Can you be a little without feeling like a child inside?

[cloudchild]

Hi, I'm a new little, except, I have doubts.

 

I started 'trying out' DD/lg with an older man I was with, when he found out that I liked being a little girl, being taken care of, owned, protected by and submitting to a Daddy. He started calling me "baby" and him "Daddy" and he played the part. He was not a Dom but he had a teacher/student kink.

 

This time, I'm with a Daddy Dom (and he is super awesome  ) and I'm exploring my little side better. I'm very into cute stuff, cute clothes, cartoons (!!!!!!!!!), coloring (!!!!!!!), stickers (!!!!), I get over excited, I cry easy, clingy, needy - typical little things. But I don't feel like "a child inside" nor did I feel "finally making sense of who I am upon discovering DDlg" nor feeling like "I was always made fun of or didn't seem to fit in because I am like a child", and it makes me question if I am really a little. To add to that, I've never been to "little space." And needless to say, I can't identify an age I regress to, bc I don't feel like I regress.

 

I love little things, like cartoons and coloring and stickers and cute food. I love being taken care of, protected, being owned, submitting, having rules to follow, being checked up on, being reminded that it's my bedtime, having limit on my candy intake, etc. I love having a Daddy who when I'm around, I don't have to be perfect and in control or be tough. With my Daddy I can just be loved and adored - I don't have to be ashamed of showing affection like I usually am, I just have to accept all that love.

 

Somewhere along the way of finding my Daddy, I did some research and found that there are other kinds of Dom/sub relationships, DDlg just being one. I quickly knew that I will not be good for a Master - slave relationship, and a loving, caring Dom is what I'm looking for. This is exactly the relationship I want, it feels right and perfect. I really want to be a little, but do you think I can be a little when I've never felt like a child inside?

 

Sorry it's such a long post. I hope someone responds because it's important to me. Thank you for reading!

[LB Chris]

I would say some of your expressed needs have a lot in common with those of a child as do your interests, it comes over to me more you don't consiously feel like a child but did you (or anyone else for that matter) have that feeling at the time?

Was it more, we just had the life we had thinking little of it, enjoying the moment as ourselves with others of the same age range but not what we call now analyzing it, checking off aspects of it?

[Nia]

It feels different for everyone. The fact that you can get excited about the cute things and coloring and stickers points to you being a little. I have never really been in "little space" that I am aware of. Mostly because I am not sure what it is supposed to feel like It is possible that you are waiting for something to feel different and since it doesn't you don't "feel" little. It may just be a part of you. 

 

I think the experience is different for everyone and I don't think it makes you less of a little that you experience your littleness differently from others. I don't really feel like I regress either, but then it is a hard concept to explain. 

 

If this is the lifestyle that makes you happy and complete then I say you are little if you say you are little.

[ziva vlad's kitten]

i personally think that you are without a doubt a little. You don't have to feel like a child in order to be a little, some people do but it's not required.

When i first started exploring this side of me, i didn't have much of a differentiation line between little space and when i felt like an adult.

as i got more acquainted with this i started to fall in to two different mindsets, adult and little. i have talked to other littles who say they never regress. i started regressing more often and the differentiation became much stronger, now i sometimes fall into little space when i don't want to, so it's not always a good thing, you might be lucky that you don't.

lots of littles regress more easily than other people but most people can, the first time i ever regresed was when a counselor showed me how too.

Its the types of things that you can't force. It may happen sometime when you're feeling really comfortable and safe, or it may never happen for you. It's more likely to happen if you want it to, and less likely if you are afraid of it.

However, whether you do or don't regress is fine, not regressing doesn't make you not a little. What makes a person a little is what they enjoy, not why they enjoy it.

[freckledfawn]

everyone has their own unique experience of being a little! i'm kind of like you, i don't necessarily go through age regression either - i love coloring, watching animated shows/movies, i love stuffies and stickers, etc. but i told someone recently that i don't feel like a child so much as i feel "childish". but i also feel like more of a middle sometimes, so the age range i relate to can fluctuate. for me personally, little space is the pure, simplistic, floaty-contentment i feel when i'm doing something stereotypically little. at its strongest, i feel less like a jaded twenty year old and more unguarded, more vulnerable, maybe a bit more naive. some small part of my "little side" is always awake, it never goes completely dormant; i'm not divided into "little anthea" and "adult anthea", but i'm not always in true little space. but it can be different for you! that's just what i feel.

 

in short, i don't think you have to meet a requirement for little traits to be considered a "true little". i wouldn't give it another thought. if you feel comfortable calling yourself a little, then go for it! it obviously makes you happy, and that's what counts <3

[cloudchild]

Thank you everyone for answering!!! You're all so nice. This has been bothering me for quite a while now so I am super happy I'm not a "fake" or anything. Thank you!!! 

[cloudchild]

Thank you everyone for answering!!! You're all so nice. This has been bothering me for quite a while now so I am super happy I'm not a "fake" or anything. Thank you!!!