Little Space O.o

[Tinka]

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Edited May 13, 2018 by Tiny_Tina

[Guest lalalaluna]

I'm closer to a middle! For me, little or middle space is where my adult brain kinda turns "off". I always think pretty childishly but I can recall myself to handle adult matters or thoughts, but when I'm in my space, I .. its not even really ignoring whats going on, so much as it seems like I don't understand. Like in Charlie Brown where the adults go WAH-WAH WAHWAHWAH WAH  ​ 

 

Specifically for middle space, I'm much more one track minded (in little space, i cant focus on one thing for shit)- you're not gonna pull me away from my book/ writing/ show, at least not without major attitude.

 

And as for being a middle, there's less reliance on your caregiver- Yes you're still little enough to want them around and need guidance and a playmate, but its being a little more independent, probably brattier, more sexually curious (in some cases, not all!). Y'know, tween/ teen years stuff. I love cartoons and Disney movies, but also horror movies and superhero movies. I love Carebears, but celebrity gossip. I read a lot of young adult literature, listen to a lot of boybands, that kinda thing.

[Guest Little Otter]

Do you wanna feel little/childlike? Do you generate happiness when someone makes you feel little/childlike?

 

If yes, ur a little!

 

For me Ive only really regressed twice, but its become part of who I am. I like being called cute, little, I prefer boy over man (the man or guy title annoys me tbh). I like when Im spoken to like a child, and it does put me in a place where I think more like a child (meaning little complex thinking skills).

 

Ultimately i just operate under a childlike naivete and innocence. The world is great, I love everyone and trust ppl too fast, Im excitive and peppy, idk. Its difficult to pin down, but is different for everyone.

[Bluebells]

I'm closer to a middle! For me, little or middle space is where my adult brain kinda turns "off". 

 

This is exactly what it is to me.

 

When I'm my "adult" self I have so many thoughts and stresses going around in my head. When I go into "littlespace" this all just stops, I'm more at peace and the stresses of everyday life fade away. Littlespace is a way for me to calm the commotion of life, and bring back a bit of that childlike wonder to the world.

 

I think I identify with being more of a middle myself (I'm new to this community so I'm still figuring it out.) I think it's how people are in their mindset as opposed to how they dress/act that makes them a little or middle. It's not my thing to wear diapers or use pacifiers, but I love my teddies and wearing cute dresses - each to their own, just as long as they're happy.

[Guest RoyG]

It's not a universal thing of DDLG to have this little or middlespace that you actively switch in and out of. There is a substantial minority here who identify as littles/middles the same way you do - childlike personality, often some more innocent preferences like dresses or stuffies, and appreciative of a dynamic in which someone provides stability and care. The other side would be people who completely want to leave the adult world in favour of being little again without a care in the world, playing around, while ideally having a guardian watch over them.

 

So yeah, if anything I'd say you're probably closer to a middle than a little from what you've said. But most importantly, you're you, and there's nothing in particular you need to belong here.

[LittleKitten13]

For example the little space. What is this, how is it for you? Is this a phase you enter where you behave like a little one? What do you do while in little space?

Its so confusing for me. 

What I call little space is when my mind regresses to around 4-7.  I think very much like a child of that age, and I will often act like one.  When I talk I struggle not to babytalk a little bit.  For example, I will say "wuv" instead of "love" or "nini" instead of "night night".  I also have trouble with these specific words: Animal (aminal), cinnamon (cimmanon), and remember (meremeber).  When I talk through text my fingers type what my mind thinks, and my mind will think more fragmented and lispy.  So... "I love you, Papa," could easily be, "wuvs you, Papa."  I'm a quick typist, so I'm not deliberating what I'm typing, it's just going straight from my mind to my fingers.

When I'm in little space I can get extra clingy and cuddly (especially if I'm scared), but I also have a tendency to get really playful and goofy and hyper.  I like all manner of cute things (at all times, but especially when little), and even if I'm feeling more brave, I will usually hold onto Papa's hand and/or make sure he's right behind me.  Arcades with Papa are so much fun!

I basically just act like myself, but a younger, more relying version of myself.

[Little Illy]

I wrote a section about using the term "fake" and I feel like it accurately fits here. When it comes to being a little and/or having a little space, everyone HAS to remember that THERE IS NO ONE CORRECT WAY! While reading the following, just replace being a "little" with "littlespace":

 

 

 

Let me preface with this - using the phrase “cookie cutter” doesn’t hold a negative connotation. I am simply using it for lack of a better phrase for the characteristics one has come to association with a CG or a little. These CGs and littles enjoy what we would expect them to due to what the internet has led us to believe is “typical.” And there is nothing wrong with that, or wrong not falling into this category.

