Difficulty with Gifts

[Big Daddy Smillie]

So I'm wanting to get my little baby a gift or at least get her something for her but we're LDR and neither the family she lives with nor her friends are aware enough of our relationship for her to really trust them with receiving a gift on her behalf. I'm trying to think of something I can get her without needing to send it to her or something Virtual but I honestly have no idea.

 

Does anybody have any ideas on what I should do?

[Tinka]

yes i have an idea.

 

When i had long distance relationship and my boyfriend had birthday i made a video for him , numbering the reasons (with pictures) why he is awesome and important for me. 

i would write for example " you are awesome because you draw for me little happy faces when i am sad" and i would insert the actual footage  

or because you make a program to help me deal with this / that and i would insert the pic of the program. 

or pic with a food and with his vegetables he has written my name , silly for others, a reason to smile , for me. 

So it is a personal gift, with a lot of thought, feelings and effort and it shows to your partner how much she means to you. 

Upload it on youtube, make it private and send her the link. By having a video private only the ones who have the link can have access to it, so you dont have to worry about third eyes taking a peak on your private moments with your little. 

 

You can also draw something for her, and take a pic of it. Or write a poem, or a fairy tale where she and you will be the stars. If you insert some funny private jokes there, that only you and her can understand it will make it even more awesome. 

I once made a story/poem that only me and him would understand, like a fairy tale. I found pics from google as a backround for my faerie tale video, and uploaded it and showed him. 

Its a creative and thoughtful thing too. 

 

Anyway these are my ideas, i hope you will find the perfect gift Good luck

[Guest Arc]

You could make her a story book about you two, and write the story and draw the pictures yourself. I can't find where I saw it, but a while ago someone shared the most adorable story book they had made for their daddy where they had written and illustrated everything themselves. It was one of the sweetest things I've ever seen. Personalised handmade gifts are so special and meaningful. But if you're wanting something small an online gift card or something could work. I was once sent a movie ticket with snacks already arranged by someone when I was in a LDR. You could do something like that so she can go out to something she wants?

 

Is there no other way you can send her something physical, if that's what you wanted? I don't know what things are like elsewhere, but where I live if you put something on the courier you can ring up and ask for it to be held for collection at the post office rather than being delivered. They have the option for if you're not going to be home to sign for it on the day. If you can do that you could have it held and have her go pick up her present. It's not as much of a surprise, but if you wanted to send her something that could be a way to do it. 

[WanderingWonderland]

Firstly, if you did want to send her something, there is no reason you can't. So long as it is properly sealed up and clearly addressed to her, she can easily explain a package away as a treat she's bought for herself or items she's bought for people's birthdays, and therefore, it's a secret and she can't reveal the contents.  

 

But, if you want to go a more 'virtual' route ...

 

What are her favourite stories? Could you buy copies, take a picture of them, send it to her and ask if she would like a bedtime story? You could call/FaceTime and read to her while she settles to sleep.

 

What are her favourite songs? What songs remind you of her or express your feelings for her? Could you put a playlist together and send it to her?

 

Are you creative in any way? Are you good at drawing/painting/writing/singing/playing an instrument? I'm sure she would love it if you made her something.

 

Do you exchange pictures? What about doing '7 days of smiles'? Send her a big goofy picture of yourself each day for a week, the minute she first pops into your head. Let her know you're smiling because of her and you wanted her to know that. Likewise, you could spam her with messages for a day every time you think about her - keep count and let her know what you're thinking/how it's made you feel.

 

I'll echo the poster above and suggest writing a heartfelt list - 'Why I think you're special', 'All the reasons you matter to me', etc.

[Big Daddy Smillie]

Thanks for the recommendation! There are reasons outside of the people around her knowing about the gifts that keep me from sending her them directly which I'd prefer to keep between us, and I'm not known for my creativity, however I do think with some of the inspiration you guys have given me I can work something out.

 

Thank you so much! 

[MellyBoo19912015]

Depends what she likes. Personally I would be happy with an Amazon voucher via email and buy myself all those ebooks I keep putting off lol

[Bluebells]

I think a list of why you love her or why she's important to you is a good idea, you could add pictures of you both. Or a story you've written about you both, about the future, or the day you first met.

 

What other things is she into? What about a Netflix subscription for a month? Or if she's studying, membership with an organisation related to her field of study?

[Guest grumpystrawberry]

You could buy her a subscription to a website or app, like Netflix or Spotify. If she likes to read and has Kindle, or anything like that, you could buy her an eBook that you think she'd like. It really depends on her interests. 

 

If you want to make it more personal, then you could make a video of you reading her bedtime stories or something along those lines.

 

Good luck in finding her the perfect gift! : )