How do I get daddy to commit?

[PrincessOfTheUnicorns]

Daddy and I have to keep our “relationship” a secret due to family etc. Our families are close and we see each other almost everyday but we can only meet up every couple of weeks and actually be together as ourselves. I hate the secrecy but I understand why we have to do it.

 

How do I tell daddy how I feel without scaring him away or making it weird?

 

I’m so confused and so scared of losing him

 

Please help me x

[Guest DaddySadist]

Well, without knowing the exact reason you have to keep it a secret from your families I couldn't give super good advice.

 

The best thing I can tell you is tomsuggest to him you try finding more time rom be together as you need.

 

Or if the ability to do so is there then perhaps both of you move to an area away from your families.

[Guest Teena]

true, i got the same question, why do you guys keep it a secret from your families?

[PrincessOfTheUnicorns]

I don’t know if it is me that he wants to keep a secret or our style of relationship. I want to be with him, I have such strong feelings, but I don’t think I can tell him out of fear of how he will react

[Guest DaddySadist]

Well if it's the style, that can be kept a secret still.....a few here hide the ddlg side of things from their families.

 

If it's you, well that's a whole other issue.

 

Approach him and ask which it is, politely of course, and if it's you then obviously he's not the right person.

[Guest Teena]

I don’t know if it is me that he wants to keep a secret or our style of relationship. I want to be with him, I have such strong feelings, but I don’t think I can tell him out of fear of how he will react

 why would he want to keep you a secret?

[PrincessOfTheUnicorns]

I hope he doesn’t. I know this is a conversation I have to have with him, but I’m so so scared x

[Guest supermanearthtwo]

 why would he want to keep you a secret?

 

If it's the lifestyle, most people won't understand it.  If he is keeping her a secret it's probably because he doesn't want to commit long term but likes using her right now.  

[Little Illy]

Nothing can change unless you talk to him.

 

This is a HIGHLY MATURE dynamic and requires every person who partakes in it, to handle it like an adult. If you are too scared to discuss it now, that can be a big issue. THere are so many elements that need to be discussed to keep a dynamic like this thriving.

 

Until you sit down, as an adult and out of little space, with him and express your concerns to him, you wont be happy. No matter if he is hiding the dynamic or hiding you, you owe it to yourself to discuss the issues. Otherwise you will be living a life of anxiety.

Edited April 20, 2018 by Little Illy

[Guest BabyPeach]

I don’t know if it is me that he wants to keep a secret or our style of relationship. I want to be with him, I have such strong feelings, but I don’t think I can tell him out of fear of how he will react

 

Right now, you aren't with him.  You are a DDlg fling.  Basically, what do you have to lose??? I mean, think about it.....what do you actually HAVE?  Someone who isn't even willing to have a regular relationship with you in front of your families? There's something wrong with that.  Remember, you can NEVER, EVER make someone want you.  They either will or they won't and that's on them.  It has nothing to do with you.  

 

You want more than what he's giving you.  Talk to him and be up front.  You are 26 years old.  You can do it.  If he isn't even willing to be with you in a regular relationship, MOVE ON. Obviously, even in a regular relationship the DDlg aspect is kept private between the two people.  Yes, it will hurt, but in the long run you want to be so special to someone that they will be proud to be with you.......in front of their friends and family and coworkers and strangers and everyone.  THAT is what you deserve.  Right now you're basically like a side chick.....hidden away and only taken out to play when it's convenient.  If he isn't willing to say: this is my girlfriend, then you need to have enough self pride to move on and find someone who IS willing.

[neko]

Honestly it really concerns me that you can't vocalize your problems withouy thinking your daddy might leave or some other awful outcome. I think you two really need to work on your communication.

[Guest SUeB]

This sounds awful. You're a secret and you can't talk to him about your worries. Why exactly do you believe this is the best you deserve? Is this seriously good enough for you?