Getting fed up with how you Daddy's/Dom's treat people here.

[DustBunny93]

Honestly I am not one to post stuff because I am shy and I'm also not one to start stuff because I don't like confrontation, but I can't hold back anymore. I'm not trying to offend anyone here but it needs to be said.

I know that I am not the first one to complain about this. I have been hearing it multiple times and I truly don't want to be a part of the community.

I am SO SO done with how you so called Daddies and Doms treat women/baby girls/littles or even baby boys/ boy littles. I mostly hear it from girls though.

I can not even count the number of times I have gotten messages from you doms/daddies that AUTOMATICALLY start off with a list of rules and stuff..... Without even starting a conversation or even asking if I'm single!!!

Do you do that shit in real life?! Go on a date and then assume that that girl/guy is automatically your partner?

Like excuse me! How about getting to know each other first before just trying to jump into a relationship.

I'm sorry but that is SUCH a TURN OFF to get a message from a man that is trying to boss me around.

 

Do NOT message me or anyone else and before even getting to know the person send a message that gives a list of rules.

Alrighty cool... You messaged me.. big fucking deal. Doesn't mean I'm swooning over you after one message.

I'm also sick of you guys using this type of site to just be an asshole and beat someone or be a jerk because you are a "Dom"... Doesn't give you the right to be a jerk because you have a "title".

 

ALSO... Please please please stop body shaming! I can name some men who have body shamed me and made me feel like a worthless piece of trash. I'm sorry I'm not the body type you are looking for. Doesn't mean you have to body shame or fucking ghost me.

Don't ghost someone or unfriend them because you don't like their body. Because I can guarantee you aren't everyone's cup of tea either buddy because not everyone has the same taste.

 

I want everyone to be happy and feel comfortable and I feel like this site has just ruined things for me.

I have dealt with rude men in my real life and I am an abuse victim and I have been an abuse victim since I was 14 and started dating.

It's just sad that I have dealt with that here too.

I'm really truly sorry if I have made anyone upset with this post but I just wanted to stick up for myself and other littles that have been dealing with this too.

[Helper411]

I think it's interesting how this conversation comes and goes from time to time I also find in interesting how no one ever seems to figure out either side is just as bad as the other.  There are littles who throw themselves at daddies, there are littles who ghost daddies, there are littles who appearance/body shame daddies.  Also interesting you seem to feel it's a male only behavior.  There's scumbag men there's scumbag women there's scumbag littles and scumbag daddies. Ultimately you have to look at people as individuals and realize some are good and some are bad instead of making broad statements about entire groups of people (i.e. the definition of bigotry).  Sorry you've had a bad time on here I have had plenty of bad experiences as well.

Edited April 29, 2018 by Helper411

[Guest domdaddy38]

I think it's interesting how this conversation comes and goes from time to time I also find in interesting how no one ever seems to figure out either side is just as bad as the other.  There are littles who throw themselves at daddies, there are littles who ghost daddies, there are littles who appearance/body shame daddies.  Also interesting you seem to feel it's a male only behavior.  There's scumbag men there's scumbag women there's scumbag littles and scumbag daddies. Ultimately you have to look at people as individuals and realize some are good and some are bad instead of making broad statements about entire groups of people (i.e. the definition of bigotry).  Sorry you've had a bad time on here I have had plenty of bad experiences as well.

This, it goes both ways.  Blaming only men is sexist.

[DustBunny93]

Believe me. I know it goes both ways. I know women do the same thing to men. I don't live under a rock and believe only men are capable of doing it and not women too. I never said that only men do this.

I am just trying to attempt to speak on a personal level. And being a woman who is interested in men only, clearly I have only dealt with men in this case.

Obviously anyone can do anything to anyone.

Maybe I should have made big bold letters that say it goes both ways. I mean come on. We all know that girls are very capable of doing this to men.

I was speaking on a personal level with what I have dealt with as a woman from men, because I am just interested in men.

I'm just saying what I have experienced with potential daddies and or Dom's.

All of the people I have talked to were girls who have gotten this treatment from men.

