All Littles ????

[Guest littlegirl707]

Hi Everyone 

 

I am wanting advice,

 

I have friended alot of people and Im wondering why some daddys go so fast in what thery say to you or me. I want friends and I'm so shy at saying dont do that Im uncofortable with that. What do you guys do in situations like that. I dont want to hurt anyones feelings. I was taught not to speak up. Im 45 and I still dont speak up. IT makes me so uncomfportable.

[beta pegasi]

You just gotta be honest and tell them that they're going too fast and you want friends. Adults should be able to understand and if they don't, they're not worth of your time, people come and go and those who are meant to stay, they do, so basically you got nothing to lose.

[Guest Dulci]

Do you mean - go fast as in, wanting a relationship quickly? If so, I honestly say right from the get go that I am not rushing and taking things slow. If they try, just say "sorry, but, this is not right for me". 

I know you say you find it hard to speak up, but your thoughts and opinions are worth saying. You are a valid participate in the conversation! <3 Don't let anyone walk over you!  

[Guest lalalaluna]

Uhm, I used to not say anything but I got hurt a lot doing that.. so now if a Daddy or other big person tells me anything suspect (in this space or the big world), I tell them bluntly, "I don't like that." Its hard, because I don't like upsetting or disappointing people, but you gotta do it to protect yourself. I think a person rushing into a relationship isn't good for you, so its okay in that case.

 

I grew up the eldest of 20 cousins and yknow, if little kids aren't afraid to scream and wail that they don't like something, we shouldn't be either 

[Guest littlegirl707]

Thankyou it was not a realtionship just starting to talk. for some reason I just freeze in any confratation.

 

I know your all right. Im going to try. 

[Guest itsbabygirlbean]

I just flatly say no. Online, if they get persistent with the creepiness, I block them.

[Litalice]

Be honest with people. Yes, honesty hurt people but saying not the truth doesnt make anything better. If you dont want to, say no. If it makes you uncomfportable, say it.

 

I always try to be polite but if it doesnt work, sometimes I need to be a little bit harsh. But thats okay. If they dont get it at the first time, then they are not the right people for you.
 

I hope you take care of you.

[baby_k]

I have similar issues if the other person is still otherwise nice and decent, it can be hard to draw the line on what you are fine with and what not. At least I don't want to bitch about every little thing there is as some faults we need to tolerate. BUT if there is some stuff that you really are not okay with, just say it. Specially as it is most likely an online thing, just write it, close your eyes as you press send, and there you go

It gets easier the more you do it, so take it as practice

[Guest SUeB]

They won't know if you don't tell them. You have to be honest. Difficult doesn't mean impossible.

[Tinka]

by mentioning what i wouldnt tolerate in my profile i have been saved 90%

yes the friend requests are significantly low but at least i know that i do not waste my time with people who would do something that would make me feel uncomfortable and say "noooo we were doing so great, why did you have to turn out on me like that "

So its time saved. 

 

 

ofc there will be also those who do not read profile, and come and do the things you specifically wrote in your profile that you do not tolerate. Eh well, they get deleted immediately and unfriended.

You and i and all of us, can`t afford to spend precious time with people who are not compatible with us. You will not click with everyone but at least you can cut out all those who make you feel weird. 

[Guest Bookish-daddys-girl]

Do you mean when random guys immediately try to call you - baby, LO, little girl, etc? Or try to act like YOUR Daddy wayyyyy too soon? First off, that is a huge red flag that they are "fake". Secondly, have you ever heard that the submissive is always the one in true control? Nothing goes, and the Dominant has absolutely no power or authority over you unless YOU give it to them. Don't be afraid to speak up and say exactly what your boundaries are. The true Daddies and Dominants will appreciate the honesty. As far as the ones that wanna get butt hurt about it, forget them, they don't deserve your time. 

[Guest grumpystrawberry]

You need to be honest and upfront about the fact that they're crossing a line and making you uncomfortable. I know it's difficult, but it's a sign of self respect when you stand up for yourself, and they will learn to respect your limits or leave you alone. If not, you can report them, and it will be solved that way. 

 

Also, if they're pushing you to that point, chances are they're testing to see if they can pressure you into doing things you probably don't want to do for them. It's a red flag that their intentions are not at all innocent, and they are only out to manipulate and abuse their power over the situation. That's not good Dom, much less Daddy dom, etiquette, and it's unacceptable within the BDSM community as a whole. You as a sub, or little, deserve to be treated with respect as a person before anyone has the right to cross into Daddy dom territory. 

 

Just explain to them what you're feeling about whatever it is they're saying or doing, and if they stop fine, if not just ignore them and move on. You deserve better. Good luck!