who asks who?

[babygirldee]

I'm dating a guy who is into the dd/lg like myself, and we're both kinda new to it. We agree that we want this type of relationship, but I'm curious, who asks who? How do I ask him to be my daddy?

[Guest New Kitten]

If you're both into it, I assume you've discussed it and it would just naturally happen like any other relationship. Daddy and boyfriend, IN MY OPINION, aren't exactly the same thing. I think you start calling a person daddy whenever you're ready or it feels right, almost like saying "I love you". To me, it's not really a question you ask someone like "will you go out with me?". And you can explore ddlg without calling someone Daddy. I personally think you should continue talking honestly and openly with this person and help each other explore this new found kink, it doesn't require the name Daddy to be said to do so. But, you can call someone Daddy whenever you feel comfortable, sooner or later, everyone is different. With that said, you may also go about it by asking this person. It's all really up to you and your partner how you chose to act. Just talk to them!

Hope this helps and good luck! 

<3

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

You simply ask him. If you are both into this dynamic then I assume you are both comfortable enough to talk to each other about it.

[DaddyJsPrincess]

For me and my relationship, Daddy takes the lead. He's the one that makes all the big decisions. He was the one who drew up our contract, and he's the one who decided to change it. It's my job to follow the rules. I totally understand that's not going to work for every relationship though, because not everybody likes such a harsh power exchange in their DD/lg arrangement.

 

That's a little besides the point though lol If your daddy is shy, you may not have a choice. What is it you address him by now? Would the name "daddy" be agreeable to you both? Are you asking to apply the dynamic to your current relationship or are you asking for a training collar? In any case, these are some big questions, so it might be a good idea to separate yourself from your little space while you do it. Best of luck to you both! <3