I just wanted to speak out on something I have dealt with and that I know that other females are dealing with.

Sorry that I didn't specify that it could be women doing this too. But I honestly felt like I didn't need to say anything because a lot of people are smart enough to know that it's not just men doing it.

[DustBunny93]

Honestly it's not worth it to try to speak out and say anything. Just screw it. From now on I will keep my mouth shut.

Honestly it really took a lot of courage out of me to post something.

Being an abuse victim I have been too afraid to ever stand up for myself and speak up.

It's really sad that the first time I ever decide to speak up for myself and I get shit for it.

I know that not all men are bad people, or vice versa. Okay.

OBVIOUSLY NOT EVERYONE FALLS INTO THIS CATEGORY! I'm not trying to sit there and say that everyone is a bad person.

But some men (and women) are bad people who abuse this site and their "roles" as Dom's and need to learn it's not okay to hurt people.

[Creepy_Pirates]

I think it's interesting how this conversation comes and goes from time to time I also find in interesting how no one ever seems to figure out either side is just as bad as the other.  There are littles who throw themselves at daddies, there are littles who ghost daddies, there are littles who appearance/body shame daddies.  Also interesting you seem to feel it's a male only behavior.  There's scumbag men there's scumbag women there's scumbag littles and scumbag daddies. Ultimately you have to look at people as individuals and realize some are good and some are bad instead of making broad statements about entire groups of people (i.e. the definition of bigotry).  Sorry you've had a bad time on here I have had plenty of bad experiences as well.

I agree with this. Well said!

[Tinka]

i will say my opinion having talked to both sides. Before i say anything i want to clarify something . NOT ALL PEOPLE are the same as the examples that i will refer to here. I will just mention some types of people who i have encountered many times. Both Daddies, and Littles. Because no one is ever entirely right or wrong. I have met a lot of guys and girls here, with wonderful personalities, that deserve ALL THE LOVE in this world. So don`t be afraid, this one is not about you.

 

A Daddies. 

 

1) The "i am bored" daddy

 

Unenthusiastic... he asks things as if he is trying to fill up a form. 

Messages with 3-4 word questions, sometimes without even a question mark. 

From this daddys` messages you can`t form an opinion, it feels as if a robot is writting and after 3-4 messages you are just dissapointed with the whole process.

At that point he will think he has gathered enough information to ask for kik. A vast majority of his potential littles will ghost him. He wonders why. 

 

2) The "My life revolves around BDSM" 

 

The type of daddy who is all about BDSM and sex. In his profile, in his personal, in his posts, in his pic, in his "hello" message to you.

He doesn`t care if you want someone sweet to hold your hand from time to time, he doesn`t care if you cried today, if your tummy hurts and if you are shy. 

This Daddy wants a pet for his bed/sofa/floor/machines/bathtub/furniture in general, to explore his sexual desires upon. 

He seeks a mindless soulless little that will silently accept every sexual ideal he has in his head since he was  a teenager. 

 

3) The married guy who needs one more kid

 

This Daddy is usually older than most of us, he has kids , he has family , he has everything we dont, but at the same time for some reason that only he understands, 

he loves to put punishments and rules. He will show up in your pm with a list of rules , as if this is his weapon to smash other daddies and show how dominant and Alpha he is, because he expects you to send to him a pic everytime you are about to leave the house. He just wants another kid to rule, he is all about discipline and you are having a "selfie- overdose" because he wants you to pic yourself at all times, to see if his words are trully taken into consideration and action. 

 

4) The "you are my One....but she is my Two, he is my Three" kinda Daddy.

 

I am a victim of this personally. Its the guy who will immediately tell you/promise you that you are going to be his only one princess. But before you even get to smile and feel kinda happy (because you are THAT type of solo princess in da castle...) you see him adding other littles, being all the time in their profile and answering their personal by offering himself as a daddy.

 

5) The kindergarten daddy 

 

This guy wants a harem full of littles. With the title "polyamorous" he is trying to form the first football team of little ones. He is usually good at collecting them because for some weird reason littles might go to him before he will make move on them. Maybe because a lot of times you will see his actual little ones advertising their relationship in a "we got one new slot open in da relatioship! who wants sisters ??" kind of style.

