Help!

[Guest Babytitan]

A friend's littles friend keeps going back same abusive guy, how can we make her realise that it's not good for her and it would be better to find a nicer Daddy?

[Guest SpNfan89]

If you mean they are being physically abusive I recommend contacting local law enforcement. Or at the very least the national domestic violence hotline (if you're in the USA) at 1−800−799−7233 and at 0808 2000 247 if you're in the UK. 

If they are being emotionally abusive unfortunately the only thing you can do is be there for her till she realizes on her own accord they aren't a suitable match. Trying to convince them that they are a bad match will put the onus of the breakup on you (or whomever is successful in convincing her) so when those inevitable moments of self doubt happen she can rationalize it as "well THEY convinced me to break up with him it wasn't really my decision. Maybe I should give him another chance" 

It's a fine line, I wish you and your friend the best of luck. 

Edited April 16, 2018 by SpNfan89

[CaresAlot]

The US government has a website for women's health.  The website is full of great information on all sorts of women's health issues.  womenshealth.gov

Since this is a government program its free and there is nothing they are trying to sell you.

They have a section under Health and Wellness then Relationships and Safety.  They have a list of things you can do to help somebody that is being abused.  It also gives resources and other things that are available.

 

This person is caught up in what is called the Cycle of Abuse and is why people keep going back to one who is abusive.  There are really good articles out there on this Cycle of Abuse.  One of the contributing factors is that the women (or men) have no other option but to go back.  They don't have the skills or finances to go out on their own.  They don't have friends or family to help them get out of the cycle.  Abusers like to isolate their victims.  No matter how good of person you are with in the relationship, things change.  Make sure that you are not trapped.  Do this by learning a skill that is always in demand such as medical or computer (IT) are two great areas.  Have some money that you control, that you can use if you ever need to.  Make sure to keep in contact with friends and family.  If they know you are in trouble most families will put everything else aside and be there for you.