Peachiekeen Posted April 26, 2018 Report Posted April 26, 2018 There is a woman I’ve had the pleasure of meeting a few weeks ago. We’ve had a great time in the few weeks I’ve known her although it’s a long distance friendship. She seems like a great mommy... but there’s one thing she forgot to mention up until yesterday. She’s married. Now I don’t know what to say or do going forward. It has been sexual (because we are both consenting adults and I trusted myself to do so.) However I do enjoy just having a mommy figure, but I feel rather... odd about this. I’ve never been “the other woman” and frankly I don’t want to be. At least sexually. I guess what I’m trying to ask is should I still consider this person as a mommy without the sexual aspects of it? Or should I drop this person all together?...
osito Posted April 26, 2018 Report Posted April 26, 2018 Your choice. But that seems like it’s something too important to forget to mention. This dishonesty tends to set the tone for a poisonous relationship(platonic or otherwise), and it’s not worth the risk to continue with it, in my opinion. But if you’re ok with dishonest people, go for it. 1
Guest Zephy Posted April 26, 2018 Report Posted April 26, 2018 There is no such thing as "oops I forgot to mention about that I'm already in a relationship/married". This makes me think her partner doesn't know about the fact she's fooling around. Someone who displays this level of dishonesty, do you honestly see this going anywhere? And do keep asking yourself if you want to be the person that's ultimately is hurting someone else and being a part of all this.
Johnny Hammersticks Posted April 26, 2018 Report Posted April 26, 2018 I would just be afraid that if you continue to let the romatic part of the relationship continue, you will end up being hurt in the end. So I would be protective of my feelings in a situation like this.
Guest Loki Posted April 26, 2018 Report Posted April 26, 2018 (edited) Anyone who doesn’t tell you right away that their married is someone to avoid. It’s a red flag! Run away! They are cheatin’. Edited April 26, 2018 by Loki’s Shadow 1
Guest lalalaluna Posted April 26, 2018 Report Posted April 26, 2018 Oooh, that's tough.. I would go with your gut on this one. If it makes you uncomfy, escape! I sure would. Being married is a big deal, and you're worth so so so so so much more than being someone's secret or other woman.
baby_k Posted April 26, 2018 Report Posted April 26, 2018 I'm on the otherside of this being the married person. I don't go around shouting that I'm married except if it seems like necessary information ( like when I'm trying to find partner: they should know what they are getting involved with ). So, not sure about the circumstances you met, maybe it was not meaningfull then and therefore was not communicated. But if you have already shared intimacy, I do find it rather odd. As it either might mean that she is/was not serious with you (== just some instant fun, no need to bring the messy details out there as it is not supposed to go anywhere ) or she hides stuff (not giving you the full picture before you are hooked, not being honest to her partner...). Neither one of those is too great option. Talk to her and ask what is going on. Is she even allowed to look for other partners? How she sees all that working? 1
Peachiekeen Posted April 26, 2018 Author Report Posted April 26, 2018 Thank you all for your help! If any of you were interested I ended the relationship. 1
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