Feeling big or little without a partner

[Ally750]

So for a while now I’ve been single and it’s really hard for me to find someone that I can connect with both emotionally and sexually. I find that sometimes I really just want so badly to submit to someone. (Quick aside about me I am a total masochist and I crave pain.) my problem is that I, for good reason, can’t trust a stranger that I met on like tinder to guide me through my subspace. What are some things that you all do as subs or doms to help yourself feel better. I just feel so lost when I’m not submitting to someone.

[Child Of Light]

Subspace is a very delicate space to be in. It's a space that typically you only can 'get into' when you completely trust the person (it's what makes it so special). Have you explored platonic non-sexual D/s or DD type dynamics to submit (even online) to help with your needs?

[Guest Arc]

Have you looked around your local community on Fetlife? I'd feel safer on Fetlife than tinder because you can find people active in your local community that have a bunch of people who can vouch for them, and there's the opportunity to play the first time in an event where people are watching/monitoring safety. 

 

I understand the feeling of being lost. I find routine helps, and so does trying new things and learning about yourself. Both sexual and non sexual things. Try not to focus on feeling lost and focus on yourself for once. As amazing as it is to submit, you also have to be your own person and there's always more to learn about yourself <3