 

6) The "ghost- dadster"

 

50% of the times, you guys will have kinda nice conversation without sex or anything.

50% of the times, he will ask for nudes, try to sext, talk to you dirty, do his thing and then say bb .

This bb you will never hear because he never wrote it. He just expects you to assume it. 

 

Littles!! (did you think i would let the girls out of this? ) 

 

1) The " unimpressed and sleeping little" 

 

She is the female version of the "bored" daddy. Her messages will be 3-4 words long, without question marks, dots, emotes.

You will try to be bubbly daddy and try to write to her a whole message, with questions, fan facts, jokes ...But from all this utopia of pm, she will just answer like a robot on the question 

that you did to her. She will completely ignore the rest of the message, she will not help you to continue the conversation and after 5-6 efforts of yours you will be tired and let this go...

You will later see her status about people ghosting her.

 

2) The needy greedy baby.

 

She is a full time baby when she is on this site. From the way she writes, from the things she says from everything. 

She loves diapers, disney, pink, bunnies, paci, stuffie and cupcakes. And thats it. 

She will expect you to give to her ALL of your attention and energy, but she never gives something back. 

She will expect you to put to the side all of your self just to be her 24/7 baby sitter.

She will expect you to put to the side all of your emotions and be her personal trainer/coach/psychologist 24/7.

And when something bad in your life comes up , she will not support you but complain that you have changed and you dont give to her the attention that she needs.

She will be ghosted in such a big relationship and she will wonder why , feel alone and look for someone else to feel the void. 

 

3) The hypersexual little kittycat.

 

This little is probably what most of you want (i said probably! ) 

Nice pics with stockings, cute outfits, chokers, cat ears, beautiful face, provoking selfies. 

This is until she will see that you are not exactly what she needs, because you said you were nice looking in your profile, but this was not up to her standards, 

because she gets bored easily, because for lots of reasons you are not on her level (nor we, not most people ) and you get ghosted.

Well for this , its non of her problem for ghosting most of you, because she knows her level she knows what she wants, and its not you, or me , or mostly anyone. 

For her, you will ignore better and more appropriate littles, for her you will try your best, and you will be ghosted after a while. 

 

 

Anyway these are the impressions that i got by watching here and there. I just want to highlight the fact that these extreme cases are NOT most of you, and i dont want you to feel offended. Most of you got great personalities, great opinions, and i have had a lot of fun and nice times with you because you know how to have a nice talk with people. 

These cases that i wrote are from people who havent taken the site or the term very seriously, who are here one day and the other are not.

We all have seen these example even once in our experience in this site. May you not be offended. (said a hopless soul to the internet people ) 

Edited April 29, 2018 by Tiny_Tina

[Guest ScorpioBeastWolf]

Honestly it's not worth it to try to speak out and say anything. Just screw it. From now on I will keep my mouth shut.

Honestly it really took a lot of courage out of me to post something.

Being an abuse victim I have been too afraid to ever stand up for myself and speak up.

It's really sad that the first time I ever decide to speak up for myself and I get shit for it.

I know that not all men are bad people, or vice versa. Okay.

OBVIOUSLY NOT EVERYONE FALLS INTO THIS CATEGORY! I'm not trying to sit there and say that everyone is a bad person.

But some men (and women) are bad people who abuse this site and their "roles" as Dom's and need to learn it's not okay to hurt people.

 

No, honestly you need to write out the truth. Yes, it is a shame how people term themselves as "Dom " or "Domme" without even knowing what it means. Many I know think it is just a title, fucking assholes, bustards are one who makes this so divine lifestyle look like a game.

No, lady you are right in writing the things... Because no one should be allowed to play with feelings of others. Fuck rules before even knowing what the other thinks about you.

 

I am sorry if some dicks said anything to you, or against your topic but know you hold the right. They who try to say shit to you, need to know they are full of shit themselves who cannot respect a woman, a lady, another hunan because I see them as those who don't have respect for self. These are the people who don't know the dynamics of ddlg D/S lifestyle and jump into it calling themselves 'DD' as if it is just a word.