 

This reason is a real issue from what I have seen in this community. And it happens more than we probably realize, and not just from opposite ends (littles calling CGs fake and vice versa). There is this inherent mindset that if a CG or a little doesn’t act as “expected” from their status, then they are fake. I will give you personal examples that have happened to me on this forum alone. I have been told I was a fake because:

 

• I didn’t call him Daddy right away (from a CG)

• I didn’t identify as a kitten (from a little)

• I didn’t like pink (from littles)

• I didn’t like glitter (from both)

• I liked horror movies over MLP (from both)

• I prefer blue (from boy littles)

 

I was also informed that only real littles would:

 

• Follow their CGs without question (both)

• Speak in little speech (from a CG) the overly annoying speech

• Color every night (from littles)

• Send their Daddy whatever they wanted - sext, pictures, erotica (from both)

• Have sex with their Daddy whenever the Daddy wanted it (from both)

• Love Daddy no matter what he did - even if it hurt me (from both)

• Use pacis, sippies and stuffies (from littles)

• Trust their Daddy and use a diaper (from CGs)

 

And so on. Do you see how all of these things are typical behavior of what the internet has decided is a “real” little? But all of these almost directly go against who I am. Does that make me a fake little? Hell. No. That means I am simply Me and I am a little. End of discussion - and the same goes for CGs. In this category we don’t really use the word “fake,” specifically. What we use is the phrase “well a real little would...” or  “a real Daddy/Mommy would…” and this is just as bad. A reall CG and a real little does exactly whatever makes them happy, comfortable and who they are. There is no mold to fit, no build-a-little or build-a-CG to which statistics are required to be met. Every person is different, which means every little and every CG is different. That is how we are able to have Mommies and little boys - because a DADDY isn’t the only caregiver and GIRLS aren’t the only littles. These differences don’t mean we aren’t real - it means we are all unique individuals who like different things.

 

IF you need a little of CG who matches the cookie cutter form - so what?! Good for you! But that doesn’t mean those who don’t mean that checklist aren’t real. Just like if you need a little or CG who ISN’T like the cookie cutter form, that doesn’t make the others “stereotypes.” It means they simply like things that we would typically associate with that status. Again, no one is fake here. And we need to realize doing something (or not doing something) does not make you more real than any other little or CG. It just makes you, You.

[Tinka]

I wrote a section about using the term "fake" and I feel like it accurately fits here. When it comes to being a little and/or having a little space, everyone HAS to remember that THERE IS NO ONE CORRECT WAY! While reading the following, just replace being a "little" with "littlespace":

 

 

 

Let me preface with this - using the phrase “cookie cutter” doesn’t hold a negative connotation. I am simply using it for lack of a better phrase for the characteristics one has come to association with a CG or a little. These CGs and littles enjoy what we would expect them to due to what the internet has led us to believe is “typical.” And there is nothing wrong with that, or wrong not falling into this category.

 

This reason is a real issue from what I have seen in this community. And it happens more than we probably realize, and not just from opposite ends (littles calling CGs fake and vice versa). There is this inherent mindset that if a CG or a little doesn’t act as “expected” from their status, then they are fake. I will give you personal examples that have happened to me on this forum alone. I have been told I was a fake because:

 

• I didn’t call him Daddy right away (from a CG)

• I didn’t identify as a kitten (from a little)

• I didn’t like pink (from littles)

• I didn’t like glitter (from both)

• I liked horror movies over MLP (from both)

• I prefer blue (from boy littles)

 

I was also informed that only real littles would:

 

• Follow their CGs without question (both)

• Speak in little speech (from a CG) the overly annoying speech

• Color every night (from littles)

• Send their Daddy whatever they wanted - sext, pictures, erotica (from both)

• Have sex with their Daddy whenever the Daddy wanted it (from both)

• Love Daddy no matter what he did - even if it hurt me (from both)

• Use pacis, sippies and stuffies (from littles)

• Trust their Daddy and use a diaper (from CGs)

 

And so on. Do you see how all of these things are typical behavior of what the internet has decided is a “real” little? But all of these almost directly go against who I am. Does that make me a fake little? Hell. No. That means I am simply Me and I am a little. End of discussion - and the same goes for CGs. In this category we don’t really use the word “fake,” specifically. What we use is the phrase “well a real little would...” or  “a real Daddy/Mommy would…” and this is just as bad. A reall CG and a real little does exactly whatever makes them happy, comfortable and who they are. There is no mold to fit, no build-a-little or build-a-CG to which statistics are required to be met. Every person is different, which means every little and every CG is different. That is how we are able to have Mommies and little boys - because a DADDY isn’t the only caregiver and GIRLS aren’t the only littles. These differences don’t mean we aren’t real - it means we are all unique individuals who like different things.

 

IF you need a little of CG who matches the cookie cutter form - so what?! Good for you! But that doesn’t mean those who don’t mean that checklist aren’t real. Just like if you need a little or CG who ISN’T like the cookie cutter form, that doesn’t make the others “stereotypes.” It means they simply like things that we would typically associate with that status. Again, no one is fake here. And we need to realize doing something (or not doing something) does not make you more real than any other little or CG. It just makes you, You.

it`s perfect it helped me honestly a lot and relieved me too. Thank u so much for this

 

 

And thank you to all of you ladies and gentlemen for helping me understand, it all makes sense now!

even if i am not like all of you , i needed to know "where you are coming from" and what makes you a little, and you guys all really helped So thank you