Cant get into headspace : don't feel like a "real" little :(

[Guest PrincessMim]

Sooo I don't usually share my problems on here ... But i don't have anybody to talk to about this (none of my friends really know and me and my Daddy have split  ) 

I've been having trouble getting into little space without a Daddy and a lot of school-work stress lately. Idk if this is normal, gets me anxious to feel like i'm not a "real" little-middle when single & more anxiety makes it even harder to get into headspace    

Wondering if maybe someone has been through this too?

[Zacky]

Yeah, I get this from time to time; but talking to friends - especially if you have some little friends you can invite over for a hang out - is really helpful for me. 

[CaresAlot]

Stress causes the body to do a lot of things.  It puts the body into a fight or flight mode which causes the release of chemicals that affect the way that we feel and interact with various things going on in our lives.  Stress can be a downward whirlpool that you need to swim out of or it will start pulling you down.  First thing is you have to maintain your basic health - eat right, stay hydrated, get plenty of rest.  Stress takes up a lot of energy.

Lot of people will say when you are stressed, stop and take a deep breath.  Exactly the right thing to do.  As you slowly exhale, make sure that you release the tension in your body.  I tend to pull my shoulders up which is part of the fight mode.  When your body is tense your are burning energy and that is one of the reasons stress makes you feel tired. 

Find you something that releases stress.  I do tai chi or get on my bike and ride.  Exercise is a great way to relieve stress.  Meditation, soft music or white noise.  Even a glass of wine but not a bunch of alcohol.

A big stressor is not having enough time to do what we need to do.  Often we spin our wheels and don't go anywhere.  Everybody has 168 hours each week.  If you work, 10 hours a day will go there, 10 hours a day for sleeping, eating, getting ready.  That still leaves you with 48 hours - weekend with 28 hours (2@14 hours) and weekday 20 hours - 5 hours a day.  Look for ways to save time.  Instead of big meals do some fast health things.  Spend a lot of time picking clothes and make-up, then back off and do less.  Spend less time on social media and the phone. If you track how much time that gets sucked down you will be amazed.

There are few people in life that don't have any stress.  Its a matter of  finding ways to have less of it and taking back control of your life.  Not having a Daddy may be an issue but stress is far more likely culprit.  Find you some Little friends your age to chat and play with.  Being with other Littles can help pull you right back to where you want to go.