 

I am sorry for you been hurt but this topic needs to be put upfront.

 

I will request newbies who think themselves as BG or Subs or LB first you need to know what the characteristics of a *D* are. Study, research, research before talking to every random person here or outside. You need to know what you want and then talk to the other. Know the red flags first.

 

Don't be sorry because it is more the men who keeps playing with hearts of a women.

[CaresAlot]

No real Daddy or Dom has a title with a Little until they earn it.  Even if you have it with another Little, there is no carryover.  You have to go out and earn that Title each time with each person.  You earn that title by getting to know somebody and know their expectations.  You have to give them an opportunity to see who you are as well.  If you think being a Dominant is telling somebody what they must do then you are not a Dom.

 

Don't feed the trolls.  Trolls are people that do things that make you hurt or upset.  When you get a message from somebody that starts of telling you what you can or cannot do cut the ties.  Unfriend or block them - they only have the power you give them.  Any response from you is feeding them.  When trolls get hungry they will look elsewhere.

 

Same thing with body shaming.  If you let somebody know that you are hurt that feeds their ego.  If they are trying to do that then they are not a nice person.  If they are not a nice person why would you think their opinion has any value.  Don't feed the trolls.  Value your opinion of you above all else - be confident in who you are.  If anybody says different then not somebody that you want to be around.

 

Relationships are like panning for gold.  You have to go through a lot of dirt to find a nugget.  When you do it makes it all worth while.

[DustBunny93]

Thank you to those that are being nice and trying to make me feel better.

 

Everyone whether you are a little, middle, baby, Dom, domme, or even a pet, or sub (but not a little) will have different experience here and some will either have the same experience or something similar.

 

I was attempting to explain my own personal experience with this lifestyle.

 

I feel like the people who automatically got on here and jumped down my throat didn't truly read the post.

 

I never said that every single Dom or daddy in this entire website does this or has done this.

I was only referring to the ones that do act that way.... Obviously.

 

Clearly people no matter what gender can suck and hurt people.

Maybe I shouldn't have made the title what I did but still.

 

And not just Dom's/ Domme's/Daddies/Mommy's do this. Obviously littles can do it too.

Honestly I really thought we all knew that. We are all adults who understand that it's more than just a one sided thing.

I didn't feel the need to specify the exact details.

 

Just speaking about my experience as myself. The messages I have personally gotten. The way I have been personally talked to.

 

I just thought everyone would get it and understand that it's about my experience from my own opinion on things.

[UnicornBiscuit]

How many >random< friend requests do you accept in order to get rolled over that many times?

Maybe think more about accepting friend requests. I only accept people I've known for a while in chat or I check their profile / posts.

 

If you accept each and every random person it is obvious that you are going to get a bunch of self proclaimed randoms (half of them either just signed up or don't even have a display picture / profile filled out) who message you "hey looking for a daddy?"

 

I haven't gotten into the situations you mentioned because I don't accept anyone who sends me requests ...

 

I know this makes me sound like a massive twat but yeah :/ What do you expect really?

Edited April 29, 2018 by UnicornBiscuit

[DustBunny93]

Don't assume things. I don't accept just anyone. Somehow I still get messages even from people I didn't accept.

And even if I did let someone message me, what gives them the right to act that way?

Honestly good for you that you haven't experienced this.

It isn't always the first message. Sometimes I think I'm talking to a nice person and then they act like that.

I truly hope you don't have to deal with this.

Thanks for replying

[UnicornBiscuit]

My apologies for assuming, but it is the impression your situation gives. I mean especially when you do accept friend requests from users who don't even have a profile pic up (as seen in your profile frien dlist)

Either way goodluck in the future and don't get offended by being body shamed you obviously look gorgeous anyone who shames you is an idiot.

Edited April 29, 2018 by UnicornBiscuit

[Guest Den]

don't mind me.. just a neutral comment passing through to hand out cookies and juice!

