ask to be his little, and when should I ask for a rules/rewards/punishments system?

[BlueEyedDaddy]

Just as him as many questions as you have.  Be patient and go with the flow.

 

I wouldn't ask to be his little this early, focus on getting to know him better.

[Misslittlemandi]

The best relationships start as friendships. Get to know, what does he do for work- what does he wish his career should be? It sounds dumb but if you know what makes him tick and what lights up his world, when you begin a relationship it’ll feel natural. It’s just my opinion so take it with a grain of salt but having a ddlg relationship requires some level of trust, if your already friends then you may have some trust already built up. Anyways, good luck and I hope y’all have your happily ever after

[<toasterwafflelover>]

thanks guys

 

I'm also looking for specific things I should know about him, he should know about me etc. if anyone has any ideas

Edited May 5, 2018 by <toasterwafflelover>

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

I'm also looking for specific things I should know about him, he should know about me etc. if anyone has any ideas

I am confused by this. Do you mean within the ddlg context? Or do you mean this is your first realtionship and you aren't sure how to get to know someone? Or do you mean because this is an online thing?

 

Depending on your answers, I will have more for you. Based on what has been provided so far, these topics might be helpful:

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/8937-getting-attached-too-quickly/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/15700-rushing-ddlg-relationships/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22770-a-thousand-suns/

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/22927-signs-to-look-for-when-searching-for-a-new-relationship-partner/

[<toasterwafflelover>]

thank you, I'll check them out I mean both within the ddlg context and in general

[Soft-mommy78]

Don’t rush it at all. If he makes you call him daddy right away that is not good. That title is earned. Given to him when you are ready!!

[Guest Babykitkat 23]

Dont rush a relationship, Take your time. Make a list of questions you want to ask. Like

 

What kind of Dom are you.

What would be something they are looking to get out of this relationship.

Are they Momo or poly.

Are they a rule making Dom or a Dom who makes rules but very loose one's.

 

I would also say don't give out any other person social medias you use, such as Kik, FetLife, tumbler, ect. This can be a big no-no if the Dom isn't who they say they are and it can also give them more of your personal info. Wait and message on the forum until you feel like you really know this person and you feel safe giving out your other medias

[Angel24]

For stuff in general (like non-DDlg stuff) you could try looking up "questions to ask to get to know someone" on Pinterest or Google:) you can find some really fun questions that way. good luck! Edited May 12, 2018 by Angel24