How to help Grumpy Daddy?

[Child Of Light]

My Daddy has been under a lot of stress with work lately    He's been withdrawn and grumpy. What do you do (non-sexual) to help Daddy feel better? Yes, we've had a big-talk and he's very well assured me; that I've done nothing wrong, and how much he loves me, and he's sorry he's been so withdrawn and that it's how he copes with work stress. But, as a Submissive, and his babygirl, I feel I should be doing more to cheer Daddy up. Make him smile If anyone has any idea's on how to do that, it'll make this Little Subby very happy   

Edited May 3, 2018 by Child Of Light

[Guest You're adorable.]

Well, I have come across this issue in posts already, and what I can say is that I do understand that you want to help your daddy to be better. All of us, regradless of the type of relationship we are in, want to see our loved ones to be happy and satisfied.

 

Now as a person that also deals with a lot of work-related stress, I can tell you that it's nothing pleasant. Being withdrawn is nothing unusual with people that have difficult job. I tend to not talk to my family maybe for a whole week when I work on something very demanding. By isolating myself, I can boost my focus and get the job done. When faced with a difficult task, it is required to direct your focus on it. So don't worry if he is withdrawn. It's more or less normal.

 

As for what you should be doing to make him feel better? Well, I would say, and I speak from experience, is that don't try too hard. What I mean is that don't do it in a way that may seem as pushy and "forced" (i have no idea what the ideal word shoud be). It most of the time has the opposite effect. By putting in too much effort you will make the person feel like there is really something wrong and they might not take it the way you intended.

 

Just make small gestures of everyday love that all of us appreciate and make us feel better even after bad day. I really don't know how it works in your relationship, but for me, my little can always cheer me up with small things, like some cute phrase that she uses or just any kind of "I love you and I want you to be happy" kind of getsure that you can think of. Just show him in a normal way that you are always there for him and that just as much you can lean on him, he can lean on you. I am not going to give you any specifics, because you should know best what makes your daddy smile.

[Tinka]

-First thing, i always make sure that he is looking forward to come back home. 

A home needs to be a hug and a safe place from the problems.

-When he comes home, i make sure the place is tidy and smells nice. I make sure its cozy and that has relaxing music,

and candles all over (don`t ask how much we spend for candles per month).

-I have his favorite drink ready (hot for colder seasons, refreshing and cold for hot season).

Since we dont want any sexual part in this post, i will skip a step

-We will cuddle and talk about his day. Since i know my partner doesn`t open up to people, i make sure that he opens up to me.

I listen carefully all the news of his day, his thoughts, how things make him feel etc. Depending on what i think he needs, i will either only listen, or provide also my point of view.

Its important for him to not keep the things that anger him or stress him inside. Especially if your Daddy has heart problems, its better out than in. 

- I will watch and judge, depending on the situation i might propose some video game with pvp (they some times like to "kill things" virtually) or some calm walk in the park, 

or some movie, or some work out. Things like that might take his mind off of his troubles and worries. 

-Yummy snacks, sweets, nice food can make him excited and happy so i make sure he always has nice food at home. Only the things he likes. 

- We will go to sleep together, cuddle and read a book or something. Since i know its something that relaxes him, i want him to have a nice , comfortable and relaxing time at home. 

So...half of his day might be bad at work , but the other half of the day at home will be completely different so that it can be balanced and he can have the energy to go back to work and deal with the same sh...t

 

Do not show to him that you worry about him, or that it makes you feel uncomfortable. He doesnt need to add another worry in his head that this situation affects you negatively. 

I am sure that you want to support him now that he needs it, you are a caring person  

So just make sure that you provide to him a few nice hours per day , and that you support him and are there for him, until the stressful days are over.

Because that is what partners do

[Child Of Light]

I made Daddy a very nice dinner and we had a relaxing night together <3 Tomorrow, I'm going to be making him his favorite pie.... homemade :3 --- I LOVED your post  @Tiny_Tina , it really made me get into the Submissive mindset, and making sure my Daddy Dom had what he needed I'll deffo try extra hard to clean, and have the place smelling nicely. We spend a lot in essential oils a month The last couple nights he's been playing his PS4 and VR Headset I bought him (he lovvvess that thing) and it's deffo been helping his stress.

Edited May 3, 2018 by Child Of Light

[Lola Step]

Like everybody here I LOVED Tiny Tinas post so there isn't realy much to add, the only thing I can really do which is highlight the part about trying to not add to his stress (which I'm sure you're already doing a great job at) one thing I always make sure to do when my Daddy is stressed is make sure that I take care of myself, i know that sounds weird but here me out- He HATES to feel like his stress is affecting me so I always makes sure i practice proper self care, eat all my meals etc; and show him how much of a big girl I can be, he feels alot safer and calmer knowing that! I also second the reading thing, they might never admit it fully but sometimes Daddies love being babied and read to as well!

[Tinka]

Thank you so much people!  

I am glad you liked it, it is really easy to follow every day. Some food, some drink, some quality time together, and playing. 

 

The "go for a walk" part was his idea, after a phone call that had made me upset and i was shaking he simply proposed  us to go for a walk (it was 23:00) 

so we started walking slowly around the parks of our suburb and it was VERY relaxing, because at night its more quiet and fresh air REALLY kinda relaxes you.

oh and ALWAYS refresh the air of the house.  

And that is it. 

 

As Y.A. mentioned before, you cant do much about the fact that he has a bad time at work, if you could i am sure you would

But for sure you can do much when he comes home, and to be honest i think you would also like it. 

I used to work from home (translator) so i would always dedicate one hour before he comes, to prepare the house etc. 

 

i really hope your Daddy gets better as regards his stressful time. Its rough sometimes but nothing that you both cant handle

if tho the situation seems to be almost permanent in that place, then how about considering the option of changing job?

You know better tho, and best of luck!  

[Child Of Light]

Daddy was able to get some good nights sleep and we had some alone time... we are both ready for off the grid weekend!