[baby_k]

Tiny_Tina's list was so hilarious, and soooo true. We have all seen the stereotypes

 

Anyhow, unfortunately the ones who should see this post and learn, well, most likely won't. But I hope it still helps people to see what others face here and then try to monitor their own behaviour. So, kudos @LittleBunBun93, you have at least try to do something for this issue and it is good to have this talk every once in a while as the issue is not vanishing.

 

What comes to this "sexist" talk, well, ignore. People seem to get over senstive about things and on purpose misunderstand stuff. Imo the need for millions of disclaimers that "this is not about ALL people! This is my view so I talk mainly about males as that is the limitation of my experience!" and so forward is...well, lame. People should at least TRY to understand why you write as you write and stop being over sensitive and side tracking the convo as it is pointless and real issue is then buried.

 

As we will still keep bumping into those not-so-nice people, maybe try to see the positive: the faster they literally tell you they are asses, the faster you get rid of them. Saves so much time if they act indecent from the beginning. More annoying thing is to use a lot of  time with someone who turns out later to be a nasty person.

 

Bodyshaming: wtf, seriously. If someone does that, they don't deserve to breath the same air as you. Try to ignore, and remember that to be that nasty and hurtfull they have to have big issues themselves. So, it is not about you but about them. Because why would anyone do that?

[Guest Zephy]

It's because a lot of people don't really read within this community, they only read, see, and believe what they want to and skim the rest.

Best advice I could give and what you can do, to at least minimize some of these issues, is just to be extra cautious who you accept as a friend and who you talk to, there's a reason why random people can't just message you here.

[WanderingWonderland]

Tiny_Tina's list was so hilarious, and soooo true. We have all seen the stereotypes

 

 

I think Tiny_Tina wins Post of the Day! That list made me really chuckle!

 

Why are guys coming on making this a sexist thing? She's speaking from her perspective not as a general view of the community. She isn't saying all Littles are Angels and are flawless humans. She isn't blaming any perceived misbehavior of Littles on the misconduct of daddies. You all literally have no ground to stand on to criticize her like you have. If your butthurt you need to take a step back and analyze yourself. Either you're lashing out because you're guilty or because you don't realize she's not actually generalizing. Either way you need to figure yourself out instead of harassing her. I'll put it into further perspective. The common threads you speak of are about "fake daddies". She didn't make that generalization. She addressed an issue of guys assuming they have automatic power and authority. News flash! You don't! That's earned not assumed. If you're an upstanding guy you have no reason to feel threatened. If you're not then you need to get your shit together. People are going to see you with a measure of disdain and rightfully so. What she discussed is mostly predatory behavior and that's not allowed anyway. Don't pull the sexist card because you clearly can't identify what's actually sexist. Get over yourself.

 

This with bells on! <Hi-fives sirus!>

 

The OP started this thread based on her own personal experiences (and maybe those she is friendly with who share similar concerns). What she needs is some understanding and a handhold—not jeers of ‘SEXISM!’ If you have experienced similar problems with littles or women in general, maybe starting a companion thread would be the way to go, rather than poking holes in the OP’s because it doesn’t fit your lived experience?

 

OP, Shakespeare wrote a great line in ... I want to say 'As You Like It'. I'll need to go check that! Anyway, I think you should pop it in your arsenal for a rainy day. Ahem:

 

“I do desire we may be better strangers.”

 

For any little’s reading, please know that you don’t ever have to engage with anybody who makes you uncomfortable. ‘No’ is a complete sentence. It is also a great starting point.

 

- No, that isn’t appropriate.

 

- No, that doesn’t work for me.

 

- No, that isn’t an acceptable thing to ask me.

 

- No, I won’t send you pictures/nudes.

 

- No, I’m not your baby/princess/little girl/kitten/whatever.

 

- No, I won’t be following your rules. You are not my Daddy. Buh-bye.

 

- No, I don’t want to talk to you on Kik because you ‘can’t be bothered to log in here to talk’.  

 

- No, I won’t give you my BMI. For the record, my blood type, dental records and family medical history are also not up for discussion.

