I always feel like I am doing something wrong.

[Guest KhaleesiKettle]

I am constantly asking for reassurance. Even if there is no way that I could have done anything wrong I feel that I have. What do you do to help yourself calm down or reassure yourself before asking your daddy?

[Angel24]

I completely get what you're feeling! Sometimes a Daddy's reassurance is the best thing:) but maybe you could also remind/think to yourself of what your Daddy would tell you if you did go to him. To put yourself first though, maybe you find ways to learn how not to be so hard on yourself...which I know is easy said than done:p I hope it works out:)

[Guest PinkieBinkie]

Just trust that if you have done something wrong, that he will bring it to your attention. Voice your concerns with him. Remind yourself what you just told us. "I am constantly asking for reassurance even if there is no way I could have done anything wrong." Confidence comes from within. You have to learn to accept and love yourself enough that you don't have to constantly worry about messing up. Everyone messes up every now and then. But you can't constantly worry about it, sweetie. I know, especially being a rather emotional girl myself, that it can be really difficult to deal with feeling like you're not a good little. But you just have to do your best to believe in yourself that you aren't always messing up.

 

Yes, reassurance from others, including your daddy, may help a bit, but you can't make it that he has to give you that reassurance constantly. It may make him feel insecure as well. He may think he isn't being a good daddy. It's all about communication.

 

I hope this was helpful <3

[WanderingWonderland]

Oh poppet, it's hard being little sometimes, isn't it? We get all filled up with worries and it can be hard to know just what to do with them!

 

My advice? Take a deep breath. Do some internal digging and try and find out where this insecurity is coming from. Is it a lack of confidence that is blanketing your life in general, or is it solely related to feelings within your DD/lg dynamic?

[Guest Little Otter]

For me, even in vanilla relationships I tell the woman early on that I deal with insecurities and may need a lot of validation and reassurance at times. It's only been an issue a handful of times, so I just go straight to my SO for validation. If I dont have an SO, then I try to distract myself because I know those feelings are fleeting and will pass.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

It might be a personality type thing. In which case, you are gonna have to deal with this for the rest of your life

 

Having a strong network of friends helps more than I can say. That way, you can ask them for advice or reassurance.

 

Other than that, hobbies to take pride in accomplishments will boost your confidence. And therapy is always a good option if you have health insurance. Therapists will have self-esteem exercises and activities.