How to help my LDR little

[Hidden Daddy]

Hello,

 

As it said in the title above I need help .. my little princess recenty had her depression kick in again and I don't know how to exactly help her and I feel like I'm not doing a good enough job... Are there any ways I might be able to help her?

 

Thank you in advance for your assistance.

[Guest EveryNameHere]

It's hard to tell since there are so many different forms of depression, that you can't really generalize help.

 

I'd suggest firstly to be there for her and show her that. Talk to her (if voice or even video calls are possible), play with her and distract her from these thoughts. Try to bring all her attention on you and make it clear that you care for her in that situation.

Do stuff that she enjoys together and comfort her as much as possible.

 

It's on you to try to find out what causes or triggers her depression kicks and find a way to avoid it or.

Also do take it very seriously and consider even getting professional help for her if you're not sure if you can help her alone!

 

I wish the best for both of you

[Guest ScorpioBeastWolf]

Start by learning about depression and how to talk about it. But as you reach out, don’t forget to look after your own emotional health. Thinking about your own needs is not an act of selfishness—it’s a necessity. Your emotional strength will allow you to provide the ongoing support your depressed littles needs.

Remember that being a compassionate listener is much more important than giving advice. You don’t have to try to “fix” the person; you just have to be a good listener. Often, the simple act of talking can be an enormous help to someone suffering from depression. Encourage the depressed person to talk about their feelings, and be willing to listen without judgment.

 

Don’t expect a single conversation to be the end of it. Depressed people tend to withdraw from others and isolate themselves. You may need to express your concern and willingness to listen over and over again. Be gentle, yet persistent.

If you both are in Ldr get to make her call you or you call her and be in video chat where see can look into your eyes and know you are with her and not avoiding her. Your eyes need to be in contact with her, as if you are both near and not far.

I wish she recovers soon, wishing you both all the very best. Sending positive vibes to both of you.

[Guest RoyG]

The people above me already did a great job explaining stuff, but I really wanted to pay special attention to one thing:

 

 I feel like I'm not doing a good enough job... 

 

Never, for a single moment, internalize this feeling that you're not good enough for a depressed person. They may not express it, and you may not see direct results, but I feel confident in saying that given that you worry so much you posted here, you're doing the best you can. They know this and appreciate it.

[Child Of Light]

Is she in therapy? Please make sure she gets the medical help she needs! Depression can be a very serious thing. Can you go to therapy with her -- it can show her you care (even if its through voice call).

Edited April 17, 2018 by Child Of Light

[Guest Little Otter]

The people above me already did a great job explaining stuff, but I really wanted to pay special attention to one thing:

 

 

 

Never, for a single moment, internalize this feeling that you're not good enough for a depressed person. They may not express it, and you may not see direct results, but I feel confident in saying that given that you worry so much you posted here, you're doing the best you can. They know this and appreciate it.

Ill reiterate this point cuz its important. I suffer depression too, and it can be difficult for the SO to deal with. Dont internalize it, and dont take it personally! Depression is/can be an illness, and prevelant even in the best scenarios. You can be the greatest person ever to your little, but depression can kick in for no reason whatsoever.

[Princesspoopybutt]

The people above me already did a great job explaining stuff, but I really wanted to pay special attention to one thing:

 

 

Never, for a single moment, internalize this feeling that you're not good enough for a depressed person. They may not express it, and you may not see direct results, but I feel confident in saying that given that you worry so much you posted here, you're doing the best you can. They know this and appreciate it.

 

I'm just gunna push tis as my daddy feels the same way when I can't speak or move he feels like he isn't helping at all esspetially when my cat comes and forces me to stroke him so I have to move daddy feels like he isn't good enough but honestly just him being on the phone with me not saying anything just being there and wanting me to speak and just being patient is the best thing he does in that momment