 

Think of behaviour you find unacceptable in terms of a ‘limit’. If somebody starts skirting that limit, warn them. If they trample that limit, shout NO and back away fast. Don’t engage further. Don’t be afraid to use your report button if necessary. It’s there for a reason.

 

​I'm sorry anybody has made you feel bad, BunBun. Please don't ever apologise for expressing your concerns over something that has upset you. You have a voice, so use it. I'm just a stranger on the internet, but if you ever want to talk or need some friendly reassurance, I'm only ever a little click away. I also know some super colourful Glaswegian language that might make you laugh ... or possibly gasp in horror. Probably the latter. Another person's ugliness in not your problem, it's theirs. Always remember that.

 

 

I haven't gotten into the situations you mentioned because I don't accept anyone who sends me requests ...

 

I know this makes me sound like a massive twat but yeah :/ What do you expect really?

 

My apologies for assuming, but it is the impression your situation gives. I mean especially when you do accept friend requests from users who don't even have a profile pic up (as seen in your profile frien dlist)

 

<thumps head against the desk … repeatedly>

 

The OP is not responsible for someone else's horrid behaviour. Suggesting she is dances with a term commonly know as victim blaming. Yikes!

[ThePoet]

Get off your high horse, white knights. She could have addressed the causative issues with a thoughtful and constructive post. Instead, she fired off a rant that was aggressive and accusatory. You reap what you sow, and throwing down blanket accusations based on personal experience will only invite similar responses. If you have a considered and insightful opinion about predatory behavior, you might spark a meaningful conversation; if you start a post saying "YOU Daddies do this and YOU Daddies do that and here's why YOU Daddies are terrible" then some people are rightfully going to feel like they're caught in her ill-defined crosshairs. Delivery is half the message, especially via text. And no, disagreeing with the venomous construction of her expression does NOT make one automatically in opposition of her ideals, nor does it align one with the target of her malignancy. THAT'S just a simplistic and lazy argument.

[Guest Looby-Lou]

It is totally NOT your fault if someone else behaves in a nasty or otherwise unacceptable manner. 

But it IS more likely to happen if you're not careful about who you chat with. And that means you'll be confronted with a nasty situation that will upset you, and so it's better to avoid it if you possibly can.  You'll never be able to avoid all the jerks, because it is NOT YOUR FAULT if someone is a jerk, but you can minimise the risk to yourself.

 

If you get a friend request:

- look at that person's profile.  Do you like it? IS there even a profile? (If not, I would just ignore that person automatically.)

- read the posts that person has made on the forum.  (Again, if they haven't made any, just bear in mind you have less idea of what this person likes/dislikes and how they express themselves.) If you like what they've written, that's encouraging.

- look at the "likes" that person has made on forum topics. Do you agree with them?

- look at when this person became a member here.  Was it yesterday? Today? (I would avoid them, for the moment at least.)

 

This is just a simple response to a complex question, each person has their own way of dealing with things, and I'm not recommending that my way is best for everyone! But if we all share our ideas, it's surely gonna help at least one other person, and that has to be a good thing

 

P.S. If you are getting messages from people you haven't accepted as a friend, then I'd advise you to notify the Mods of this as that would be a mistake somewhere along the line.

Edited April 29, 2018 by Looby-Lou

[Guest BabyPeach]

I get what you're saying and it is a valid opinion and feeling.  I'm sorry that you were attacked on this thread.  This always happens when I see a post like this.  The little voices her frustration and Daddies (and others) jump in and say, BUT LITTLES DO THIS!!!!!  Their defensiveness isn't healthy or constructive.  It also has nothing to do with the original post.  If they feel so strongly why don't them make their own post about it?  

 

Please don't be afraid to speak up here.  There will always be people who jump in and make it about them on this type of post.  That doesn't mean that it didn't need to be said. <3

[Guest Kaiser]

What isn't healthy or constructive is being closed to a full discussion.

 

Constructive communication involves hearing things you might not like.

 

Conflict Analysis and Resolution 101.

[DustBunny93]

To everyone saying that I should have been more careful with friend requests, you are right. When I first signed up I was so excited to be here and I accepted so many people. But I can say that in the past few weeks I have been so much more cautious about accepting requests. I actually have two almost three full pages of friend requests that I haven't even looked at or accepted.

But saying that I brought this upon myself is not right. I don't know if somehow I changed my settings and don't remember but I was getting messages from people who I didn't accept, and I didn't reply.

 

Even if I did know who it was who I accepted it doesn't make it right for them to message me the things they were saying.

 

Sometimes I talk to people in the chat room and they seem nice, and I accept them as a friend because of that. And then that is where it goes wrong. They are nice to me in chat and as soon as I get a private message it's very different and aggressive and that's when they are automatically calling themselves "Daddy" to me.

 

Some of you are saying that I should say something to them if I don't feel comfortable. And I already did. I have said "I don't feel comfortable with you calling yourself Daddy" or explaining to them a reason I don't feel comfortable. And you know what I get?

I have gotten harassed from these men because they think they can say whatever they want and I have to accept it.

I have politely said "I'm sorry but I don't feel comfortable with you calling yourself Daddy, because we just started talking" and he said "Don't back sass me. I don't take crap from women"

All because I politely asked him not to call himself daddy because I didn't feel comfortable after only a few messages.

So if I stick up for myself I get crap. If I ignore them then I am a bad person for ghosting them.

Honestly no matter what I have said or done I have been respectful and polite.

I expect the same in return.

Unfortunately **!BUT NOT IN ALL CASES!** some of the guys I have talked to don't feel the need to respect me not only as a woman but just as a human being in general.

 

Everyone is going to have an opinion on my post. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion on either my post or this topic in a general setting.

 

Should I have thought it out more and not have been so emotional? Maybe so. But I wrote it how I wrote it and it's said and done.

 

I have read so many posts, some in which I didn't agree with the person who posted it or felt upset over it, but that doesn't mean I responded or jumped down their throats for not only what they said but the topic in general. Some people have started a topic or status and it could have been offensive to people. But I didn't feel the need to bring them down and make them not only feel like an utter piece of shit for posting, but for what they said.

There are ways to handle something you don't agree with. I feel like if this was something in person I feel like almost everyone wouldn't have been so rude and hurtful in my opinion. It's easier to say things via text or internet.

 

Please stop replying to me or this thread. I don't need every Joe-Shmo's opinion on it. People feel different things.

I literally don't care anymore about some butt hurt person and if they are offended. I mean yes I'm sorry if I offended someone or triggered someone but I don't want to keep getting these mean messages that I have gotten because of my post.

 

Maybe I felt like writing my post because of past real life personal experience.

I have been an abuse victim and have been beaten and emotionally abused in every relationship I have been in since I was 14 years old and started dating. I have also been sexually assaulted twice.

That being said, maybe I just get triggered by more agressive men because I am so used to getting hurt physically by men who have been a little more on the agressive side. Maybe that's why I wrote the post the way I did.

Sometimes my past gets triggered and I speak out on emotional terms rather than a level headed response.

I hope in reading the last bit you have some sort of understanding of why I posted the way I did. And no I am not trying to make anyone feel bad for me. I just felt like explaining myself.

 

Thank you all who have supported me and you're welcome to those who have messaged me personally who were too afraid to say anything about going through the same thing. I'm so happy I could help a few people out from it. You are so welcome.

 

I'm considering leaving this site, so if you have become my friend and want to stay in contact with me please message me and I will give you a way to contact me.

 

Thank you all for your comments whether good or bad. I'm not mad at anyone for the hurtful stuff they have said, even though I should be lol.

 

Once again thank you for reading this and I hope you all have a great day.

[DollDirector]

This topic is one more booster shot about an outstanding rule of all forums: The minute you post something,it stops being entirely yours; You have to be prepared to live with that.

 

I don't know if this helps,but really,all of this happens the same on vanilla or other dating sites. My small experience is that here the majority of people behave themselves and not even less than on sites where you have to pay a subscription !

[DustBunny93]

I don't want anyone to reply because I am done. Thanks.